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023 ｜4 Dimensions of Life

Mar 25, 2021

This document is for all the bull demon kings who love to "drill the horns", hoping to drill through your horns a little bit.

The dimension of thinking determines the dimension of your life, which defines your "happiness" .

1st dimension: I am the center of the universe.

In this dimension, everything is self-centered, and the subconscious feels that "the universe revolves around itself" .

More and more spiritual and growth books encourage everyone to "focus on yourself ", but please don't misunderstand this sentence is to make you "self-centered" , let's take a look at some typical thinking patterns in this dimension:

 • Why is it always me who gets cheated on?
• When they do this to me, there must be something wrong with me.
• Why can't I do XXX.

The core of these thoughts is "ego" . In Buddhist thought, there is a special emphasis on the importance of "removing self-clinging " , which is the root of all suffering. Where does this root come from, from ignorance, from your limited understanding of the whole environment, the world.

Therefore, people living in this dimension are often particularly painful , because people and things that can poke into the "ego" happen everywhere.

The second dimension: binary opposition.

The core logic of this dimension is "dual opposition" , that is, like the good and dislike the evil , and essentially filter all information with the filter of one's own values.

In fact, most people have been brought up in an ethical system of "dual opposition" , right and wrong, good and bad, right and wrong. If the real world were that simple, it would be easier. As the saying goes: "Those who are hated must be pitiful". The truth of the world is "non-dual", and only realizing this is the beginning of true happiness.

People living in this dimension either tend to associate only with people who are similar to their own binary opposition system, or they become very withdrawn, often feeling lonely and not understood .

The third dimension: focus on facts

Standing in this dimension, you can finally begin to look at the things around you more objectively . All interpretations are misinterpretations to some extent. Accept the facts, not interpret them. Think about what to do next after the fact. You can't change the fact because you can't change the past. The only way to change the past is to change your future view of past facts through a different future.

For example, it doesn't matter if you are frequently slag, what matters is how to find the next more suitable partner. Can you objectively look at a series of "facts" that happened in past relationships, know yourself, and understand your needs. When you find "Mr/Mrs Right", the fact that you are frequently slag will naturally turn into a good thing.

Living in this dimension, you can begin to appreciate the peaceful beauty of life, and no longer deliberately pursue happiness .

Fourth dimension: The truth of happiness: choosing the present moment.

When we come to the dimension of "now" , our vision becomes wider.

You will start to think about the "value of life" and the "meaning of life", but be careful not to get caught up in these "questions". Those who have been called by God may be only a few. For ordinary people like you and me, life may really be just "unending meetings", "daily egg sandwiches", "intersections with always red lights", but there are also "today's The sunset is so beautiful", "Your partner's smile is beautiful", "The company pays wages on time".

Living in the present moment is not a state, it is a conscious choice . If you choose to taste this instant coffee in the moment, you can immediately be happy in the moment. You can choose to spend half an hour fully enjoying the sunset; you can choose to use another response method to deal with comments from others; even if you choose to talk about a super difficult love, a job that you can't complete by yourself, as long as it is By making a conscious choice , you can experience the joy of living in the moment .

The present is the present, not the future, nor the past. It is at every moment that I can realize that "I have a choice" .