I like to pretend I don't know, people who don't know are happy

I often unknowingly smell unnatural in other people's words and physical expressions, and sometimes I don't know if I'm a sensitive child, maybe sometimes I am. Often because of this, I was entangled in a negative emotion. At the time when I was troubled by such a character and was the most vulnerable, I was just an introverted child who dared not face strangers.

Later, I learned how not to hurt myself, that is to pretend not to know, I feel like they want to lie to me, they hope I don't know, so I pretend to be cheated, even if I am cheated, it doesn't matter, people who don't know Sometimes happier. (If you cheat money, you can't fake it and don't know)

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There was a company dinner, and my colleagues at the same table were from the next department. We chatted very warmly during the meal, and we usually interacted a lot in the company. Instead, a few people gathered in front of the store and seemed to be discussing something. I walked over and asked casually, "Are you going to renew the stall?"

A few people squeaked out a word or two "Yes... Ah", and then there was a silence. I felt that I was the source of this silence, so I said embarrassingly, "Then I'll go home first." ", they immediately resumed their enthusiasm and said "you are going home, be careful on the road!"

It's not that I didn't think that I might be able to join them naturally. I was a little hurt at that moment, but they didn't invite them, so why should I have the cheek to say I want to go too?

It doesn't matter, it turned out that I thought I was too friendly with others. Maybe this embarrassment made me know how to handle the distance. After that day, I still interacted with them as normal in the company. I thought maybe they would also discuss my day. Enthusiasm embarrass them! But it doesn't really matter if there is or not, because I don't know, it's better not to know.

If I was a teenager, I might have struggled for three days and three nights! (laugh)

It's me being sentimental, just take it back!

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I used to be very entangled in the relationship between people, because if I treat a person sincerely as a friend, I always feel that the other person wants to be the same as me, but how can a human being be so simple?

Xiaofu and I are very good friends. When it comes to my best friends in real life, I can only think of two people. One is my high school friend Alu, and then there is Xiaofu. Alu and I are very compatible with each other. We may not see each other for a long time, but every time we meet, we hit it off right away. If there is a misunderstanding, we will say it directly without being sloppy at all, and Xiaofu and I have complementary personalities. In addition, we have been together for a long time. I have had a period of time. I don't understand him very much.

For me, because I am a very good friend, I will tell him everything about myself. If I say something to a mutual friend or make an appointment for dinner, I will also let Xiaofu know, so that he will not feel uncomfortable when he finds out. , so I thought that the other party would do the same, but Xiao Fu didn't. He never said anything, but I often found out by accident. At that time, I started to be indifferent to him, Xiao Fu was very puzzled, and only knew I have a crush on him.

Later we reconciled. I wrote him a very long letter. After reading it, he also wrote a long message with a message to reply to me. In a word, he did not know that I would have thought this way. He didn't want to hide anything from me, he just naturally got along with his friends. At that time, I may have realized that everyone's definition of friendship is different. Is it too suffocating to know everything like me? (Ok, I won't do this now 😂)

We are very good friends, and we respect each other's way of treating friendship. I think my heart may have opened up after this. I know that I can no longer hold tightly to what I have in my hands. Painful things.

Since then, we have found the most appropriate distance, why should I know everything, knowing too much is also a very hard thing!

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Have you ever thought that someone scolds you behind your back?

This is what happened when I worked in the previous company. The seniors in the same department were very enthusiastic and taught me a lot of things. Because I was just a rookie when I first joined the company, I think the seniors are really good and patient. After learning for a while, I Now that I can work independently, I don’t know how to ask my seniors about everything.

As a result, one day my senior suddenly privately asked me what I had just told someone from the branch, and I replied with a puzzled answer.

"It's just work."

After I was separated from the care of my seniors, my work went quite smoothly, and I began to get acquainted with colleagues in other departments, but I found that my seniors would be overly "concerned" with my interactions with my colleagues, which made me start to be more sympathetic. He became wary. The seniors started to do a lot of silly little things, and replaced their own stickers with a string of words. Others might not be able to see it, but I knew at a glance that he was scolding me. Then, consciously or unintentionally, I picked on the small faults in my work. I made a typo on the performance report and posted it to the department's group to tell me, so that the department supervisor and the boss can see it. Later, he even triggered a bigger incident. I can write a separate article about my affairs in this company, and I will write it down in detail later.

At that time, I didn't hold my breath. One day I asked him directly on the spot whether those little actions were intentional, and I described them to him one by one. His expression looked surprised. I guess he didn't expect that I knew all about it. , and then he said in a very guilty tone

"No..no..yes"

However, after the supervisor came out to be a peacemaker, I stopped exploding.

I can pretend I don't know, but that doesn't mean you can challenge my patience. (Fuck fart 😂

Later, I thought about it. In fact, it is impossible for people to be liked by everyone. Maybe some people are scolding me now! Of course, if everyone knows it like the above story, it's really hard to endure it so ugly, but if it gets out of control because of this, will it take advantage of other people's wishes?

It's okay to pretend you don't know or really don't know, just let them know that you don't really care that much.

And I, who pretended not to know, was still very happy with the people who really cared about me and loved me. I took care of my heart, that's fine, and the rest is not so important. But I guess it's because I've been pretending not to know, which makes him aggravate (laughing and laughing).

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Every short story is my attempt to pretend I don't know what happened, and most of the time it turns out good, although there are occasional things that go wrong (like the last short story), it seems, pretending I don't know and it doesn't apply to all situations. Many counter-examples can be given to show that it's a good thing to not know.

But I still believe that many times, it is happier to pretend not to know.