037｜Accept your expectations

Without expectations, there will be no disappointment.

You can never change others, so don't expect it.

A good relationship is one of total acceptance with no expectations.

Have you heard these words often, but you are still always looking forward to it and often disappointed.

And then began to "self-doubt" ?

Begin to question the self who has expectations for the other person, but cannot control it in emotional events again and again, and then fall into an unsolvable "negative cycle" .

Expectations ----" Expectations fail and emotions ----> I'm expecting again-----" I shouldn't expect ----> I'm so bad.

But, in a relationship, shouldn't there really be expectations?

I think the answer is of course no, most of us are ordinary human beings living in the world. Excessive demands do not expect, gradually become self-questioning , and then force yourself to face numbness , isn't it worse?

Especially in intimate relationships, we often lead to the direction of "my expectations are unreasonable" because of the failure of expectations for the other party and some external guidance.

In fact, it is normal to have expectations (the center of the universe calls out loudly).

The real solution is to fully accept your expectations first. This is the beginning of loving yourself, but also the beginning of loving anyone. The premise of accepting the other is accepting yourself. Go back and think about what part of your needs has not been met from your expectations. Maybe you can use a different coping method next time to communicate with the other party. When you fully accept yourself, you can better judge the relationship.

A truly good relationship begins with self-acceptance and self-identification.

After that, let the other party handle the problem of the other party.

May you become a better version of yourself and gain peace and love.

About Korgi Chu (Grilled Chicken)

International Coach Federation ICF Certified Life Coach / Rainbow Coach 🌈

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Committed to promoting the "output" thinking system, and using "output" to promote the growth of more people. The topics I focus on are: gay issues, LGBT issues, personal growth, self-care, self-worth exploration, building a personal brand, career transition, efficient learning methods, and financial freedom.

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