書評 “𝙶𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚙: 𝙷𝚘𝚠 𝙾𝚗𝚎 𝚃𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚊𝚙𝚒𝚜𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚊 𝙲𝚒𝚛𝚌𝚕𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚂𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚎𝚛𝚜 𝚂𝚊𝚟𝚎𝚍 𝙼𝚢 𝙻𝚒𝚏𝚎” 𝙱𝚢 𝙲𝚑𝚛𝚒𝚜𝚝𝚒𝚎 𝚃𝚊𝚝𝚎

I like to watch memoir, and the more I watch it, I find that the lives of the best people are full of shit, no one is more noble than the other, and everyone has their own homework.

Christie is the top law student, but she considers herself the most miserable human being in the world.Although she has a successful career, she is jealous of the couples on the street and worried that she will die alone. In her old age, she will be an old woman with urine leakage problems in adult diaper advertisements. Her wish was simple: to have healthy intimacy and have a family of her own.

Dr. Rosen was her therapist, invited her to the group and told her that as long as she disclosed herself in the group, everything would be fine and she would get the life she wanted. Is everything that simple? Christie didn't believe it, so it was bound to be a long wrestling.

She questioned, because her family of origin was taught to be tolerant, and confession brought unease and shame.

"What makes you think confidentiality makes you safe?"

"Holding on secrets is a way to hold shame that doesn't belong to you."

Dr. Rosen responded to her like this.

Fear of conflict prevents intimacy, because every intimacy contains conflict. Christie spent a long time in the group learning that conflict is not terrible, because arguing also means caring and love.

Her relationship with Dr. Rosen is also threefold. First, she doubted him. Second, she thought he was a god. Third, she found that he was just a man. Therapist has no way to save her from the quagmire. At best, he accompanies her, witnesses her fuck up every relationship, makes stupid choices, never criticizes, but keeps an ambiguous smile and says Go ahead. In contrast, her groupmates will be sympathetic or dismissive or suggestive, although she usually ignores them. But she also found the most important point: no matter how much you fuck up, Dr. Rosen and her group can catch her.

In the end, she found her true love and became a mother, but the story is not only that, you know that only fairy tales will end with a wedding, the difference is that she will bring the story after the marriage to the groups. She knew she would continue to be caught, and she would meet people who were as skeptical of her life as she had been years ago, and she would follow them.