10. "As a victim of sexual harassment, watch the sexual harassment incident of chicken chop girl Zheng Jiachun"

(2021.2.9)

＊"Foreword":

In recent days, the sexual harassment incident between Chicken Chop Girl and Weng Liyou has caused a lot of uproar. After observing the comments and comments on the Internet such as press conferences and news reports, the author found a special phenomenon: most of the men who commented were inclined to support Weng Liyou, thinking that the chicken chop girl is a girl who only shows her body and breasts, and dresses boldly. The hot "women who should self-examine", and because Weng's usual image is upright and clean, it is considered impossible to do such things as sexual harassment.

These comments and messages really shocked me: it turns out that my stratosphere is so thick! I quoted Zhongshi News here - "'Live broadcast' chicken chop girl tearfully complained about Weng Liyou's sexual harassment I personally exposed the whole incident" "Peaceful Return" The message at the bottom of the video press conference: "Although I don't know Weng Liyou, I believe that an artist who has worked hard for many years and finally achieves a small achievement cherishes his feathers and will not do stupid things. It is not like some young people who only rely on their cheeks to show their milk and flesh. Female artist, no talent at all, just want to show off their flesh and black others to gain a page!",

"I don't believe that a man will sexually harass her, she is a shameless person at all.", "What a poor chicken chop girl, reduced to only the value of being sexually harassed!", "Whether you will commit suicide is your family's. thing!".

- Hype?

I believe that "thinking people" are also very angry when they see these amazing remarks. Although we were not at the scene, we were also the audience off the screen. These comments really subverted my imagination of "the kind people in Taiwan". Let's not assume which side is completely correct, but in all fairness, will the chicken chop girl go "for no reason" to sue for such a serious action, knowing that it will completely offend many big bosses in the entertainment industry in order to stir up the news and increase her popularity? Besides, as a "woman", everyone knows that as long as you tell everyone that you have been "sexually harassed", it is extremely easy to be permanently labeled by this society, and who will exchange it for "a news item" What about the consequences of "permanent loss of reputation" and "offending many seniors in the entertainment industry"? Although the "motivation" of the chicken chop girl is indeed questionable, the author will not particularly focus on this throughout this article.

 ＊ㄧ、How to be a qualified victim in a society of "misogynistic censorship"?

In the whole thing, what disgusts me the most is that people have such high standards for "qualification of victims"! Netizens have a lot of controversy over the image of "chicken chop girl", and many people even think that The image and clothes of the chicken chop girl were originally bold and cool, selling sex toys aircraft cups, photographing naked calendars, etc., and there were disputes in themselves, so "what she said is not very credible". There are even many men who think that her image is "it's easy to attract people to commit crimes", so it's not too unexpected or important for her to be "touched". After seeing Dongsen News's "Chicken Pai Girl's Sexual Suspicion", many people thought that if the heroine of this incident was replaced by Zhang Junning, Lin Yichen and other "relatively better and "healthier"" actresses, then The result will definitely be different - the public will be more sympathetic and trust the woman, and public opinion will definitely point the finger at Weng Liyou. "Because of their image, what they say can be trusted."

-Self-examination?-

There have been many cases of sexual assault and harassment in history, and the female victims are often "reviewed" at the first time: "If something like this happens, there are problems on both sides", "A penny can't be beaten", "If something happens, there will be problems on both sides." There's a reason", "What did she wear that day?", "How could she just get drunk in front of strangers?" and so on, it is absurd to think that being sexually harassed/assaulted is definitely "causal", and among them "women" image” is a major focus.

When the client is sexually harassed, he often habitually examine himself first: "Am I wearing very revealing clothes today?", "Am I too sensitive?", "Or he didn't mean that, I misunderstood. ?" and so on. No, sexual harassment is sexual harassment. At the moment of being sexually harassed, women habitually review themselves. Such behavior is a bad habit left by the patriarchal society habitually reviewing women all the time.

