【Beautiful and Beautiful Self-Reflection】Use your own time to know yourself better

What is your own time?

" That is the moment when you can log out of all social software, not be held back by any pronouns, and return to your own name."

The consumption of time has not deducted anything, but it has made myself more and more clear and tired. There are several autumns in life, and there will probably be such rebelliousness and tranquility.

Those who have suffered grievances at work and school seem to have the courage to run away in anger, and they seem to understand better what the temporary patience is for. Those dream attachments buried in their hearts seem to be outlined in their minds and become clearer.

In the end, we slowly walked back to life, not living our own life for anyone.

We understand life better, and life understands us better.

Those ordinary and rare personal moments of mine

And it's been a long time now that I understand that what I like is not the smell of coffee.

Since I was in middle school, I seemed to know that I was not a really smart person, but in high school I understood this matter more deeply. I can’t recite things faster than others, and my understanding of mathematics is always inflexible. Fa, I'm going to re-organize my thoughts again. It seems that what keeps me going is an attachment and dignity to myself, so even if I study hard, I still get frustrated. It looks like I'm already embarrassed, but I don't allow myself to give up. , struggling to squeeze into the narrow door of medicine.

But medicine is really too esoteric, and in the first few years of study, I could not experience my own growth.

It's like a pig that keeps rolling in the mud, but ordinary pigs are still happy, but I continue to be surrounded by a sense of powerlessness.

I read a text written by a senior a long time ago.

" I seem to like slashes in medicine. I think it's probably because I want to prove myself alive in other ways. "

At first, I didn't feel particularly touched, but after a few years of age, I seem to understand this sentence better.

For a while when I first went to college, I tried my best to participate in various clubs with extremely high-intensity activities. At that time, I just felt that it would be impossible not to do it. Today, many years later, I realized that it was all my own struggle, and what I did to realize the unique life in my heart. Give it a go. After a year, I was still not sure whether I was unique enough, but I clearly felt that life was messy. I shuttled among various roles. It was originally an opportunity for myself to shine, but after a long time, it was more like an inability to grow. no obligation.

With the right time and place, I became addicted to staying in a coffee shop.

I especially like to sit in a coffee shop in the afternoon or in the morning, and spend time endlessly with a computer or a book in my arms. In fact, I don’t drink coffee much, and even if I drink coffee, I can’t sleep at night. The physique of a young child, but the footsteps of stepping into the cafe are like a kind of secret code, which makes me involuntarily feel immersed in the aroma of coffee.

At first, I just thought that doing things outside would be more efficient than working at home, and my mind was light. No matter how difficult or annoying things were, there seemed to be infinite possibilities. I could dream in a coffee shop and have a good taste. Time, like some people like to stay in the mountains, and I don't need to go that far, just in the corner cafe to satisfy my tired brain.

And it's been a long time now that I understand that what I like is not the smell of coffee.

but a time of its own.

How coffee time affects me

As a person, it seems that I always have some responsibilities for my own life. After fulfilling those responsibilities, thinking about dreams again seems to be what a mature person should look like.

And the time at the cafe is like this for me.

Only by hiding in the coffee shop can I think about my so-called self, my interests, what I want to be, and the small plans I want to do. In my small space, my life seems to be omnipotent. The extra time to go to a coffee shop and live seems to me to prove that I am alive, besides the medical knowledge in my head, my worth.

As an ordinary person, the time I spent in the coffee shop when I first went to college ended up in Bossa Nova and the noise of people. I didn't really become anything, but because of those most private times, I walked all the way. Came here and got into the habit of making myself a good cup of tea while working on things. I still can't drink coffee and listen to music, and would like to be addicted and visit a coffee shop every month.

Because of the accumulation of self, it seems that construction can always start in these small moments.

The difference between self time and other time

I thought to myself, why only self-time can bring about such self-construction, if all that is required is a brief escape from real life, how is it different from ordinary time spent playing tricks?

