【閒談】你不需要迎合別人，你只需要做你自己

最近，很常在FACEBOOK上聽到這首歌。

完整歌詞
Put your make up on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim
So they like you, do they like you?
Get your sexy on
Don't be shy, girl
Take it off
This is what you want, to belong
So they like you, do you like you?
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
Yooou don't have to try
Ohh
Get your shopping on, at the mall, max your credit cards
You don't have to choose, buy it all
Do they like you? Do they like you?
Wait a second,
Why should you care, what they think of you
When you're all alone, by yourself
Do you like you? Do you like you?
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
Yooou don't have to try
Noooo
Oooh
You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don't have to change a single thing
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try, try, try, try
You don't have to try
You don't have to try
Take your make up off
Let your hair down
Take a breath
Look into the mirror, at yourself
Don't you like you?
Cause I like you

我大概的介紹一下這首歌，這首歌主要是針對女生視角所寫的一首歌。

大綱是，有些女生，為了想要讓別人喜歡自己，而去改變自己，這種改變不是因為自己喜歡而改變，而是去迎合別人的喜好，認為這樣就能夠讓別人喜歡自己。

但，事實上是如此嗎?別人真的會因為這樣而喜歡自己嗎?

然而，自己喜歡這樣迷失自我的自己嗎?

事實上，想要討人喜歡，不需要去迎合別人的喜好，不需要去嘗試一堆不是自己真心想做的改變，你要做的是，你需要喜歡你自己。

在我的占卜個案中，有些人有人際上的問題，有些人對自己沒有自信擔心別人的看法

以我自己的觀察，這類人都有一個核心議題，那就是自己不夠了解自己或是不喜歡自己。

雖然這首歌是以女生視角來寫的，但是不管男生、女生都一樣。

我們本來就無法讓所有人都喜歡自己，因為個人喜好是主觀的，是比較來的，別人眼中的自己並不代表自己，只是代表別人的看法。

不需要為了討好別人、讓別人喜歡自己，而去做了一些自己並不是真的喜歡的改變。

每個人都是獨特的，重要的是，你了解你自己嗎?

自己的優點、自己的缺點，自己的樣子長的如何，又或者你希望自己是什麼樣子的人呢?

找出自己，活出自己，要能夠先喜歡你自己，接納你自己所有的樣子，才能夠吸引到喜歡你的人喔。

如果自己都不喜歡自己了，那麼要如何讓其他人喜歡自己呢?