Whispers of non-lovers in "The Year of Circumcision"

2019 is coming to an end in a blink of an eye. Some people say that this year is the "Year of Circumcision" for yellow silk and blue silk. Unfortunately, this sentence has come true for me.

An old friend was very angry after reading my article about the Hong Kong police and told me that she could not accept my opinion and was very disappointed in me, then she liked my blog facebook and told me not to reply to her 's text message, and added "Goodbye" at the end.

20 years of friendship ruined.

During the 79-day "Occupy Central Movement" five years ago, we each adhered to the line between blue silk and yellow silk. We had different positions but respected each other's choices. The movement was led by "He Li Fei", and everyone can understand the changes brought by the struggle to life. At least, they both believe that the other's starting point is for the good of Hong Kong, but the methods are different.

At that time we were still careful to maintain our friendship, occasionally taking a step back when we were not speculative, and not letting political issues affect our friendship.

This time, it started with the "Reverse Extradition Movement" and developed into a "counter-rights movement" based on police-civilian conflict. Led by "Chongchongzi", behaviors that were not seen five years ago, such as arson and throwing petrol bombs, have become There is a chasm that can never be bridged between me and my friends.

This gulf isn't just about "the bad guys are the bad guys" vs "the thugs are the bad guys".

There are also "it's okay to stop people", "Hong Kong is being rotten well", "the thugs are all paid, and the fat man Li gives it", "831 Prince Station has never died", "" The police are too kind to save Hong Kong", "We are always Chinese", "I should have listened to my grandfather", "The welfare of family members is much better than that of the British Hong Kong era", "Foreign forces have taken Hong Kong Pushed to death", "The Yankees just don't want the Chinese to be powerful", etc. (delete 9000 words below).

Every sentence made me refute, and every refutation created a wound for friendship. After a few months, the friendship was scarred, and finally had to part ways. My article was just the straw that broke the camel's back.

Differences in three views of life

Thinking about it, these disputes are not just disputes of words, but in essence differences in the three views of life.

These differences do not appear when singing and dancing are peaceful - handkerchiefs to eat together, go shopping, chat about celebrity gossip, talk about tips for investing in stocks, and blend together - never say "are Hong Kongers Chinese?", "" Can Hong Kong have its own real sovereignty?", "Should the National People's Congress interpret the law", "Should there be true universal suffrage" and so on.

These political core issues are deeply rooted in everyone, just like the Filipinos love rice and the Japanese love sashimi, and cannot be changed in a short period of time.

When the core values conflict, the relationship is not easy to maintain.

Just like chickens and ducks can live in harmony in the farmhouse, but when the farmhouse is flooded (Be Water), the ducks can swim leisurely, but the chickens will definitely not like the farmhouse with water. On this issue of "water", chickens and ducks will never have a common view.

In particular, this "reverse extradition" campaign lasted for more than half a year, and everything that happened during this period was the trigger for friction. If the incident subsided earlier, perhaps the friction could be reduced and there would be a chance to mend the wounds. However, the protests show no signs of stopping, and the wounds continue to deepen, and finally they have embarked on the road of "breaking up".

Different ways can work together

Because of different political stances, "Daos are different and do not conspire"? Not necessarily, I've seen couples with vastly different political stances living together in harmony -- right here in my house.

In Taiwan, my father is dark green (supporting the DPP) and my mother is dark blue (although not a Korean fan, but very supportive of the Kuomintang). The two are under the same roof, and they are still happy and happy every day, going in and out together. Couples for many years have allowed them to develop a set of coexistence methods of "seeking common ground in differences":

They watch the same 8:00 FMTV every day. Mom watches the 26-inch LG in the dining room, and Dad watches the 40-inch SONY in the living room, discussing the plot while watching. When the commercial time is up, my mother will switch to the political commentary programs of Zhongtian, Dongsen, and TVBS, and my father will switch to Sanli and One TV. When the commercial time is over, I will remind the other party to switch back to watch the eight o'clock file and continue to discuss the plot.

They know each other's political stance and who the other party supports, but they don't deliberately argue right and wrong on certain issues. (Of course, this is a communication model that they have developed over the years. When the blue-green regime just changed many years ago, they often became red-faced because of political issues....)

I originally thought that true friendship can accommodate all kinds of differences, but this "cutting the seat" let me know that even if I am willing to accept the other party's different ideas, the other party will not necessarily suffer.

The feeling of "being cut off" is somewhat similar to "being broken up". Disappointment, regret, pity, and a hint of anger.

Who should be charged with this account?

old friend? Of course not, after all, her life has been affected and she is also a victim;

Demonstrator? No, after all, they suffered from excessive force and suffering;

A Sir? Although they enforce the law excessively and receive a lot of overtime pay, they are only doing things according to orders;

Qiqiqi? Although she is the initiator and will do her own thing, she cannot be the master after all;

Even on the head of the big boss who is in charge of Qiqiqi!

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