Reading Notes｜How to be merciful to the hurt caused by excessive love? - "The Compassionate Lover"

I have always liked Mr. Zhong's works, especially the prose collections "Diary for You" , "The Old Girl" , the novels "Parting Love" , "Tan Ge Xing" , "On the Left Bank of the River" and this book "The Compassionate Lover" , and the fragments described in this book most often pass by inadvertently.

The story follows the aspects of Yue Nina's thoughts and gradually understands her from childhood to maturity, her vicissitudes of life due to the countless wanderings she pursued and escaped, and one lover after another, the gain and loss of love with a bit of Zen, the importance of love and being loved. Light, late understanding in the face of death... Mercy comes from the incompleteness of Chu Yang, but it has hindered the affection of most of my life, or maybe it is only because of deep love but it is not available, if it can be possessed, it may be quickly burned to pieces Exhausted?

Xiaoyang told her that the Buddha's love is parting from the pain, and to get rid of this pain, "don't be with the people we love" . This is the most impressive part of the whole book, and I couldn't help agreeing with it; unfortunately, I didn't understand it when I was too young, and even if I was a little mature, I wouldn't be willing to let it go. After that "suffering", love still has the opportunity to transform and sublime to another level. After all, after getting married and having children, I have a deeper understanding. No matter how crazy or how much you love your youth, you must transfer energy to your family at this time. You don’t have so much power to love and hate. It's no longer just love, keep a certain warmth, and pour the rest to the baby who doesn't know the world! The important thing is that I used to be so young and enthusiastic, and it is no regret to have such a self to be missed.

*Excerpted from "Self-preface" (P.005):

 Although this is an extremely simple love without words, because of the incompleteness, it is compassionate.
The reason why these past events are told and reproduced again is because a love kissed this light novel with the weight of death.

The opposite of love is not necessarily hate, but it will never be love again.
The opposite of life is not necessarily death, but it will never be life again.

We are all just a small part of someone else, but this small part has been enlarged into the whole. So our human love life, tormenting each other, is often entangled in burdens.

Most of us live in a gray area of extreme extremes...no real love, and no real hate. There is no real life and no real death...

Thank you for every encounter, and then forget everything.

*Book excerpt:

A middle-aged man with diver's disease made me realize the essence of love by accident. Once lost, it is a total loss, not a little bit. Those who lose a little bit are all people who have a way out, but true love is total. There is no way out, there is no such thing as half-hearted. If there is a retreat, it is not love itself, but other things, such as marriage, sex, friendship, family affection, kindness... The level of true love between two people is that there is no retreat. If they are true love, it is full acceptance and support. , including mutilation; it can only be all-or-nothing, just as a diver's disease can no longer get close to an ocean, and even the sight of the sea evokes pain. But when he didn't have diver's disease, he jumped, every inch of his skin and every breath was melted into the sea water, his eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body and mind were all sea water... Enough is enough. (P.180)

Love doesn't exist when you love me and I don't love you, that's not love, it's a personal injury or unrequited love that didn't happen. So love must happen in an equal relationship, that is, I love you and you love me too, until one of the parties does not love, the love disappears, and the things that are derived later are all in the name of fake love. (P.223)

I have to set off again. In addition to Xiaoyang's last words, I also realize that it is sadness that pushes people far away; it is loss that pushes people to a foreign land, and it will never be happiness and possession want to fly to the other side. Pleasure and the owner don't want to go anywhere, because he's only stuck in place by love. Is willing to be nailed to the cross of love. People travel far away without love, or settle in other places with love. It can be to love a person, a holy mountain, an ocean, an endangered species... all kinds of things make people sail away, rush to or stay. (P.284)

＊Recommended reading about the movie "Deep Love":

We all look forward to not being alone in love - "No Longer Let You Lonely"

When you hold the right person at the right time, love can be complete - "True Love Picks the Day"

When the beloved leaves, the memory of the once loved will remain forever - "I see a ghost in my left eye"

The original text was published on: 2017/1/19 http://blog.talk.tw/dearlycat/post/28034?category=12 (the original blog has been hung up)