In the third year of high school this year, I got into the best high school, but I don't want to work hard.

Before starting this article, let me give you some background.

A few days ago, I received a request from a senior high school student in the backstage of my WeChat public account. In fact, I never thought that there were high school students among my readers. Let me call him Xiao A. It has been more than 48 hours since I saw these messages, so I have no way to reply to the other party.

Therefore, this article is not only written for friends who want to improve their "learning" ability and lose their "hard work" fighting spirit, but also for Xiao A, I hope you can see it.

Hello, little A:

Glad you were willing to send me your own confusion. I can read between the lines of your words and feel your pain and struggle at the moment. You want to change the status quo but you are at a loss. Maybe if you really want to give up, then you won't pay attention to my public account, let alone leave these psychological words in the background.

In life, there will be ups and downs. I went through a period of rebelliousness when I was in middle school. I saw with my own eyes that girls who were at the top of my hierarchy countless times became bad boys at a certain stage, skipped classes and dropped out of school to join nightclubs, and finally entered vocational high school and stepped into society early. Perhaps, as an "other" at that time, she would think she was cool and unique. Ten years later, when I go to recall that girl back then, it is mostly regretful.

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Have you thought about it? Why do we need to be "schooled"?

If achievement is measured by stepping into the society and earning more money, then why bother to go to college entrance examination or even university now? Wouldn't it be enough to accumulate social experience earlier?

Actually, I've thought about it before. Exam-oriented education in China forces us to study these subjects and acquire knowledge, so that the value of a person's life at the student stage is determined by textbook editors and test question designers. Even their selection and questions directly determine my position and value in the hearts of my classmates, and affect my temperament development. Am I willing to be manipulated by these people for my own mental health and sense of worth?

What is it that determines our success or failure? Who will judge our worth of life? Is society measured by performance? If so, will these people be responsible for how much I earn in the future? Can I be responsible for my future?

I don't know if you have the same idea? So much so that you want to use the "gaokao" as an experiment.

However, when I came into contact with more and more knowledge, I understood a truth:

Education in school is not essentially about "scores", but to develop your ability to "learn" while acquiring knowledge. It's just that "score" becomes the only path to the test. Exams or quizzes are not goal tools, but learning tools. This tool is applicable to almost all disciplines.

Let's take "Chinese" as an example. The simple understanding of "Chinese" is nothing more than "teaching students the ability to master the application of language and writing". Any book with words can be called a 'language textbook'. But have you thought about it? The articles you see now are carefully selected and presented. They not only teach students how to speak and write easily, but also play the role of the government's ideological education.

The so-called 'the text carries the Tao' is the truth.

So, have you been curious about the middle school textbooks in the Republic of China? At that time, the textbooks were filled with a lot of advanced Western philosophical ideas. At that time, "Cai Yuanpei, Hu Shi, and Xu Zhimo were all helping to introduce advanced Western ideas to the Chinese, and Xu Zhimo also went to the UK to be a student of Russell." The whole Chinese education is open contention.

When you read Chinese, you might as well think about it: Is the content presented in the textbook what you want? As an independent personality, is your vision for the future consistent with your current teaching goals?

Another example is learning mathematics. Mathematics is a very good tool for thinking training and the cultivation of logical ability. Likewise, learning English is an invaluable ability for acquiring information. At least fluency in English is a huge plus in this globalized international environment. You know, most of my sources of information and knowledge come from language.

If you can figure out these issues, figure out your goals and directions, and know what you want, you will naturally not need to take the domestic college entrance examination, or even compete for a domestic diploma, and follow the baton of the Ministry of Education. You have a choice, start from the "self-destiny" as the center point, and raise the perspective of "lifelong strategy" to think about the content of the future textbooks.

What do you want yourself to look like, and what nutrients do you think will help you the most to gain a foothold in society in the future, then look for content to learn. You can even skip the gap of "college entrance examination" and go directly to the vast world of life.

So, I want you to think about your goals and your current situation early on. Learn to understand.

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Next, I want to tell you a very important word - "self-awareness" .

Adolescence creates a "self-awareness", but no one guides your search for "self". Teachers and parents seem to use "grades" as a single element to put pressure on you. But it is very important to establish "self-awareness" as early as possible. This is a person who perceives and thinks seriously and finds that "self" is an independent life completely separated from "others", and firmly understands that only "I" Be truly responsible for "my life".

Your life is yours, you only live once. And your life story is written in your own footprints, no one else's. Therefore, only "you" can truly be responsible for yourself, and you can only bear the joys and sorrows alone. The only things you can control yourself are your brain and your feet.

Every young life is like a pile of raw materials, and the process of reaching adulthood is the process of turning from raw materials into products, which is basically irreversible and has a strong timeliness. People are like a bottle of glue that opens the cap, the viscosity decreases over time, and the state continues to solidify.

You might as well imagine that now you are a bottle of glue that has been opened and is very sticky. When you know how to think and suddenly realize that you are in the process of rapid solidification, you will start to ask a series of questions: "What shape do I hope to have in the future? So you will grab time and have the idea of designing your own future model.

