odd father odd child

Next Sunday (June 19) is Father's Day. I always feel like I need to do something "fun". Let me introduce some books related to my father.

Maybe you thought of Zhu Ziqing's "Back View" for the first time. This has already been discussed, so I won't repeat it.

Maybe you will think of "Mingzi" by Mr. Dong Qizhang. Indeed, Dong Sheng's book is about the father-son/daughter relationship from the father's point of view, whether it "exists" (that is, reality) or does not exist (that is, fiction). There are many interesting stories. For example, he and his son Guo "conflicted" over a bus that was just a bus in the eyes of his father, but a precious bus in the eyes of his son. In the third part, the son writes to his father that his growth is not what his father wished, so should he continue or press "reset"?

But it's not what I'm going to introduce this time. The book I introduced is "The Writer's Father" by Colm. tobin.

I believe that everyone is obedient to the "Oedipus killing father complex", which is the theory of the psychologist Freud. Of course, his theory is very extreme and is not intended to be discussed here. Instead, I want to discuss the "father-killing" part. I remember Mr. Bei in Dong Sheng's "Hong Kong Characters". On the one hand, he was oppressed by his father (paternal power) and thought that he could find strength to fight after marriage, but after his son died and his wife died, he felt "Fatherhood" is his original sin. In the life of Teacher Bei, he tried his best to "kill his father", but in the end he couldn't finish it.

It turns out that some of Ireland's great writers worked hard to "murder" their fathers. This "The Writer's Father" is about three great Irish writers: Wilde, Yeats and Joyce their father. The author describes the lives of the three fathers and how they influenced their sons. And how the sons, from the works, how to reflect their father.

The first is Oscar. Wilde's father, William. Wilde. He is a doctor and a jazz. The book mentions that there is an ear incision surgery performed by William. Wilde, who also invented the first hookless tweezers. William. Wilde became one of the few high-ranking people who could travel to England and Ireland at the time. However, with the honor of getting the jazz, William. While the Wilde and his wife's reputations were as good as in Japan, they were swept away by a man named Mary. Travers' female patient entangles. Mary initially had a good relationship with the couple, but as time passed, William. The Wildes alienated her, and Mary fought back. She wrote a small publication called Florence. Boyle. Price: Also known as Cautionary Words, is the story of Dr. Quilp and his wife. One of the passages describes an encounter between Dr. Culp and a female patient named Florence:

Trying to get out the door, but being stopped by the alert Quilp, he knelt suddenly, wanting to express his love, despair, and remorse; but a terrified Florence begged her to leave the dangerous place. Knowing that this was an irreparable shame, that this eternal destruction would implicate her young friends, and that the old man in front of her was dying, she dared not speak out. She was afraid he was crazy, she said, and begged to let her go. (page 101)

Mary printed a thousand copies and gave them to William. The Wildes, his patients, and their friends. Of course, anyone with a discerning eye can tell William. Wilde. William at the time. Wilde's social status was high, and he traveled between England and Ireland. This small publication appeared at this time, affecting the reputation of the couple, so Mrs. Wilde wrote to Mary's father to fight back:

Sir - you may not be aware of Ling Qianjin's ignominious behavior in Bray, she fought with the humble local newsboys, instructed them to send insulting signs with my name on them, and implied that she was with William. Small publication of Sir Wilde's fornication. She wanted to shame herself out of my business; but she humiliated me in the hope of extorting money, and she had told William A. Sir Wilde demanded, and threatened to intensify if she didn't comply, and I think it's time to tell you that she won't take a dime from us if she threatens to humiliate us in the future. She will never get the humiliating price she sees and demands so contemptuously. (pages 103, 104)

When Mary saw the letter, she decided to sue Mrs Wilde for libel, seeking £2,000 in damages, and Sir William Wilde became a co-defendant because he was legally responsible for his wife's civil offences.

