Shorthand / parent and filial piety.

Seeing a sentence in the screenshot of the related article instantly ignites anger, shorthand for anger and the bottom layer of anger.

"A pet pig raises a stove, a pet son is not filial", it seems to be a common saying in recent years. On the one hand, I ask myself whether this is a hint to myself (based on the concept of projection of the inner world...), and on the other hand, I once again feel the evil karma brought about by the distortion of traditional culture and superiors.

Chinese parents seem to care about "filial piety".

Duke Jing asked Confucius about politics. Confucius replied, "The ruler is the ruler, the minister is the minister, the father is the father, and the son is the son." The Duke said, "How good! Trust is like the ruler is not the ruler, the minister is not the minister, the father is not the father, and the son is not the son. Although there are grains, I can eat it. Zhu?" - From "The Analects. "Yan Yuan"

This is a little story that I have often mentioned to cases in recent years. I always ask them to ask themselves: "A father is not a father, and a son is a son?" For those who like to worry about their children's filial piety, I often sneer and ask him if he has turned it over. How does the dictionary explain "filial piety to the father"? (Attach the version that moved me the most after looking for it)

Chinese parents often say that they should be filial to their parents. The simplest quantification is money, status, and reputation. The so-called "support" - the more self-sacrifice, the higher the achievement, the more "filial piety" (see how noble this title is) , is a more "filial" child. I am not familiar with Hong Kong and Macau, and I have not been to other Chinese-speaking regions. I cannot comment because of my lack of practical experience. As far as China and Taiwan are concerned, it can be said to be the greatest manifestation of "money is love".

In the past, there was still the belief of "raising children to prevent old age". I had only endless anger towards the pseudo-new mother who had just completed eight months of childcare.

After a lot of hardships during the pregnancy, lying on the birth table screaming, the operating table is cold, the vomiting caused by anesthesia, the pain caused by the urinary catheter, the fiery wound on the stomach, the shame of letting others serve the toilet, Every step is so difficult and difficult. Two hundred and eighty days of self-combustion is for the continuation of life and the inheritance of wisdom; the joys, sorrows and joys of this world are so beautiful, and the sacrifice that goes deep into the bone marrow is not for the sake of each of my forty years later. How much pocket money can be received each month. Children should not be investments. I think they are "the crystallization of love", the embodiment of the love of husband and wife. Husband and wife love each other and are blessed by the world and God. Therefore, they conceive and give birth to children with our genes, which will change the course of our life. , experience and wisdom are passed on in an endless stream.

Strange, I thought everyone had the same education, why is there such a big difference? (I also have a lot of nonsense to say about unhealthy families, disabled families, and parenting, and I will vent it again.)

Some children’s filial ways are greetings, company, occasionally cutting a plate of fruit, or giving two tickets to Jiang Hui’s concert; some children contradicted fiercely on the surface, never saving face for their parents, but I heard that. When my parents catch a cold, they are always the first to ask for leave and go home with all kinds of coercion and inducement to take them out to see the doctor (so how did the elders not like to see the doctor?).

The older generation (or two) always prefer to receive money.

This is due to the differences in growth background and times. I can understand it. I can even squeeze out 10,000 yuan from a monthly salary of less than 30,000 yuan and save it into my mother's account. Children whose elders live comfortably but are swollen and fat, often do not know how to care for their parents, or parents are worried about their children's achievements and the misery of life... All kinds of anxiety are distorted and paranoid, and the conditions they require later.

I have discussed this with my mother's relatives, and although I avoided my mother, I guess my mother's thoughts should be not far from the same. My uncles once said that the reason why you want your children to become dragons is because the world is too strict with the existence of dragons and phoenixes, and you don’t want your children to bear the path and pain they have traveled. Unfortunately, nightmares are always replicated from generation to generation, like bottomless. abyss. This kind of fear closely followed my previous generation, so they had more entanglements in that era, and they were so convinced of the desire and goal of "making a fortune".

I guess the collapse of the so-called "Korean fan parents" should be based on this kind of anger - the mother is fucking planning for you, thinking too much, staring blankly, and your teacher's dare not vote for Korea? Do you dare not to have such a good future? Get out of here, motherfucker!

I think the filial piety and disobedience that the parents care about should be "I hope you are well, why don't you listen to me?" And the derived feeling of "It turns out that all my efforts are farts" and a sense of denial.

"Rejection" is one of the most powerful emotional setbacks - the other three I have lost my memory, please worship God (?) - How many people fall into conflict in order to avoid the feeling of being denied, and the reason why rejection is art, It is because the mental activity of the rejected person is one of the common karma of all mankind.

To put it in vernacular, what I want to say is that it is easy to ask children and grandchildren to be filial, and neutral love is enough. Love is also very simple, but it is just respect. The so-called "do not do to others what you do not want to do to others", and then ask "to push yourself and others." If you really don't understand, you can recommend the other party to read the materials of the National Institute of Education , and then say a smile. "God bless you".

I just hope that I can have a peaceful and calm conversation with my children. When I am old, I can grab a bottle of Taiwan beer with each of my children, light my favorite sweet-scented osmanthus, and occasionally chat and laugh.

In the current era, is this goal still a little far away?

A note at the very abrupt end: This is actually one of the automatic writing, so it's just Ladessai (meaning to stir up pig shit), don't take it too seriously; I'm empty-headed and thin-skinned and bad-tempered - it should be seen I wrote that I was full of fire and slapped the table with all kinds of swearing - too serious to "discuss" with me, I really can't answer, please don't try to argue with me, but share your own opinions, emotions, ideas, inspiration...etc. All are welcome.