A guide to help you maintain your rationality - He won't let you have a good time, so you should have a good time: Practice not to get hurt when facing a thorny person (4 cards with golden sayings to block evil spirits are included with the book)

This is a practical guide to help you remain rational when facing difficult people≖‿≖

In life, at work, at home,

How often do you meet people with difficult personalities and thorny words?

In addition to giving the other party a copy of "The Art of Shutting Up" (╯‵□′)╯︵┴─┴

This book "He won't let you have a good life, you should have a good life" can remind you,

No one can hurt us,

Unless we allow it🛡️.

Author Debbie. Joffe. Dr. Ellis holds psychologist licenses in the United States and Australia.

Her husband, Albert. Dr. Ellis was hailed as "The Prince of Reason" by Psychology Today magazine👑.

Albert. Ellis was once rated as "the second most influential psychologist in modern times", surpassing Freud and Jung.

As the other half of the "King of Reason",

Debbie is also an influential psychologist;

It belongs to many important psychological associations and societies such as the American Psychological Association, the Australian Psychological Society, etc.

The book lists 94 tips📋,

From facing colleagues in the workplace, partners, parents, children, strangers, yourself, etc.,

It is possible to encounter the opponent's thorny situation.

I met a stranger with thorns a few days ago.

I was hungry after get off work and went to the supermarket to look for food.

When I was checking out, I heard someone yelling.

Because it was blocked by a cabinet at that time,

At first I thought we were friends chatting happily,

Speak louder.

Until I sit down to eat,

Only then did he realize that the other party was also sitting down.

Sitting across from me.

He felt a little mentally abnormal,

There is finished beer on the table,

But it's not like she's just drunk and crazy.

He has tattoos on his body,

His speech is sometimes stuttering, sometimes slurred, and sometimes contains swear words.

So while I was eating, I guessed whether the other person was taking drugs.

The other party also tried to talk to me,

He spoke very vaguely,

I could only nod to him.

I don't want to look at him all the time,

I'm worried that he thinks I'm provoking him,

But there is a small theater in my heart,

Don't look at his words,

Will he think I look down on him and attack me?

So I still looked back at him from time to time while eating.

The result was about ten minutes later,

He was asked to leave by the police (the store manager called the police).

A farce ended.

There may also be thorns between partners,

I once traveled with my ex,

Because I didn't do my homework beforehand,

I didn’t book a resort with a swimming pool.

She insisted on having a swimming pool;

I had to reluctantly give up the non-refundable room.

Use Agoda to book a resort with a swimming pool now.

(I once read in a travel guide that the most powerful website for booking rooms in Asia is Agoda.

Useful websites vary from continent to continent)

Later, I worked hard to study many food, exhibitions, and event discounts.

Share information with your ex,

Take your ex on a date again,

Websites such as WalkerLand, Shishang Player, ShareLife Taiwan Travel Fun, Smile Taiwan, etc. are all good helpers for dating. ,

You can also ask your significant other to use digital software such as Notion to record your next travel plan.

Create beautiful memories together.

Writer Jiang Mo said he has never had a quarrel with his wife.

He is a humorous person,

Through humor, NLP techniques, various psychological techniques learned in books, etc.,

Make his marriage sweet and happy.

The book reminds people who have a partner,

They should maintain a sense of humor when interacting with each other.

You won't give in to negative emotions.

The book also mentions that partners should be able to have fun together.

It’s the best way to beat boredom and feeling numb to your partner.

You can also use "Why are we numb to good things and tolerant of bad things?" from time to time. "How Habits Shape Life" mentioned the strategy of "a little separation is better than a new marriage" to rekindle the fire of love.

Fear and anxiety are sometimes caused by differences of perspective;

If we are not sure why the other person is reacting violently,

Don't assume the reasons yourself;

You can use curiosity to guide him to explain his behavior in his own words.

The other party will take off their guard because of your curiosity.

You may gain a new understanding of him.

The part about the thorny child in the book,

I agree very much with what the author said about letting children reduce their digital time.

Parents must start with themselves.

The more time we spend together in reality, the more

There are more opportunities to get to know each other.

If you love your child enough,

Please "stay away from mobile phones" with your children.

Teacher Wu Jiade wrote in a post a few days ago, "Control your emotions. Be calm when dealing with people and things, and use kindness, tolerance, and empathy for everything in the world."

His Facebook profile reads, "Unless you can't survive, you should be happy" (∩_∩)

Negative emotions will actually always be there.

But we can choose to magnify the good side,

Life is short,

It’s time to learn to love yourself more.

I think there are a lot of practical suggestions in the book.

Hopefully this practical guide will

In addition to making you more rational,

Can always maintain happiness v(￣︶￣)y

🦔Quotes on getting along well with thorny people:

1. Assimilating the other person's needs is an important condition for a harmonious relationship. Nothing can relieve a person's defenses faster than showing you care.

2. To resolve such hostility, head-on confrontation is never the best strategy, but to try to remove the threat they feel.

3. A person's name has a kind of magic power. Most people will calm down when they hear their name. Call the person's name in a soothing tone and reassure him that everything will be fine.

4. Compromise is to show the other party that we are willing to shoulder our half of the responsibilities in the relationship.

5. After facing your own worries and fears, you will deeply realize how difficult it is to fight against your own weaknesses, and you will naturally be more patient with your partner.

6. Avoid falling into a routine. Having fun together is the best way to beat boredom and feeling numb to your partner.

7. As parents, it is our duty to ensure that our children develop a strong sense of self and avoid getting lost in meaningless and sometimes dangerous digital communication.

8. By showing their vulnerability, parents are showing their children that they are also affected by reality, frustrations and conflicts, and that their children are not alone in their frustrations. Parents also need to struggle through their own difficulties.

9. Observe the things that make the prickly person happy and take the initiative to make it a topic between you - you will make him feel special and that you really care about his life.

10. If parents spend as much time online as their children, it will be difficult to regulate their children’s digital time. Start with yourself and plan some offline time or offline days into your family's daily routine.

11. When communicating with children, if parents talk more than what is heard, this is not called a conversation, but talking to themselves.

12. The thorny people in life challenge us, but they also make us grow and transform into better people.

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