I still remember that when the case of Nina Nguyen, known as "Little Sweetie", was in court, there were court news like watching "gossip" news every day. William. The Wilde case was the same at the time. The letters and conversations between the couple and Mary are completely public in court. As a result, William. The Wildes lost the case. However, their lives were not greatly affected, after all, it was related to personal morality. But the authors point out how the court affected their son Oscar. Wilde:

This does not mean that in 1864, William. Sir Wilde's allegations, as well as the defamation lawsuit against his wife, have any political implications. That official target is personal, sexual, and intimacy. But it did say that in the Mellion Square building that raised Oscar. In Wilde's mansion, the experience of going to court and going to prison were common, even adored things. At dinner parties hosted by his parents, the definition of fidelity, whether in relation to royal power or Victorian sexual customs, was never stable. (page 114)

Oscar. Wilde also faced the same lawsuit. It's just that his ending is not like his parents, and it doesn't have a big impact on life. What he faced was disfigurement: two years in prison, all his friends left him, and the ending was like "Dowling. The Picture of Dorian Grey. "Fortunately" is that he did not give up creation. He completed two important works in prison: the poem "The Ballad of Reading Gaol" ( The Ballad of Reading Gaol ) and the collection of letters "The Abyss Tablet".

WB Ye Ci's father, John. Ye Ci is a lawyer and a painter. However, in the eyes of WB Ye Ci, the father did not have the ability to execute, so he did not complete his paintings. WB Ye Ci has this to say about his father:

He was weak-willed and Yang couldn't finish his paintings, which ruined his career. He even hates other people for showing will... I think all those qualities that I think are needed to be successful in art or in life seem to him to be "self-centered" or "selfish" or "outrageous". I had to escape the wanderings, simplicity and helplessness of this family, which also drove me to associate with leaders like Hanley and Morris, and to distance myself from his friends...(p. 152)

The son is dissatisfied with the father, and the father is dissatisfied with the son at the same time. John Yeats criticized his son's work as "essentially obscure". In the end, the two father and son brought their relationship to rock bottom because of a small autobiography.

James. Joyce's father, John. Joyce worked as an accounting secretary, a tax collector, and a singer. If you think he is rich, you are wrong, because he and his wife have 10 children, James. Joyce is their eldest son. Even with a stable income, it is difficult to support 10 children. As a result, all his possessions were used up.

in James. In Joyce's eyes, his father was not a good father, at least his drinking problem had become a bomb in the family. The book has this description:
Stanislaus recorded all his father's intoxication and anger, including the time when John Joyce "pretends to strangle" his wife: he rushes at her in a drunken frenzy, grabs her by the throat, and yells: " Lord, it's time to end this." The children in the room ran and screamed between them, but my brother calmly jumped on my father's back immediately, knocking him off balance, and they fell together on the on the ground. My mother picked up the two youngest children and fled to the neighbor's house with my sister. (pages 224, 225)

Reading this, I can't help but think of the end of "The Same Thing" in The Dubliners, where Farrington is ridiculed for his frustrations at work and the pub. As a result, he returned home in the pub and beat his son with a cane to vent.

So James. In his writings, Joyce "unceremoniously" wrote about his father's "rights and wrongs". For example, the protagonist Kernan in "Grace" fell down the stairs. Afterwards, in order to help this friend, his friend sought a confession from the priest. This thing is actually true, the protagonist is John. Joyce:

...The story begins with real events that happened to Joyce's father, who had a home in Harry Street, which intersects with Grafton Street, John. Nolan's bar, he fell down the stairs on his way to the toilet. His friend, who is also an officer of the Dublin company, Tom. Tom Devin saved him. When developing the story, Joyce changed the background of Mr. Kernan, who fell, from his father to Joyce's neighbor, Dick. Dick Thornton, a chef and a lover of opera. The storyline of the religious seclusion in Grace is that Stanislaus had attended such seclusion with his father and a few friends at Gardiner Street Church. (page 233)

The English title of "The Writer's Father" is "Mad, Bad, Dangerous to Know: The Fathers of Wilde, Years and Joyce". "Mad, Bad, Dangerous" means "mad, bad, dangerous". It is astonishing to see the lives of the fathers of these three great writers in the book. Also see how the actions of the fathers influence the minds of the sons, and even their works: in the works they "murder" their fathers.

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[Note 1] Retreat: retreat, that is, to meditate before God

"The Writer's Father" (from blog)
https://www.books.com.tw/products/0010908687