010 | "We will say goodbye to those lingering pains" after reading

The process of encountering this book was a bit absurd. I typed "Life Confused" in the youtube search bar, and then clicked on a channel of a reading youtuber and saw this book. Apparently, youtube has become my "worry-relief grocery store" .

This Youtuber's introduction is full of personal style, and I didn't find the answer to "confused in life", but I was successfully planted in this book. It was only later that I learned that the author is an amateur psychological counselor. While holding a full-time job, he runs a WeChat public account.

There are not many dry goods in the book, but it is like a bowl of rice, full of meat and vegetables. The topics covered are nothing more than the big questions common to the general public, such as "intimacy", "workplace troubles", and "life dilemmas" that modern people care about. Think about it carefully, what was it that moved you?

Until the next day when I chatted with a friend who is engaged in the profession of "life coach", everyone talked about their idea of "returning to China". The sentence that came out of me suddenly: "I miss those fireworks and all sentient beings." What I miss is nothing more than the "possibilities" that connect with all beings.

After going abroad for almost 4 years, 30 years old has set the flag of "immigration" for himself, and he has successfully obtained the "resident status" of a strange country. What's the point of all this? It really doesn't have any grand meaning. Only after you have experienced everything can you have the confidence to say "Shanghai is better". After all, like a person drinking water, he knows whether he is warm or cold.

There is one point in the book that strikes me in particular, "pain is inevitable" . There are eight hardships in life, birth, old age, sickness and death, parting from love, and asking for nothing. Do not resist pain, resistance itself is a pain. Thinking of the countless nights I have spent alone, I have nowhere to put my pent-up emotions, and resisting the pain itself magnifies all negative thoughts. Now I realize that at that time, I was bound by "I should be happy" without knowing it.

Maybe it's a little late, I didn't realize that "pain is inevitable in life" until I was 33 years old. On the road of "embracing pain", like a baby, I just started to babble, and I couldn't even say "pain" completely. these two words. Just like the "farewell" in the title, it is not "put down", but a gentle "goodbye". If you can't let it go, you can carry on with your life.

The world is not worth it, life is meaningless, it is true. Maybe we will be like a boat in the end, but we will eventually flow to the vast ocean.