-When is it "totally" the perpetrator's fault?-

Furthermore, if the victim is usually bold and sexy, then she is "relatively" able to forgive the perpetrator's misconception when she is sexually harassed, and many people even say "deserved", "I am so arrogant and shameless to be sexually harassed." There are many such disgusting remarks; on the other hand, if the victim is usually a healthy and conservative image, then she is worthy of sympathy for being sexually harassed, "only then is the perpetrator's fault", "the perpetrator is worthy of being harassed." taunting". What exactly is a "qualified victim" in the eyes of this society? What conditions must a victim meet in order to meet the standard that the public considers "worthy of sympathy"? When will it meet the standard of "completely the perpetrator's fault"?

 ＊2. Will the victim's "dress" affect the perception?

In this society where the awareness of sexual equality has not yet fully risen: "absolutely". From time to time, I can hear relatives and friends "kindly reminded" girls: "Don't wear too little! Wear conservatively, protect yourself, and walk at night will not be dangerous." These seemingly kind reminders are actually repeated emphasis on the father The importance of "women must examine themselves at all times" in the power society - "Don't let yourself be a girl who looks "disorderly""

If the client is dressed cool or even drunk at the moment of being violated, then they are half at fault, because "they seduced the perpetrator to commit the crime", so they must bear half the responsibility. In addition, there is even a certain public opinion saying: "Because some men have 'animal nature' and have no way to restrain their sexual desire, they can't be completely blamed." Look carefully, what kind of absurd statement is this?

- Dressing = casual degree?

From birth to growing up, through all the processes of socialization, any mentally healthy person must know "how to restrain their desires". Closer to home, the victim's "dress" should never be the "reason" for being sexually harassed/violated. Because the clothes the victim wears at the moment of being violated are often not naked, and how to dress is completely a woman's free choice, "she chooses to wear less does not mean that you have a reason to sexually harass/violate her."

Although people are gradually understanding that what they wear is just a choice of personal preference, many people still have the idea that "their cool clothes are indeed easy to 'induce crime'", so "they have to be careful by themselves". What this means is that they "induce" men to commit crimes? Why shouldn't they "often kindly" remind men that they must restrain themselves and respect women? Why should women be the ones who should be cautious everywhere?

*3. Courage to be open

In this incident, what I admire most is the chicken chop girl's "courage to tell the truth regardless of everything". In this society, how difficult it is for women to come out and say "I was sexually harassed". Many people still think that women who have been sexually harassed are "dirty", and speaking out will not only damage their reputation, but also this "negative label" will never be removed. Therefore, no matter what the outcome is, I sincerely admire Chicken Chop Girl's great courage to say "I was sexually harassed".

Besides, chicken chop girls will definitely be questioned when they accuse sexual harassment of such remarks, "Is there any evidence? If there is no evidence, don't come out and spread rumors." In fact, the definition of sexual harassment is still based on the "subjective feelings of the victim". As long as the victim feels uncomfortable, most of them can be called sexual harassment. From ancient times to the present, sexual harassment has often been difficult to provide clear evidence, resulting in many related incidents being easily tolerated, so it is impossible to prosecute at all. And Zheng Jiachun also clearly stated that she only needs Weng Liyou to give a sincere apology. Maybe Weng forgets the inappropriate behavior in the process because of his self-confessed "stage effect". There are bad ideas, but as long as they cause discomfort to the other party, show due attitude and demeanor, and give an appropriate apology is the best response.

In addition, at the press conference held by Haoji Records (Weng Liyou's agency), Weng kept mentioning "my dream", "my mother" and "my wife", without any mention of the day. After the incident, the people who originally supported him began to question, and even a nine-month-pregnant staff member was moved out to block the gun, which made him even more suspicious in this turmoil.

In addition, Ji Pai Mei’s announcement of sexual harassment led to a reflection: Even Chicken Pai Mei, an actress who has a relative right to speak, bravely spoke out about her experience, but was maliciously attacked and questioned by a large number of netizens, and there were even thousands of comments. In "Review of Chicken Chop Girl". This can't help but make me wonder, if the "most" of what chicken chop girls get for speaking out about their sexual harassment experience is not comfort but blame and review, will other women dare to express their experiences in the future? Will they face "" If you can’t provide evidence, you’re trying to judge others”, “What is your own image is important”, “Isn’t it responsible for spreading rumors?” What about extremely questionable remarks?