After all, no one wants to pass away in their time, and when they look back, they find that they are still a pile of raw materials, and even basically solidified. At that time, apart from regrets, what is left?

Life is always full of difficult choices, either to endure for a while, and then to be happy for a lifetime;

When people think about their daily behavior, they will naturally disassemble or pursue the meaning of the behavior, and then discover the core of the behavior. When you do the same action again, doubts will emerge in a light or heavy way, which gives rise to a sense of absurdity.

The sense of absurdity will prevent oneself from choosing an irrational path, triggering a series of thinking and correction. Therefore, many irrational behaviors are most afraid of thinking. When they are sorted out by correct thinking, it will be difficult for them to return to the original state of tangled and confused errors. Change is inevitable, and benign changes will lead to deeper thinking and revision. This is the chain reaction behind the behavior.

The French philosopher Sartre said: "No matter what fate and circumstances make you, once you realize this state at a certain moment, and after a process of inspection and reflection, you can no longer be calm and return to the original unconsciousness. The way it was."

Because, no matter what happened to you in the past, how ugly you were tortured by the environment, the results of those outside worlds can only be accepted. Because those are non-conscious, passively received.

The point is, when free will emerges and you realize the status quo, you will be responsible for all your future actions from now on.

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Although you are now in the third year of high school, maybe your comprehensive knowledge is only at the junior high school level. When you turned eighteen years old, if you can't go to university, then you will directly step into the society, and you may be able to walk your life path because your foundation is too weak. getting harder.

But don't be too anxious. Existentialism believes that when people live in the present, only by acknowledging the present and looking to the future are the actions of the strong.

Maybe at the moment, you missed too much, but not enough time window completely closed. As long as you work hard, you can chase it, but if you don't want to work hard, close your eyes and directly sentence yourself to life.

Everyone is initially shaped by 'others' and circumstances. A person is born like an empty bucket, someone will stuff it into it. When you were a child, your bucket had a weak sense of autonomy and was completely passive. However, when you grow up to reflect on 'what really works for you', your selection and refinement of food is bound to happen.

Of course, you can't pour out all the original things, because some of them can't be poured out all at once. You need to face up and take stock of those bad habits and thoughts that you spurn but become addicted to.

Well, maybe when you're done doing your inventory, you're frustrated that you've found half a bucket of muddy water in your stomach. So, from now on, check on yourself and put in what you think is right. Admit that the muddy water before is still there, but you filter the muddy water and mix good things in it. As long as you make unremitting efforts to blend and accumulate more, the overall improvement is certain. To make unremitting progress towards this goal is the attitude of the strong.

With your current situation, it is difficult to compete with other peers on the road of taking the college entrance examination. After all, we must respect reality and cannot build goals out of thin air. People who don't pay attention to real conditions will only talk on paper and waste time in vain.

It is like a car engine that has been in stock for many years and has not been used much. Before starting the ignition, you must add oil. Run first, then ignite, slowly heat, and gradually heat up. Debris needs to be cleaned up after a run. Just like the traditional Chinese saying 'consolidate the foundation and cultivate the vitality', you need to take it slowly. If the steps are too hasty, it is very likely that you will have a strong sense of frustration and collapse.

The knowledge structure of people is actually like building blocks. If you really want to stack up to 10 layers quickly, you don’t need a lot of miscellaneous things to get to the bottom. People who have methods can follow a simple path to achieve their goals, saving time and effort. Raised to that height. For example, mathematics, English, thinking ability, etc., as long as you really understand the advanced logic path, you can take the path of streamlining.

When learning anything, it's important to find a good way, and a good way can help you be more efficient. Regarding the learning method, I will write it separately in the next article, so I will not expand it here.

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Finally, I would like to say:

If you are unwilling to be mediocre and ambitious, and you can understand that neither your parents nor your school can provide you with sufficient growth nutrients, then the cheapest way to break through your limitations is to read freely.

Books are not ordinary commodities, but a channel of knowledge that is basically fair to all. For those who are confined to poverty, it is a long ladder to help you climb over the wall; for those who are in a narrow valley, it is the fairest tool to cross the wealth class, the gap between famous schools, and the social class.

I hope you have access to and enjoy the knowledge of psychology, sociology and philosophy in addition to professional courses. They are too important for future life development. It can be said that the knowledge structure in the brain determines your future career options and life planning.

Reading, thinking, and correcting, combined with a determined pace, is the best way to break through obstacles and get closer to your goals. As long as the pace is firm enough, teachers, tuition fees, famous schools, homework, parents, friends, experience, etc. are just some means of growth. Don't be stumbled or trapped by these links.

Achieving life goals = finding a path + unswerving action

You have to believe that there is a huge amount of nuclear energy lurking in everyone, but most people fail to discover it during the critical period of life. Once discovered and developed, there will be tremendous power and efficiency.

Don't use emotional or moral scales before thinking about problems, let "rationality" and "coolness" come first.

When you look at your own learning, growth, life and the external world from a new perspective, when you look deeply, many of the original appearances will disappear.

We are helpless because of our spiritual cowardice. When you want to become a hero, you are destined to step over from your own soul.

Wish you all the best.

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