The myth of right and wrong

I have a very good friend who recently had an incident. In general, this is definitely a wrong thing to look at.

I looked at him sobbing, and I could only be by his side.

Here I have a reflection: this friend is not a person with insufficient intelligence. I don't think he is incapable of identifying things that most people think are wrong. Then, what drives him to this mistake?

A psychiatrist once shared with me that we have three selves in our hearts:

On the top floor: Responsible for standing out on the balcony to the public, smiling.

Those who live in the middle floor: Cope with the joys, sorrows and sorrows received by the residents on the top floor with a certain set of learned ways of handling things.

Living on the lowest floor: a guest who doesn't show up often, the room is always dark, the reason he doesn't say hello to the guests upstairs is because he thinks they won't understand him, because he holds your deepest desire, but the last two A guest will suppress these desires thickly.

Sometimes mistakes happen because of the desire in our hearts. It’s not that we can make mistakes because we want to satisfy our desires, but these mistakes often happen because we didn’t respond well to the needs of the lowest-level guests in the past.

》Suppose you like to eat candy very much in your heart. When you were a child, you forced yourself to fast for educational reasons. When you grow up and become independent, you may have different degrees of disease problems due to overeating candy.

"And suppose that when you were a child, you really wanted to be praised and recognized by your parents, but your parents took it for granted that you did well and treated you coldly. When you grow up, you will often use love to fill these vacancies. There are a lot of emotional issues.

Going back to this friend's incident, on the surface it was true that it was wrong, but I saw the pain behind his back. Of course, if you do something wrong, you have to take equal responsibility. The point is, as long as you have the courage to face and solve the problem, you will pay more attention to the tenant on the lowest floor in the future, and I believe that the chance of doing something wrong will gradually decrease. .