When we forget our true beauty - (the boyfriend went to the army) The perfect girlfriend

Because of the relationship of my boyfriend in the army, I have read almost all the teaching and warfare articles.

Strangely, I found that all the articles focused on how to be a "perfect girlfriend", and none of them wrote: how to balance this period.

 The first step for a perfect girlfriend is: after receiving the soldier list, collect all the information and be a caring girlfriend. The result is often more complete than what the soldier has prepared for himself. Because I am worried that the confused A Bing will forget things, or be scolded by the superior...

what is this? Why do we need to know more than he himself?

 The second step of the perfect girlfriend is: If there is a mutiny (when you are a soldier, the relationship between the two sides changes), it is the girl's fault.

Hmm...I don't understand how someone could be so assertive? If today's situation is that this girl is already under pressure to bear, and at the same time she has to tolerate her boyfriend's miscellaneous emotions, if the roles are reversed, will the broken up boyfriend be able to digest it all? Didn't he just throw it out at his innocent girlfriend because he couldn't handle his own emotional energy?

What I want to say is that no matter how hell A soldier feels in the army, it is not caused by his girlfriend. I repeat, all the rules and officers that A Bing hates to obey are—not—his—girlfriend. -Selected. (If Ah Bing's girlfriend can choose, she must choose a cool one for her love... Unfortunately, there are not so many in the current system...)

Since it is not, why should the person who has to bear all or be the gas bag today is Ah Bing's girlfriend? The same applies to work. So don't use the tragic fate as an excuse, the other party will accept this outrageous reason just because she loves you, this is not a way of loving a person that should and must be, because what A Bing gives is not love. When what is given is not love, how can you expect each other - always just enough to respond with love?

Of course, there are still girls who accept emotional bombs that should not be handled by her because of love, and are willing to pay for these unreasonable things. I want to ask girls to ask themselves, do you really think you deserve to be treated like this? Do you really just want to be treated like this? Will A Bing also care and understand you so much when the roles are changed? Are you even as submissive as you are?

In our limited horizons, no one is perfect. The "Perfect Girlfriend" character is like a fragile mirror, reflecting all the flaws we wish it didn't exist. When we look in the mirror, point at the flaws on our faces, constantly criticize and push ourselves, and want to speed up the change, what we are actually doing is—not allowing ourselves to become a true and beautiful version of ourselves at our own speed. . When we identify with the illusion of a "perfect girlfriend" and try to be perfect in some people's eyes, we lose what's more important -- our innate beauty.

Loving someone is a great sentiment, but if we forget to love ourselves while loving someone, one day, we will love someone so much that we are exhausted physically and mentally, so much that we no longer believe in love, and even forget what love is.

So don't give up on finding balance in your relationship so that receiving love and giving love are equal. Allow yourself to receive love just as you allow yourself to give love. In this way, your love will never run out. Blessings to each of you reading this, in any relationship.

The following activities exist to support this special period. Whether it is a soldier who is in dire straits, or a prospective soldier who is about to report, and the girls who are patiently waiting for the soldier to be discharged:
" Those hard days when I was in the army, and those long days when I waited for my boyfriend to be in the army "

May each of us find balance in love; in relationships, be closer to our beautiful and true self.