"High Sensitivity is a Talent" Reading Experience

When I first opened this book, there is a high-sensitivity self-test form for testing. You can scan the QR code to enter the online test (to test your sensitivity ), and then it will help you calculate the total score, and my score will be directly over 100 :)

• Book Information

Title: "High Sensitivity is a Talent"

Author: Ilse Sand

Translator: Lu Yingxuan

Publishing: Sancai Culture

ISBN: 978-986-342-851-0

• The book mentions (highly sensitive):

Growing up in a stressful environment , they are more prone to illness and accidents than the average child. But in contrast, if these children grow up in ordinary environments , they will be less likely to get sick than ordinary children, and they will be less likely to encounter accidents. —p.30

I agree with this description. Since I was a child, I have been injured only a handful of times. The most serious injury was a small car accident that occurred a while ago. I had to have three stitches. Mom said (in terms of car accident) I'm lucky, it's a minor injury.

The part of getting sick actually fits very well. I often get sick after returning from a trip, or get infected when someone around me has a cold or flu. For me, traveling is to leave my comfort zone and go to an unfamiliar environment (a stressful environment). If I travel with my family It doesn't matter much, but it's not okay to spend the night with classmates like Bi Lu, and he will definitely fall ill when he comes back. (weird, right?)

Many highly sensitive people have expressed that they hate being at the scene of a quarrel very much. This is because they will quickly feel the pressure at the moment, and can quickly detect the relationship that is not right in the surrounding atmosphere . —p.55

I was at the scene where two classmates were arguing, and I happened to be in a bad condition that day. In the end, I couldn’t take it anymore. I felt stuffy in my chest and dizzy. I just felt uncomfortable, but in retrospect I just felt inexplicable (after all, their quarrel had nothing to do with me), maybe the subconscious couldn't stand the pressure at that time.

If it is a person who can talk about common interests, one-on-one or a small in-depth conversation, it will be very happy for them. Rather than struggling to fit into a large group , they're more likely to attend smaller gatherings that don't need to be too formal. —p.67

Yes, will be very happy. For me, I'm not someone who dare not speak, I even love to chat, but in large occasions, I don't want to speak, how to describe it... It's a bit like the feeling of oppression when the weak face the majority , I will feel that others are a group of people and I am a person, but I like a person, so in such an environment, I will always maintain such an ambivalence.

On the contrary, in a small class of five, I will always be the first to speak. I will respond to the teacher's questions and take the initiative to talk to the people around me. Although there are strangers around me, it is far more important than in the original class. comfortable.

Highly sensitive people are always tolerant towards others , but extremely strict towards themselves . —p.76

The concept of "treating others leniently and being strict with oneself" may have been taught by parents at first, or just mentioned casually by teachers, but gradually it has become a code of conduct for oneself, and even in the end, it is not others who hurt oneself, but oneself .

The real reason for setting high standards for yourself is low self-esteem . —p.77

This paragraph mentions the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem - self-confidence is a belief in one's own abilities, self-esteem is a heart that believes in self-worth.

I can say for sure that I am a confident but inferior person, I believe that I can do better than others, but I am worried that I am not good enough, now I know what I think inferiority is not inferiority, its name is self-esteem , I have a sudden realization. It turns out that I have been denying myself all the time. I believe in others and my ability, but I don't believe in myself.

• excerpts

Give up following the rules that become shackles and you can be yourself. When you are no longer bound by the rules of immutability, your scope of action becomes wider and wider. —p.87

The moment you accept reality, anger turns to sadness. —p.137

Grief is the only way to go. When "healthy grief" lasts for a while, you can release your feelings of loss, dry your tears, and start looking for new possibilities. —p.140

Reconciliation with oneself is a required course in life, not only for highly sensitive people, but also for everyone. —p.205

Old wounds can be healed, and the love that was lacking in childhood can be made up for by yourself. —p.209

• Reading experience

Exploring the heart is not an easy task, but we can learn about ourselves in many ways. Reading is one of them. The process of reading is relaxing and pleasant, so we can hear our inner voice better when reading.

For some people, it's easy to love others, but difficult to love yourself. They can easily give all the love to their family, but hesitate in themselves; they reach out to help others, but they dare not call for help Signals; they forgive their wrongdoers but never let themselves go; they comfort their crying friends but forget to embrace themselves...

If you can, tell those well-behaved children "you can be a little bit more willful".