Reading to see life | Psychology classic "Mr. Toad goes to see a psychologist"

Use fairy tales to interpret the psychological counseling process, heal and change.

Psychologist: "We can really work together when you're doing it for yourself and not for others ."

self-awareness

"How are you feeling today?"

Regardless of the language, people usually respond intuitively by "going through the greeting process". However, after giving yourself a little time to think, the answer is often not a simple "good, thanks."

Knowing your own emotional reactions will help you better grasp your state at every moment, find out the reasons, and try to adjust, which will help you avoid falling into emotional traps and achieve better understanding and management of yourself.

mood thermometer

If you don’t know the exact words to describe your mood for a while, think in terms of fractions!

One point is terrible, tenth is very happy, think about how much you are at the moment?

mental state

In a successful life, all three states are indispensable.

child self status

Freud: "Wherever the id is, the ego follows."

Childhood is a key clue to knowing yourself.

The child is the father of man.

The child's self-state consists of the remnants of childhood and contains the emotions of childhood experiences.

1. Natural Child: The sum of the child's basic emotions (happiness, enthusiasm, anger, sadness, fear).
2. Adaptive Child: Adjusts natural behavior to the environment, possibly at the expense of personal traits.

The above two states are compared to different colors, and when mixed, it is an individual's child state, which can still be in this state regardless of actual age.

Adult Ego State

A particularly important state, only at this time can you have a new understanding of yourself.

Being able to plan, consider, decide and act, and behave rationally and rationally, all knowledge and skills will come in handy.

No one can force someone to enter adult state, that is, whether to enter adult state can only be decided by oneself.

parental self status

1. Critical Parents: Like judges who judge themselves.
2. Nurture Parents: They are better at taking care of themselves.

Being in this state, usually criticizing or educating, repeats ideas or values learned by the parents.

mind games

Don't win the game and lose yourself.

The worldview shaped early in life is about life position

Ask your five-year-old self two questions

1. How do you think about yourself? are you okay?
2. What do you think of others? Are they good?

I am good, others are good

Believe in yourself and in others.

It is a dynamic rather than static state that needs to be continuously expressed through behavior and attitude.

I am good, others are not good

Say, "Why do you keep letting me down?"

Self-confessed better than others, will criticize, criticize or attack others, and even get angry in the game.

When you have power and power, you will play the NIGYYSOB game, that is, Now I've got you, you son of b***h. Just to prove that others are incompetent and unreliable, and blame and punishment are their own duties.

I'm not good, others are good

Some people do their best to remember sad and unpleasant things and forget or ignore good times.

Low self-esteem, thinking that others are better than you, easily turn yourself into a victim.

People of this type are convinced that they are unfortunate, and often cast themselves into the tragic roles of Poor Little Old Me (PLOM), performing miserable lives.

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I'm not good, others are not good

Perhaps the result of childhood frustrations and dissatisfaction.

Looking to the future

Psychological status isn't just a choice, it's a commitment, a lifetime commitment.

After exploring, repairing and integrating, Mr. Toad took care of the property under his name, dressed himself up, and had dinner with friends.

During the dinner, everyone shared future plans one after another, and each friend found the future direction or life meaning, and Toad will also face the future freely and calmly.

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