Re-Know Yourself (3): Find Your Own Values

In this article, I will let you know about values . When you see the three words of values , you will feel very abstract . Yes, I feel the same way.

Why would I focus my articles on values?

Since I had problems with interpersonal relationships, I noticed that I had negative emotions and readjusted my mentality. I wrote many articles to think about life, reflect on myself, and deeply understand what it is like to know myself? I think this time is a good opportunity to learn about myself. I have lived for more than 20 years and have not stopped to think about myself and have a dialogue with myself.

Without further ado, let's go straight to the topic.

What are values?

Values are personal evaluations and opinions about the importance of things . It has a great influence on life patterns and can influence one's positions, actions and decisions . When faced with a choice that cannot have both, our value orientation is obvious.

How are our values formed?

• Family members (parents/siblings)
• School (Teacher/Classmate)
• friend
• Mass Media (Newspaper/Magazine/TV/Internet)
• Commercial practice (Internet articles or advertisements)
• Sociocultural (national culture)
• religious belief
• Personal experience (growth process)
• gender roles

Values are constantly developed and established, and they will vary as an individual grows , the people around them or the environment changes . We can increase our understanding of different values by reflecting on ourselves , analyzing our views and choices about things around us, and paying more attention to what others think about different things .

When we make judgments, we are not only affected by personal value orientation, but also by environmental factors and the current state of mind . Therefore, when we face important decisions and challenges in our daily life, we must pay more attention. We must first consider the consequences of the event and analyze it carefully before making a decision . Also be mindful of the following principles, including: do not harm others, do not harm yourself, do not destroy, and whether your actions will have positive consequences for yourself, others, or society.

Have you ever wondered what is the most important thing in your life?

The higher the priority, the more you value it. This little activity helps you sift through the things in your life and decide who you become and what kind of life you live.

I came across an article today where they gave me a list of values to figure out what I felt was most important.

The list has 75 values, including: love, friendship, freedom, influencing others, and more.

1. Read twice and select values

Take a moment to go through each option, think about what each value means to you , and tick the ones that you think are most important. The first time, there is no need to compare which value is more important, no need to rank, just tick the 15 to 25 most meaningful values .

2. Choose the most important value

This is the third time reading the list of values, this time narrowing it down to tick off the 10-15 most important values . This time, you have to choose carefully. If you think this thing is really important, choose it!

3. Final inspection list and sorting

This is the last time I go through the list, pick the top 10 values , and then rank them .

In the end, 10 values will shape your life, and you will prioritize them, prioritize these things, or prioritize your enjoyment of life. From this small activity, you can help you find your own values . Maybe you will act in accordance with these values unknowingly and live a life that belongs to you.

Let me share with you my list of values! Haha, so many colors.

The first stage was filled with red, followed by yellow, green, and the final version was blue. I specially chose a blue box to display my values, so that everyone can see it clearly.

Sorting is:

1. family
2. hapiness
3. healthy
4. time
5. money
6. free
7. Love
8. trust
9. ability
10. growing up

family

From this list of values, I can see that I put my family first, because family is always the person who can accompany you the most in your life . Of course, aside from the fact that some people have their original family influence, it depends on how people feel and value their family.

hapiness

I believe that happiness can bring happiness , and no one likes you when you frown or send out negative energy every day. It is people who like the smile on your face and the happiness from the heart that they want to know you and be friends with you. This is very important.

healthy

Life is long and you never know how long you will live, but health is the most important thing. I like Work Life Balance . In addition to making money at work, I also need to keep myself active in my spare time, exercise, eat healthy food, and maintain an optimistic attitude in order to stay healthy. You can live as long as you don't get sick!

time

Money can't buy time , every minute will pass, you can never make up for the lost time , unless the world really has time to go back! Do whatever you want while you're young, as long as it's not illegal. If I have time, I hope to spend time doing what I like, making more happy memories with the people I like, and going on a trip.

money

I was born in Hong Kong and grew up in Hong Kong. I can’t live without money . Prices in Hong Kong are very expensive. Money can only survive , although money cannot buy time, but money can buy food , the most important thing is to fill your stomach, right? I spend most of my money on food, followed by transportation expenses. Recently, I bought books and courses to add value to myself.

free

I love freedom! Although I live a very free life by myself, I can go wherever I want and eat whatever I want. How wonderful to be a bird that can fly and walk! It's a pity that some people will be trapped and bound by his family members and partners, and there is no free space for them to escape, right?

Love

Love the word, more than that, right? It's an unfamiliar word to me. Although I grew up in a single-parent family and lacked maternal love in the process of growing up, my family members indirectly gave me a lot of things that I need materially, but I don’t know what it is about non-material things.

In addition, I live alone, go everywhere, and also for people who are not in love, is this normal? With love, can you be happy? Although I have someone I like, I can't feel that she likes me all the time, so I don't know what to do. I may have to spend more time trying to figure out what love is.

trust

Trust is a good thing , because something has happened recently and I have really lost it when it comes to dealing with interpersonal issues. I really want to believe that my best friend still cares about me, but I don't get a response to my unsolicited messages, which makes me wonder if it's important to trust this thing. Trust between people, a good situation is that everyone will trust each other, can frankly express their feelings and opinions to each other, and communicate and solve problems. The bad situation is that everyone quarrels, cold wars, and consumes each other's feelings, right?

Since this incident, my heart has been hurt, my heart is 90% broken, and I have occasional heartache. Since the beginning of February, I have slowly returned to normal life and adjusted my mentality, but my heart is still empty. It will take a while for me to surrender my trust again, right?

ability

People are indispensable abilities , such as your ability to work, the ability to manage your life, the ability to be independent, the ability to think , and so on. Lack of survivability, sorry to use that word: "You're trash". Of course, no one wants to be a waste. These abilities are not acquired at once, but must be cultivated through practice and hard work the day after tomorrow . When you have the ability, your self-confidence will increase , it will also increase your personal value , and then other good things will follow.

growing up

People will grow up, you can't change from an adult to a child, right? You will go through events, grow, and become a mature adult . Recently, in the face of dealing with interpersonal problems, reflecting on myself , and knowing myself , through collecting materials and reading books, my database has been continuously increased and grown. Growth is an experience that belongs to life , an indispensable thing. I believe that I will take this opportunity to grow myself and do everything more mature than before, and I will handle these problems better.

There is no perfect person in the world , people will always make mistakes, it depends on whether you are willing to change, improve yourself and grow. When you realize that you made a mistake, it is an improvement. When you try to improve, it is also an improvement. These are all processes of growth.

I shared my values, I believe you will also check these options, right? These are the ones that most people consider this very important. If you have options that are different from mine, you can leave a message to share with everyone!

Finally, find out the values that belong to you, and live a life that belongs to you!

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Value PDF

What is the most important thing in your life? A "value list" to re-understand yourself