When we want to change, this is the best way

A few days ago, I heard a story. My wife and her husband made a rule that they would lock the door if they didn't go home at 11:00 in the evening. This was effective at first, but then the husband simply wouldn't go home after 11:00. So the wife changed the rules again. After the husband did not come home at 11:00, the wife would open the door to sleep. Since then, the husband would come home on time every night. This story tells us about the nature of management that "unleashing malice" is ineffective, you can only try to "inspire goodwill" .

Whenever someone disagrees with us, we always have ideas that want to change the other side, and the other side does too, and it inevitably ends up being preachy. Every time a similar question arises, I think that growth is not a straight line, but a tree-like diagram. Growth will become different. No one is good or bad. Everyone is good, but we need to inspire kindness. , to accept each other.

Ever since someone asked me "Does your family know you can't find a job?", I've decided that I'll never answer a question with only two options in the future, because it's too easy to be contrived. No matter how I answer this question, it's the result that I can't find a job, but in fact I have a job and I'm a business. It's like asking an archaeologist how long it takes to dig a grave to be considered archaeology, not tomb robbery. However, the person who asked me this question, I actually knew he was doing it for my own good, but the way he asked only released my malice.

So everyone understands, right? In fact, the story was explained very clearly at the beginning. I will add a few short stories later to provide you with examples. These things are often encountered in life. Maybe everyone understands this truth, but the people who really do it, I I haven't met many in my life. In fact, there are many reasons for this. Some people think that "inspiring goodwill" refers to the way of change, no, inciting goodwill refers to " the original intention of the change" .