There are many people around us with emotional disorders, but they are not serious enough to see a doctor...

There are always some people around, he/she is in a bad mood, he/she will scold your anger and make you angry, you will feel so innocent and suffer from the fire of anger in vain, when he/she is in a good mood, he/she will take the initiative to reconcile with you, saying I'm just in a bad mood, don't take it to heart and comfort you

If you have such a person around you and you choose to use "calculation", it may make it worse, and even make you prone to frizz and poor concentration!

This is the part of the book <<Conversation with my inner fear>> that resonates with me the most.

In the book, borderline personality disorder (BPD for short) often has the above projection symptoms, blaming you with their own feelings and thoughts, he thinks these things are your problem, not their problem, in their dictionary they will always be That's right ....

book subject

If you read this book and think it is a book about self-regulation, you will be disappointed. This book mainly introduces borderline personality disorder (BPD), how to get along with BPD personality without being emotional

What is the human special micro of BPD

1. Have a madness to avoid real or imagined abandonment

2. There will be two extremes of schizophrenia. When you think you are good, you can be good. If you think you are bad, you are useless.

3. Sometimes I feel overconfident, sometimes overly inferior

4. There are at least two aspects of self-harm: drug abuse/stealing/promiscuity…

5. Repeated suicide or attempted suicide

6. Easily anxious/angered for hours, if not days

7. Chronic emptiness

8. Difficult to control when angry

9. For a short time, many things seem strange

5 out of 9 may be BPD, but after reading it, you may think you may be BPD too

BPD is not a mental illness

People with BPD don't need to see a doctor, because they just have a lot of mood swings. As someone around him/her, you really don't need to change him, because it's harder to change others than yourself, and secondly, in their opinion, they Always be right!

How to live with BPD: 3 dos and 3 dos

3 to

1. To avoid people who always support BPD, always tolerate his/her frizz

2. Avoid the same behavior as BPD people, do not accept his values, and not be influenced by him

3 Stick to your own way of life

3 Don't

1 The person around him/she has BPD which is not caused by me

2 The behavior of people around BPD he/she is beyond my control

3 The sickness of his/her people around BPD is not something I can cure

Be brave and speak your mind at the right time

In the end, the book says that we should be a mirror rather than a sponge

Sponge people choose to say what others say, and he will be fine. In the end, he becomes a gas bag, and finally he gets emotionally serious and emotionally ill!

The person in the mirror chooses others to say that you are not. When you exceed the limit, speak your heart and let the other party understand that you also have a bottom line, not a fake good person who compromises everything, and a soft temper!

In the urban life, we have more or less emotional upsets. Don't just be a gas bag, properly relieve pressure and express your position, in order to live a life of our own values, it is not easy to be spoken by others, and our emotions are strong. We all have emotional illness, but we have to face it, instead of running away from our hearts. The more we run away, the more we will be swallowed up by fear and become a walking corpse who is influenced by our emotions!

In quarrels, do you often compromise and reconcile, or do you _______

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