In chatting with many of our friends recently, we have all found that we are not honest enough about our inner emotions.

We inadvertently avoid our unease and unhappiness, and instead cover up the truth with words like I'm fine, I'm okay. Of course, on some occasions, we just have to keep those negative energies away so that we can complete tasks calmly and rationally, instead of jumping on the conference table and yelling at the boss (laughs).

The question is "retrospective", do we have enough time to lay out the emotions that have been covered up today?

If not, where did these suppressed emotions go?

outburst, avoidance, numbness

Repressed emotions don't go away, and over time, these emotions become part of our insensitivity, keeping love, hope, joy, joy, and all your unwanted emotions away.

It may first become a kind of small volcano, erupting from time to time, making you always anxious, scared, and angry because of some small things, but you don't know why.

You want to get rid of this little volcano, so it takes over your self-growth checklist, you set all kinds of goals, you practice all kinds of exercises, but it's all because "I don't want to feel these emotions anymore."

Emotions then get pushed deeper and deeper, slowly turning into a wall that keeps you from reacting and feeling outside of your head to everything. Until you also become part of the wall, freezing from the toes, until the whole person becomes a stone statue.

It sounds alarmist (laughs), but it's so real, so real that if you pay attention, you must be surrounded by similar irritable maniacs, Miss Anxiety (huh?), Mr. Fear, lost people who are obsessed with self-exercise, rational To a robot that makes people doubt whether there is an emotion or not, a master of numbness who sees nothing indifferent...

We don't need to label everyone, but I just want to point out that the imbalances that ultimately lead to repression and denial are all around us.

Are you one of them? That's okay, so am I, and a lot of the time, each of us is.

Because the world, whether it’s the workplace, social environment, family environment, or partnership, has little room for our emotions, which is the part we are least aware of.

You can try this: Take out a blank piece of paper and pen, time it for three minutes, and quickly write down the words that come to mind about feelings. Pick it up when you're done, take a look at it, and think about it for another minute until all the words in your brain's database are drained.

How many sensations are on your list? These feelings, can you recall the situations and feelings they occurred to you?

Let the subconscious mind freely write a feeling journal for you

I use the words emotion and feeling interchangeably because we already have deep-rooted ideas and perceptions about "emotion", but "feeling" is a vague word in our culture, and when you mean "feeling," you often say Unexpected words popped up.

In short, what we need to dig is both emotions and feelings, both of them need to be seen - "The Book of Emotions" , there are 156 kinds of emotions that can be verified, I believe that few people can write such a list. .

How to do it? Try the following practice methods, you can also freely adjust the version that suits you, but for the first fourteen days, it may be easier to follow the table:

1. Set the time when you want to write your diary: after you wake up and drink a glass of water, before going to bed, before eating dinner...you can, but the time should be clear, preferably after your daily routine, so that you can ensure that the signal is clear enough to let You will not forget this.
2. Set your intentions: we want to explore our emotions, we want to unpack the inner landscape, but we don’t want to judge ourselves (why am I still feeling anxious today? Stop!), we are curious, open, and accepting gesture to write.
3. Open a diary: If you don't have a diary, maybe you can just grab a notebook. Handwriting is more suitable than a computer, because we want to "feel" that we are writing, and writing down is definitely much more real than typing on a computer.
4. Write the date: The date is for us to look back and find some clues about ourselves.
5. Start exploring: Take a few deep breaths and ask yourself: How am I feeling right now? Then please let it go, yes, just let it go, until you feel empty but a little itchy to write, and freely write the words in your journal, write as much as you can, and it's okay to contradict each other.
6. Extension: After you stop writing, ask yourself, what are these emotions trying to tell me? You don't need to ruminate on the origins of your emotions in great detail, just focus on "What are the emotions trying to tell me?" and think about what you can do to support those emotions

(Source: Heroine's Spiritual Quest pp.108–110, the simplified version only explores the senses, if you have the heart to try to explore the body, mind and inner intuition, you can also refer to this book)

If you can, I really want this little exercise to become a part of your life, you can try it for seven days, fourteen days, twenty-one days, and you have the right to stop at any time, it's just a small experiment, even if Stopped, it doesn't matter. And if you persevere and find that you have changed, you are welcome to share it with me!