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The more things there are, the more you test yourself how to sort out your thoughts in the chaos and choose the most important things to do. My life has changed a lot in the past year. I still remember thinking in my heart not long ago, how can I work hard to pursue my ideals and goals, and it seems that I can't see any changes in my life in the end? What has changed is just a little thought in my heart, But the things I think about when I wake up are still the same, and the things I worry about every day are similar. I still feel the distance between the ideal and the ideal, and the uneasiness and the pull between the years.

However, once you have stepped out of the original habitual fence, you do not know which decision formed the key factor. Changes swept like an overwhelming sea, and at the same time fermented and catalyzed with the vision and imagination of the past. From the crossroads that I used to pass through, the traffic lights that I used to curse, the parking lot that I used to look around, the topics I used to talk about, the choices I used to make hungry, the signs I used to look around, the sky I used to look up at, and the asphalt I used to step on. I don't know when it started, but quietly decided to change the fate.

Every clue is an opportunity, every subtle decision is a key factor, and I think real change begins with those little details, that little accumulation, and inconspicuous turns.

A change of fate is not often the result of a sudden lottery winning one day, and it is unlikely that the miracle of the cover story will happen. The brilliance of standing on the stage is often the accumulation of countless days backstage. In addition to the most fundamental openness of thinking, the determination and will to not be pushed down, or naive intuition is the basic secret of truly crossing the activation energy. And this also lays the foundation for why self-belief is so fundamental in the field of success studies. Even if you provide more evidence to explain that beliefs can't really lead you to success, but you can't insist on believing that you have the value of continuing to work hard, change will never happen. There will be no future time and space.

Becoming a father must be one of the key factors, because when you become a father, you will clearly know that the child in front of you is the person in the world who can be most influenced by you, and your power and obligations suddenly skyrocket to all the people in the world. Limit, your importance has also suddenly swelled from an unknown ant pile to a giant elephant. That irreplaceable and unavoidable vocation landed directly on the body. Intuitively, why did you have to work hard on your heart and mind? Say, you should make you feel that you should do more, what you can do, what you must do, take care of the other self in your hand, and hope that she will become better.

The habit of reading itself will not really change anything. If you don’t consider reading as the purpose of leisure, entertainment, relaxation, and recreation, flipping through a book is, for yourself, looking for the wisdom of others to help you find success. shortcuts, or directions, or ways to avoid detours.

Many people will tell me that it is better to have no books than to believe in books. They will feel that I rely too much on my reading ability, as if they are more reliable in their own life experience, but I always feel that reading is also like gaining life experience. It takes the cost and the shortest time to obtain a variety of different lives, and whether a person's experience and reasoning are right or wrong, after all, it is up to oneself to judge. It is easy for us to believe what we have seen with our own eyes and the value of our own survival accumulated in the past, and it is easy to have prejudices. I believe that we only believe in ourselves as a reference. Compared with reading the references of many people, the latter is undoubtedly objective and responsible. many.

Just seeing more doesn't mean doing more, or changing more. We are creatures of habit, and habits come from each of our own choices, thoughts, and values. The things in these heads are not easily changed, but they can be turned by reading. The key step is to form another habit of yourself, which not only means that you are a different person, but also means that the wisdom and knowledge you read can be implemented in your body and actions, and changes can only be seen. A lot of reading is useless, if you just become a love of reading after all, if you still wince before you face a decision, if you don’t understand the truth that “a life that keeps making mistakes is more meaningful than a life that sticks to the right”, if you choose to be safe after all For the sake of stability, stability, and conservativeness, you are still yourself, and those who walk in front will only go faster and faster.

After choosing a different decision, the real factor that makes the change, I feel is encountering different. When those people offer insights that you wouldn't have heard in your life, the broad knowledge you've read will lead you to unaccustomed first steps, allowing you to start practicing, allowing you to validate what you've learned, and allowing you to Start the soul hybrid. And until this moment, it is still correct to believe that it is better to have no books. People who read a hundred books a year and read one book a year are not much different until this moment. Until this moment, we start to act. until.

But when the gears of habit-building start turning, does life start to be different?

It's still a long way off! The first step at the beginning can indeed be said to be a long and dazed pre-work, but after the beginning, it is still a way of Asura that relies on persistence and faith. To be able to turn yourself into an ideal image, you must not only be able to make choices, but also be able to continue to protect your original intentions after making choices. You will have periods of labor pains again and again, you will face your past self and smash into a rut, you will be in a hurry to open up thorns, and you will continue to question the path you choose.

It's like squeezing words every day to know if the ink in your belly is full; like the market will always test what kind of traders it is with different trends and temptations. When the opportunity for change comes, it will test not only whether you can grasp it, but also whether you can sustain it, and whether you can maintain the established strategy in the midst of confusion. The master's words, books and deeds cannot become your own flesh and blood. We can use him as a benchmark, but we must continue to write our own books and transaction records by ourselves. This is an irreplaceable link, and there is no shortcut. Arguably.

The habit of the past is undoubtedly our own. It will not disappear out of thin air just because you have obtained the words of others. It is impossible for us to deny everything about ourselves in a blink of an eye.

Wisdom is a string that slowly extends into the well you are in, slowly pulling you out of the dark bottom. In the process, we must struggle, desperately grabbing the rope that seems to be life-saving. Once it is broken or let go, we will all be like frogs at the bottom of the well, and we will still only be able to lean on the narrow cave and peep into the vast sky and the dazzling sun.

The road to climb to the entrance of the cave is still long, and occasionally the sun and moon will shine into the cave, giving people a little encouragement and motivation, but most of the time, we still have to face it alone; most of the time, we still Being in the dark, struggling to come back to the original pool was more comfortable and safer.

2020.2.12