After I quit, I'm going to do something that will fail

People always instinctively avoid failure. When encountering things beyond their ability, I often avoid them habitually. When setting goals, I must choose the "most likely to achieve" rather than the "favorite". This is a great realization after I left my job. It is not difficult to see my own shortcomings. It takes the most courage to actually change and practice. So far, I have seen it, but I have not taken a step forward.

Set a long-term plan and stick to it.

This is the advice that most people have given me so far.

I know very well that I am a quick-tempered person who demands efficiency. When I encounter anything, my first instinct is to find the most effective and fastest way. This kind of character has accompanied me for more than 20 years. I have always been proud that this trait is very popular whether in my student days or in the workplace. I will never let things open up, and I can even find the "fastest way". Along the way, because of my "little cleverness", I have gained many benefits, and I have continued to use this great trick like an addiction, and I have hardly made a mistake. I'm used to being fast and also think that's the truth.

Why do I know how to do it faster, but choose to be slower?

I often watch other people use the slow method arrogantly and can't figure out their logic. Walking and walking, I was like a hare in a tortoise and a hare. I thought I could run all the way to the finish line, but I woke up halfway and realized that I didn't know why I was running.

When I don't know why I'm reaching the end, and the goal doesn't make sense, of course, I'll take a shortcut. However, it is impossible for an athlete to cut a watermelon during the competition and walk directly across the playground to the finish line, because after running, that is the meaning of his existence.

Why be fast, because I don't know what the point is, I have to be fast. Those tortoises who walk step by step are because they have goals and know the connection between the end point and themselves. Therefore, even if each step is slow, they walk satisfactorily and willingly. I didn't just slack off halfway through, or couldn't run, but found out that I'm not an athlete and this game shouldn't go on at all. Of course, I will not say that my experience in the past few years is meaningless. After all, they have led me to where I am today, giving me financial support, the growth of various life skills, and more importantly, without the first half of the road, how can I Can I reflect on myself today and adjust my pace.

The advantages of being smart and efficient have become a very, very big trap when looking for the direction of life.

The real question is not whether I should slow down, but why run? Only when you have a goal can you decide what to do, and it has nothing to do with speed. After I left my job, I realized that there are no shortcuts in life. More precisely, it cannot be measured by time, because time itself has relativity, and it exists only after comparison. Meaningless and useless. Only one who sees it as a line will consider him with time, I don't want to be so narrow myself.

My life should not be just a forward line, he is a painting, a movement, a beautiful leaf.

I can't predict life, maybe some people trust God, even if they rely on faith, they can actually follow only themselves. If you want to have no regrets, you should not choose "doing things well", but "honesty". Even though enthusiasm may not be permanent, at least I learned to face it continuously and honestly, and it is easy to detect when "myself" has changed.

I envy many people who are willing to keep their feet on the ground and give everything in the process of self-exploration. But I have to understand that it's not by nature or seeing some rules of success, it's because their upbringing background has been accumulating the experience of "slow and fast", these experiences allow them to distinguish the fastest The road isn't necessarily the best way, so when there are big decisions, they know that "shortcuts often have pitfalls."

To listen to the "real" voice, to listen to the "body" voice. I no longer use my head to transform, accelerate, whatever "it" wants to do. Because on the way of growing up, I did use the wrong method to progress, which caused me to stop halfway through the run. Fortunately, I only got halfway there.

Failure is not scary, and setbacks are not ashamed. "Avoiding danger" is nothing but genetics!

I motivated myself like this: "The brain's inherently timid program has long been useless. Such a model is only applicable to ancient times. During the process of evolution, if humans did not build in genes to actively avoid danger, how could they have dominated the earth for so long. But Now, I will not be stabbed by poisonous scorpions on the road, much less likely to be chased by jaguars. As long as one thing is not life-threatening and does not break the law, there is nothing to be afraid of!”

How to experience failure and try setbacks is almost a violation of human nature. However, if I can only be afraid, I will never be able to see myself differently. The people around me who care about me, whether they are friends or family members, can always give only support or substantial assistance, only "frustration", and only I can give myself. If "naked speech" is my gift to myself, then going through a "setback" is my goal now. I want to tell myself to slow down and do something that "want to do but don't do it", "need to accumulate for a long time", and "slowly progress".

After setting a goal, forget it, don't care about the result, make sure the direction is correct, and focus on every second in front of you.

Let Naked Ci is not just a stop, but an opportunity for me to try different ways to live my life.