[Life] Seeing my "blindness and confusion" from the Cambodian fraud incident

The latest news is the "Gold Rush Dream in Cambodia". Young people who want to make a lot of money find out in a foreign land that all this is a scam. Some people continue to stay in the scam, some people escape, and some people sacrifice their lives. Many experts in the news media have discussed why young people make such a choice. There are many reasons. One of them is "to make more money". Under the temptation of everyone wanting to make a lot of money, we cannot see The layout is unreasonable, so I fell into a trap. This invisibleness is my own "blindness and blindness". It is not just for this group of young people. There are such fragments in our lives. It's just different places, different times, The themes are different, we first focus on how to resolve the "blindness and confusion" that make people fall into scams.​

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Take as an example the story of the fourth episode of "The Battle of the Three Brothers" in the recently popular Korean drama "The Very Lawyer Woo Young-min". In the play, the third brother respects his elder brother very much, and believes that the elder brother will never treat his own brother badly for his own sake, so when the eldest brother and the second elder brother bring the cleavage letter and ask for 10 billion in compensation from the government, even if they have I doubted, but under the persuasion of my brother, I signed this contract that was not good for me. I found out later that my brother took 80% of the compensation, and although I had 20% of the tax to pay, I actually incurred a debt of 260 million. Ten million, this debt will drag down the lives of myself and my wife and daughter. Because the third child blindly believed in his elder brother, he did not observe and evaluate the content of the book and the words of his elder brother's persuasion, so he had to bear huge losses. The "blindness and ignorance" of the third child comes from the fixed belief that "my relatives will never lie to me". Some people say that "blindness and confusion" are based on various human desires, which is one of the factors, but whether it is desire or belief, it forms "fixation/attachment", which is this "fixation/attachment". Clinging" leads to seeing no other angle.​

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💡The "fixation" that cannot flow forms "blindness and blindness"​

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​When we believe that an apple is an apple, when others say that it is a red fruit, we will have a voice "apple" in our heart, and even correct the person who said the red fruit and tell him "this is an apple". When we identify it as "Apple", Apple has no place to turn around, and in our eyes, it can only be "Apple". In fact, it can be a "red red ball", "a red fruit with a concave top and bottom", "a red fruit with a small branch on it"... You can even call it a "red fruit". At this time, the apple is not just "apple", it has changed into various names, and anyone can give it a new description, so when we look at apple from this angle, we will not directly say "this is It's an apple," and then put a period on it, but instead would look at the fruit in front of him, and then give the name or description I gave after observing him. Did you notice the difference?​

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💡There will be no "observation" when fixed, and "observation" is established in a fluid space​

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Going back to the third child in the story of "Extraordinary Lawyer Yu Yingzhen", if he added a "flowable space" to his beliefs, when the eldest brother and the second brother approached him to discuss government compensation, even if the older brother used to be He has always been good to him, but after all, this is a large amount of money and he has no experience in receiving compensation in the past. He wants to think about it for a day before signing the agreement. Of course, when he asks for "observation", his brother will definitely fight back. , after all, this cut-off book is based on an unreasonable scam, so the third child must be forced to sign the cut-off book immediately. If there is more "space" in the belief of the third child, he will find something strange. If the elder brother is really good to him, why not give him time to think? My brother should have spent some time discussing this closing statement with the lawyer, and the matter was not in a hurry, but why did he ask for it to be "immediately"? At this time, the original strong belief will begin to soften, and there will not be only the "one", but the "two".​

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The Buddha mentioned in the "Profound Tantric Sutra": "All bhikkhus or wise people, like burning, cutting and refining pure gold, can only be accepted and obeyed by observing what I say." Therefore, even a great wise man like Shakyamuni Buddha They all tell the disciples that they need to "observe, observe, observe" for the teachings of teachers and wise men, not to mention relatives and friends they are not familiar with or strangers they have never met.​

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💡Increase the angle of looking at things, let the iceberg turn into a flowing stream, and cultivate infinite possibilities​

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If the third child in the play can get out of the fixed idea of ​​"I can only trust my elder brother" at the moment: my elder brother has been taking care of me since I was a child, and it is not good for me to take this compensation alone, so I also want to be with my elder brothers. Sharing this compensation is just the way of distribution. I need to consult professionals. Even if the brothers seem urgent, professional advice is what I need more now, and the compensation has not been allocated yet, and there is still time for negotiation. . "At this moment, the third child has walked out of "blindness and confusion", and this scam will be broken.​

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When we give the people and things in front of us an additional angle of observation, we will find that maybe we may make different decisions.​

＊This apple phone on Facebook is so cheap, I just need a new phone​

​ ​ ​ → Who is the seller? Is it from a well-known merchant or has a physical storefront? Why can they book 30% cheaper than the normal price?​

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＊He is so pitiful. Dad has cancer and needs medical bills. He is still unemployed. Anyway, I still have some savings. Helping him in emergency is a good deed​

​ ​ ​ → How long have I known this person? do I know him? Do I know his relatives? Do I need to go to the hospital to take care of his father?​

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​ ​ ​ → What is the background of this company? What are their products? Are there public financial statements? Who is the accountant?​

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So when you look at things from a different angle, you can often see the places that you couldn’t see before, and this extra place resolves the original blind spots, giving you more clarity and understanding. Whether it’s a group of young people who want to go to Cambodia to make money, Or for those of us who are working hard for our daily life in Baodao, when our fixed beliefs flow, the emotions and attachments originally generated by this fixation will also be transformed because of this, because the apples we see at this time are not different. No matter whether it is just Apple, that matter is no longer from the perspective of "it can only be this way", and that person has a side that I can't see before, and this "blindness and confusion" will be broken.​

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Chan Master Zhang Cheng mentioned in the book "Diamond Sutra":​

"This 'personal appearance' will keep you from having a fixed reaction, and it will keep you from seeing other angles. It's like in this era of globalization, there are people who are still alive: the Japanese are the invaders , French are romantic, Indians are dirty and smelly... These labels are the reasons for conflict and dissatisfaction when you interact with the world. Therefore, reduce the fixed impression of others and increase the perspective of seeing things. This is cultivating the "unmanned appearance". Gradually, you will feel that there is indeed room for improvement in many things, but there is also a reason for its existence, which is already worthy of gratitude. Does this state of mind make you more alive? What’s better?” (*Note)​

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When we get rid of that fixed idea and increase the angle of observation of things, it can not only help us to seek good luck and avoid evil, but also avoid falling into the scams set up by others, reduce wrong choices caused by impulsive impulses, and remove the filter for others. The mirror is more tolerant and reduces conflict. Slowly, our life will not be "avoiding evil" all the time, but "seeking auspiciousness" all the time. As Zen Master Zhang Cheng said, this different state of mind, Make our own lives better.​

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🌼Good book recommendation🌼​

"Diamond Sutra". Authors: Zhang Cheng, M·FAN. Shang Zhou Publishing House​