I'm not saying that any woman can freely accuse herself of being sexually harassed. Some kind or careless actions may also cause misunderstanding. As long as the other party apologizes, it is enough, but usually women who have "a certain degree of discomfort" will accuse themselves of being sexually harassed. . Therefore, what we should think about is our mentality - "censorship of female victims" in sexual harassment, and whether this society is too tolerant of "male perpetrators", especially if it is too easy for those so-called "good image" and "pleasant". Looking for a reason or an excuse for the golden man who likes it?

＊4. Sexual harassment has become a must for most girls. Almost every girl has experienced sexual harassment in the process of growing up, but it is only the difference in behavior.

Take me as an example, yes, I was sexually harassed in high school too.

At that time, it was close to the school test. I was going to the toilet in the library near my house. When I looked up, I saw that a mobile phone was secretly filming me. I screamed when I found out. After that, I clearly heard the sound of fast and rapid footsteps and was running away in a panic. At that time, I felt very frightened and scared. Although I knew that the person who took the candid photo had left, I was still not sure whether there would be any strangers outside. After staying in the empty and dark toilet for more than ten minutes, I called my friend in fear and asked what to do. Later, I had to look at the monitor to know who the murderer was, so I had to call the police and learned that the other party was a high school student of my age. After arriving at the police station, the parents of the other party were notified to be present, and the male student was lying on the table on the first floor of the police station crying non-stop. In the end, seeing that the other party was a first-time offender and the parents were very sincere, he gave up filing a lawsuit and reserved legal prosecution. right.

In fact, this incident did leave a certain shadow in the life of the victim. I still remember that after this incident, in addition to worrying every time I went to the toilet, I also posted my experience in order to be vigilant against my friends at that time. In the limited-time feed on instegram, after going to school the next day, there was a boy classmate who had not yet developed his mind and didn't know him. He laughed and shouted, "The toilet was filmed!", and ran away cowardly after yelling at me. . At that time, I was a person with a great sense of justice (taimei), and I chased after him to find him and said in an admonishing tone: "Do you think this is funny?", "Should you apologize to me?" He had to admit his mistake and apologize. I have no regrets and I am very satisfied with my reaction at that time. There are many girls who do not have such courage, so this kind of "seemingly innocuous mockery" is easy to let go. I hope more women can speak up for themselves bravely!

Because the school of the other party will impose punishment, the person who handled the incident at the other school called our school to notify the relevant handlers. I still clearly remember that the teacher asked me at that time: "Did you wear shorts after that time?" At that time, I was naive and said innocently: "I wear uniform pants!" I didn't realize the teacher at all. ridiculous question. Now think about it, if I wear shorts, will the teacher "kindly" remind me and say: Be careful, wear long pants in the future and you'll be fine, right? These problems are censored by misogyny in a patriarchal society It’s just that people are often too familiar with this normality to realize that these problems imply the power of such a large patriarchal structure.

*"Summarize:"

What I do not deny is that the chicken chop girl once mentioned that "it's cool to be spanked by a male doctor" is indeed easily misunderstood by the public. In particular, as a public figure, Zheng's behavior and remarks are more likely to be magnified and inspected. He must think more carefully when expressing his opinions and thoughts, so as not to allow netizens the opportunity to attack his "double standards".

To sum up, what disgusts me most about this incident is that "there are quite a few netizens who are reviewing 'what a qualified victim should be'". What do you think of a woman and a woman who is conservatively dressed, has a healthy image, and is well-mannered, each accusing herself of being sexually harassed? What the author wants to express here is that the image of the victim should not be a factor to rationalize the perpetrator, and more importantly, There are no so-called "qualified" victims, only perpetrators who should self-examine. Since we are not the parties involved, human beings who are "human" can only watch the changes as much as possible, and should not be bullied with malicious words.