And I finally figured out that the difference is motivation.

Motivation determines the pattern and appearance of this time.

Playing the waste time usually happens unintentionally, and it happens automatically when you lie down on the bed or sit on the sofa.

Sometimes there is even a so-called revenge mentality to stay up late, because of the busy life, I want to waste time. With the only sleep time I can control, I prove that I still have such a little grasp of life, and it is only natural. , forming a vicious circle, the pressure is increasing.

And some more inexplicable waste, obviously it is a very relaxing time, but still lazy waste all day, of course, this kind of life has its own charm, but we always have to understand what we need now what is it?

For a long time, I would uncontrollably swipe my phone. I knew it wouldn’t work, but I would continue to swipe my phone until everything was constantly refreshed, but it still stayed on the information I had read. I always felt the anxiety about life. Now, in the mode of swiping my phone, there is anxiety but no escape, and even cheating will only add to the pain.

Sometimes I can't even find a reason for my anxiety

Only by talking to myself through my time can I seem to be able to unravel my knots.

How to start a self-time?

There are always many things waiting for us in life, and so is our own head.

But his head is himself, and he is naturally very considerate to himself. He will continue to suppress himself and wait for the day when you finish dealing with trivial matters, but trivial matters are always dealt with. Finally, one day, the inner child broke out, and all this needs more. time to repair itself.

How to do it?

Choose a full morning, afternoon, and night out on your calendar.

And that time period is his absolute domain, sacred and inviolable.

The time reserved in advance can only be obtained by paying more attention at other times. Subjectively, we will cherish it more. Only if we take it seriously, we will not be easily entangled in trivial matters. Check whether your time arrangement is reasonable or not, and whether you cherish all the time in your life.

doing what?

Pair it with your favorite aroma, your ear's favorite music, and your favorite cup of hot chocolate.

This is a beautiful and beautiful speculation, and you have to believe that the truth will become clearer and clearer.

This is a reorganization that we have prepared for ourselves. In the best case, we will come up with the best ideas, so we prepare the environment that we instinctively like the most, reward this brain that is used to being suppressed every day, and drink the most Favorite drink, as my most reliable ally, think carefully about the topic of today's discussion, I was always a little awkward and panic at first, but the process of getting more and more aware of myself is to peel off the cocoon, empty my head first, and write down my thoughts on paper. It is a beautiful and beautiful speculation, and you have to believe that the truth will become clearer and clearer.

what's the result?

Maybe there is nothing, but in the practice of knowing more about myself, I know more about being frank with myself.

And you will remember the aroma of chocolate, knowing that chocolate represents time with yourself.

Think about the most vivid meal with friends, it was never the one where the topic of discussion was pre-set.

The dialogue with myself is also, this time with myself does not necessarily solve anything immediately, too much expectation will only put too much pressure on myself, slow down the pace, healing is never a flash, but a kind of immersion, happening. Unconsciously, those problems that need to be solved by using the brain may not be too simple.

Sometimes it's not that we can't think of the answer, it's that we haven't had the time to think of the answer yet.

The self who is already thinking about the problem can minimize the chance of being trapped in the problem.

When there is no answer, just treat it as a kind of enjoyment!

The cave period is often used to describe a period of time when a guy needs to be alone in a relationship.

Regardless of gender, however, ego time is like a necessary cave period in life .

We are still loving at heart and enjoy sharing our lives with those we love.

But the world is turning too fast, and the desire to live out oneself is too strong. Under compression, the most common thing is not to notice oneself, so instead of exposing the wounds to the online world too quickly, we might as well arrange ourselves Favorite cave, what happens, just go inside and hide, replenish the stock of beer and chocolate in it at any time, and pamper yourself seriously there, don't have to discuss with others whether your sadness is reasonable, just for yourself .

And wait until you are rich enough,

Even the road to the dream will shine at the mouth of the cave .

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