"If the flowers bloom, the butterflies will come." What if they came to take advantage of me?

"If the flowers bloom, the butterflies will come." I never quite agree with this sentence, I think it's only half right.
The people who are attracted will value my resources and abilities in the end? Or my talent? Or do you like my personality?

Many years ago, a friend was in the middle of a divorce lawsuit, but the lawyer told her to give up. The lawyer was so mixed up that she was not even ready to appear in court, so she asked me for help. I have always been soft-hearted towards women divorced from domestic violence, and the lawsuit was finally settled satisfactorily.

At that time, she couldn't write her master's thesis, and it was I who helped her introduce the interviewees, so she passed the test smoothly.

She was also moved by the frequent PO articles, saying that she would never forget this low ebb period, and that those who helped her will definitely repay such great kindness in their lifetime, and so on.

A few years later, due to an accidental injury, I was almost half paralyzed and lay in bed for several years, unavoidably a little depressed.
She said, "I know how to deal with depression, but I'm too busy to talk to you," she said.

I think she must be too busy, so she didn't even reply to FB during the New Years, festivals and birthdays.
For her indifference, I explained it as "the low tide after her divorce", and I didn't blame her.
It was only later that she found out that she was busy with a new relationship at that time, and she got married in less than a year.

Later, she and her husband planned to open a shop, so she took the initiative to show up and ask me about related matters,
I reminded her: you are not familiar with laws and finances, will it be too risky to open a store?
She didn't listen, and she was deceived and wanted to file a lawsuit, and she came to me again for help.

I said there was nothing I could do to help. The case had already entered the trial stage in the court. Besides, I had reminded beforehand that everything can only be left to the judge.

Then she continued to be very busy,
I also delete my friends directly. Anyway, she doesn't reply to my greetings. It doesn't matter if I delete them or not.

Until these few years, I once chatted with teacher E, E said: "You are too kind"
I just think I'm stupid, I keep making excuses for her, I want to say she's busy, and I never blame her in my heart. It was not clear until the end.

"There is a loan and it is returned, and it is not difficult to borrow again", and the same is true when it is used in friendship.

If she really cared, she would know that when I was hurt, I was the weakest and most in need of help.

As a result, during that period, I encouraged my netizens through emails for a long time, but instead they worked in the legal world! He is the one with the heaviest workload and the most qualified to say that he is not free!

Several friends were like her. After knowing that I was injured, they first greeted me politely, and then disappeared.

It's no wonder that the emperor in the TV series likes to go on tour in micro clothes.
I want to come to the emperor's love not just to play in the mountains and water,
But when we are powerless and ordinary,
Some people's faces change quickly, which is also a wonderful show.

I used to be depressed and felt that not only my health but also my income and relationships were lost,
My whole world is disintegrating!
But if it weren't for this serious illness,
I don't think I can see the real face of these people until now (all younger than me),
From beginning to end, I just want to concave me to use it for free.
All of this is regarded as a "human heart test" for me in advance.
At least, I don't have to wait until I retire or get old to realize that the reality and utility of these people are not friends at all!

JK Rowling, author of Harry Potter, once said:
"If you want to see a person clearly, look at how he treats people who are weaker than him."
If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.

Sometimes the key is not whether we bloom or not, but depends on the other party's motivation and mentality.
If what the other party wants is for contacts and for other reasons, I would rather not.
Even if it blooms alone and no one comes, I think it is a good thing.