Life Notes 16 | Good

I have always been slow, but in the second month of my internship, I finally got to know my colleagues. During the lunch break a few days ago, three or five colleagues met for a meal nearby. The topic of the girls often switched to the romance channel. Colleague A, who was studying in the counseling and auxiliary department, mentioned the end of the previous relationship, "Because the other party is a man with a strong desire to control and lack of control. People with a sense of security, I have done a lot of homework before breaking up.” Wanting to separate peacefully, she first sorted out the confusion and analyzed the points that she valued and neglected emotionally, instead of straightening the unhappy parts of the two of them when they got along. tossed to the opponent.

When I think of myself as an anxiously attached person, whether in friendships or romantic relationships, because of fear of separation, I often hollow myself out and accidentally lose my balance. It takes more time and effort to climb out of the emotional black hole. Constantly falling into the loop, in order not to let myself fall in, I had to build a line of interpersonal defense to protect myself. It took me a long time to realize that the person holding the dagger and venting my anger on me was myself. When I realized this, I suddenly felt relieved.

About to usher in a new age, if you ask me, what have I grown this year? "Put down the dagger and continue to be a soft person, I am willing to accept and like this kind of me" Learn to catch the confusion and accept the vulnerable part of yourself at low ebbs (perhaps vulnerability itself is not a derogatory term)... Learn to accompany yourself This is my biggest gain this year.

August 13, the afternoon before sunset: bright mood

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It has been half a year since the release of the first " Life Notes ". The content is sometimes an outward extension of life, and sometimes an inward self-exploration. The writing process is all done in a solitary and interference-free environment. I am very happy to be able to Through the semi-open medium to sort out myself, I will continue to write and live a good life in the future.