no feelings for marriage

Social news is full of life-threatening domestic violence, wife killing, repeated driving until his wife died, husband and wife send each other to a mental hospital, and friends often express a sigh that makes people understand: It feels like getting married is waiting to be killed. kill.

She would think of the scene where she watched the live broadcast of male lawyers and female lawyers. The consultation situations of the two sides were completely different. The female lawyers were full of husband or boyfriend debts, domestic violence, and cheating. The client asked anxiously what to do , while the male lawyer asked "How do I turn pre-marital debts into joint debts after marriage".

So when she told the reality to her parents who urged her to get married every day, the answer she got in the end was: this is just an example. But how could it be an exception? Is it just a coincidence that a woman is born in this world once or twice? Can't she share a common human destiny with her opponent?

You don’t need to go to the news to find out what the living environment of women is like, and you don’t need to be shocked. That mad woman who roamed your streets as a child, stopped walking because she was locked up. The aunt you have never met, the family said that she is missing, but in fact she was sold to Zhejiang, and contacted your family again, but your father and brothers felt too shameful, told her not to come back, and follow her People live, after all, the children are so old. Your distant cousin married a widower who was twenty years older than her. Later, she fell ill and was not treated, and was tortured to death. Your sister got married last year, and she suffered from domestic violence when she was pregnant. When she came home and cried to your parents, your father hid in the kitchen. Your mother wiped her tears and said, marriage is like this, just bear with it. Sometimes you feel confused. Your mother doesn’t seem to admit it at all. When you were six or seven years old, she committed suicide by taking medicine and asked you to recite a string of numbers, saying that there were thousands of dollars in the bankbook. Go live. She refused to tell the truth, and her life went on like this.

If we become the daughters of the Chinese, it is already a tragedy in the world.

The news accidentally exposed a page or two of grief, but still dare not say that Chinese women are not married and have no children. The smart ones will use the example of Korean women to tell the story, and admit that they are on a birth strike if they are radical.

Female bloggers on the Internet have a consensus: male fans are worthless and will destroy your career to a large extent. (I once witnessed female bloggers selling underwear being harassed and reported by male fans.) There are a few who insist on going their own way and regard their boyfriends and husbands as future partners in their careers, but most of them end in failure. Netizens also learned a word called "backstab". For example, if you partner in a female fan business, but your husband frequently exposes insults to women, the woman has to accept questions from fans: Will your husband have a share of the money I spend with you? There are also some people who feel that getting married now is "shameful" and simply keep their identities incognito and "sneak life". When they get divorced, they will spread the word: Sisters, I am divorced, buy me soon.

It seems that this is the benchmark of the new era, a guiding light towards the "forked road".

But this is exactly what I want, even if it is a "cross-road", it is worth going all the way to the dark, after all, there is no feeling in this world that should be married. Divorce is the best upgrade to marriage.

Anyway, I really feel that getting married is embarrassing, there is no way to do it, and it is not worth looking for any meaning to frame it. From my observation, everything related to marriage seems very earthy, as if there is nothing wrong with marriage.

On the other hand, it also shows that the Chinese people are really too bitter, which may be precisely the case, they need scenes like their children getting married and holding a wedding banquet to realize the misty happiness and let themselves have a little taste of sweetness.

But for the parties to the marriage, it is still the same sentence, there is no feeling of marriage. If it is to "live together", someone suggested in 1919 that two professional women are more suitable. "Two professional women can work together as a partner without feeling tiring or monotonous in their daily lives. This is because they both have a sense of responsibility to each other and know how to measure it. But few men who marry her can continue to do so. A partnership. In fact, if there are no children, this union is not any different in substance. It is two adults who can take responsibility for themselves living under the same roof: if both parties are women, it is to make each other feel A comfortable partner relationship is much better than going to work; if one of them is a man, then it is hardly a partnership, and a woman basically has to move between family and work. Unless she is a superman, the burden on her shoulders It's too heavy, and it will be overwhelmed quickly. Then she has to give up her job and have to accept the boring chores at home that are similar to going to work."

Don't think it's old. It can be said that although this proposal has been proposed for more than 100 years, the situation has not improved, and our opponents still have not become better partners. ——Because men will not give up the privileges brought to them by "unable/learned helplessness" for no reason. Almost every man carefully cultivates ignorance of housework. Whether it is sweeping the scum on the table or taking phone calls in the canteen, doing foreign work is more effective than playing tricks. This is of course a mistake already in his mother's time, when he was a child and learned this trick that has been passed down from generation to generation in the family ("learning to take care of the house is no good"), and then he began to cultivate it consciously or unconsciously. This learned helplessness until it drives his feminist wife to despair.

The most important product of marriage - children, for the Chinese people, the more important function is: to carry on the family line. (Take a good look at that horrific sex ratio.) But studies have shown that the vast majority of people have difficulty accomplishing this task.

Chinese people take it for granted that as long as they get married and have children on time, they will be fine. The fact is: "After 267 years of reproductive competition, only 13.61% of people can have their own direct descendants."

The title of the essay is acerbic: "The Ideal of Perpetuation and the Reality of Universal Extinction"—you will be extinct anyway.