The 8-month mental journey of Hong Kong people immigrating to the UK

This article may be a bit long, because during the 5 months, my mood was a bit complicated, and I didn’t have the mood and courage to make it public in Matt City. Even though I typed many articles, they all stayed at the diary stage. It's an immature confusion that I don't want to make public, but today I finally have time to sort out the complicated things and emotions during this period, and I can finally type them out and record this precious mentality experience. Here, I really have to be lucky that I like to record my feelings in words, otherwise, those precious mentality and experiences will definitely be forgotten by me.

If I were to drop a summary at the beginning of the article, I would say:
I did leave my Anshu District in the UK, but after I left, I found that the original Anshu District was not very comfortable.
This world may be scary everywhere, but when I think about it again, the feeling of thinking about everything is more terrifying than doing anything.

Next, maybe I can talk about what I have actually experienced in the past few months, and what interesting discoveries I have made.

What has actually happened in the past few months:

It has been about 8 months since I came to the UK in September last year.

I originally worked in marketing in Hong Kong. When I was in Hong Kong, I expected that I would not be able to find a related job in the UK, because marketing is also an industry that requires localization. But after I came here, I thought why not try to find it? Related work is also good.

Since the second month, I have been looking for related jobs non-stop, because I have stayed in that industry for a certain period of time, so I have many interview opportunities, and many of them have reached the final interview, but , There are always some more suitable people, but in the end there is no result.

If you have searched for a designated industry in the UK and have management experience, you will understand that interviews in the UK are quite demanding on the sincerity of the interviewer. They will ask you to have a certain understanding of their entire brand, about Understand their needs and be able to provide certain suggestions. So when you meet a job, the preparation time for each job is quite long, so you can imagine that there may be 1-4 interviews for a job, and if you have to fully prepare for each one, those three months are really a job. very tiring thing.

When one opportunity is like this, and the next ten opportunities are like this, I understand that it is not a coincidence, but a real problem with my approach.

I asked myself, if someone comes to Hong Kong from the UK and wants to do marketing in Hong Kong, even if he has relevant experience, I have to consider many factors, and it is in some decision-making roles, since it is for the local market, so people with local experience should be considered first.

Furthermore, I asked a core question, why did I come to the UK?

Am I looking for a place to work harder? If so, I don't need to leave at all, because Hong Kong is already good, and Hong Kong's tax rate is low. It is a good place to make money, but the money is not for living.

I want to regain the self I love, not to be the self I don't love.

I just want to live a more relaxed and casual life, work in different jobs, and experience a different life. Isn't that a very interesting thing? My life does not require a lot of material at all, nor is it the goal of life to keep climbing. In fact, there are some flowers and plants, some books, some food, and traveling to nearby places cheaply, I am already very happy. Then why every time when you are nervous, you will return to the original point unconsciously, looking for some familiar things to regain your sense of security? The things I can do are really not necessarily what I want to do. I know that the role is a role that is prone to tension and pressure, and I am not particularly good at what I make, so why should I aim for that one? Direction forward?

Reflect on the facets and blind spots of your life:

Let's work first:

• In fact, I don't like marketing, especially my personality is not in harmony with marketing.
• I love quiet and in-depth communication, but sometimes there are too many people to deal with at work, and there are too many interpersonal relationships to deal with. It is not impossible to pretend to be an extrovert, but I clearly know that it is not me . Therefore, after each activity, I spent a lot of time to recover myself.
• In addition, I am not too much affected by the promotional content. Sometimes, I feel that the more advertisements, the more false, so if it is focused on branding, I can do it, but if it is concentrated on performance In terms of marketing, the pressure is really great, and I feel that what I do is fake and boring, and it will not last long. Listen and listen, I feel that I am not marketing.

Then there are social needs:

• Because there seems to be no friends suddenly in the UK, and I really want to have a group of new friends immediately. It feels strange that there is no relationship at all in the new place. So when I was looking for a job, it seemed that I wanted to find a group of friends immediately, so without a job, I would have no friends. What a concept that hit the wall!
• Well, friends are friends, and colleagues are colleagues. If you want to find friends, use the way of finding friends. Find some hobbies, do volunteer work, and friends will exist. It may be because I have more requirements for friends, so I really haven't taken the initiative to go out to find friends for many years, which is really a strange feeling.

Ability to chase goals:

• In fact, after deciding not to look for a marketing job, my first thought was to find some other majors to learn, and then come to some part-time to have fun. I hope that my future job will be diverse, composed of different jobs (slash), rather than a single job, so I thought of some jobs that can take on cases, and then I may achieve work from home, And the ability to move there, ux/ui/front-end are all things I love and think it is possible to do.
• But the problem with me as a person is that when I set a goal, I immediately ask myself to devote myself to the whole process, or I am too lazy. I often forget that I am a flesh-and-blood human being, apart from cognitive, emotional feelings, and physical limitations, I am a human being who forgets that I am a living creature, does not respect that I have any physical needs, understands Tired, thirsty, hungry, everything is done in an automatic program, with a little less thinking and understanding.
• So it seems that any rest time is a time of laziness, constantly complaining about my lack of ability and perseverance. But, it really doesn't need to be like this, right? That kind of chasing the goal, the result is everything, omitting everything on the journey. If it is slower, can it be burned longer? At the end of this question, I found that there was a problem with my sense of security.

Test of security:

• I found that if my income was zero, I would be very disturbed, and I would feel like I was going to get out of zero. Obviously there is no crisis in the economy, but my personal mentality is about to collapse. What am I collapsing? What kind of trick is that kind of effort that requires one's full energy and requires oneself to break the boat all the time?
• I found that I often use the past and the future to spur myself, often replay the past carelessness or the failure of my own definition in my mind, and often create a future full of crisis to make myself afraid, and finally find myself stagnating, I'm afraid that my current decision will make my future self extremely regretful. That kind of fantasy has made me stuck in a situation where I can't move forward.
• But this kind of situation of living in the past or looking forward to the future is quite unhealthy. Instead of focusing on the infinite possibilities of the future or the regrets of the past, why not focus on living every moment in the present?

At this point, the walls of my mind began to crumble, and I began to count what I had now, and the possibilities that I could grasp at this moment.

Current possession:

1. I have a small garden that I can grow, a dream I've had since I was 20 years old.
2. I like to cook, and the ingredients here are fresh and clean, which allows me to have time and space to cook, and even more time to make my favorite desserts.
3. Learning a new field is exciting.
4. I have a job that does not burden and stress me. I don’t need to reply to some bosses in my spare time saying that it is very important. I am sorry to take up your spare time, but you can use whatsapp on (save 3,000 words).
5. Culturally enlightened, it’s not about just talking about eating and shopping in the streets, dating, getting married and having children. People here have more hobbies, a sense of discussion and communication, and there are no mainstream values that must be followed.
6. Once again feel the power of nature, spring, summer, autumn and winter, four distinct seasons.
7. There is no feeling of burden to start life again.

I am grateful that I have this kind of determination, but what continues is perseverance, step by step, walking out of life, and the journey is already one attraction after another.

Hopefully, with this, I will stop letting my life autopilot and take back control of my life.

Even if you reach or miss your goal, you can enjoy the beautiful scenery along the way.

Anyway, no one really knows when they will die, only the present can create the past and the future.