Reading Notes: <What's Left Behind After Leaving>

I don’t know if you have heard of the profession of relic organizer. Although the handling of post-mortem affairs has become a specialized occupation classification, most people still know very little about this field. I just finished reading the Korean relic organizer Jin Xi recently. Don't write "What's Left Behind", subtitled "The meaning of life learned by the relic organizer from the back of the deceased", the book shares the author's experience in this industry for more than ten years. And the story behind it, of course, also contains the author's insights about life and life and death caused by this, and I am very touched after reading it.

Before reading this book, I didn't know the job of a relic organizer, so I associate them with the home organization and storage described in the book "The Magic of Tidying Up Your Life" by Marie Kondo that I read before. Come together. After reading this book, I realized that the work of relic organizers is much harder and involves more professional knowledge. What they need to do is not only to organize the relics of the deceased, but also to clean first, Disinfection, and treatment of the scene. Especially if the deceased died abnormally, or was discovered long after the death, the situation of the scene can be imagined, and sometimes it is not even a simple cleaning agent bleach, because the smell, Organic acids and corrupt substances will penetrate into the bedding, clothing, furniture, wallpaper, floors, floor coatings, cement floors, etc. If the source of the smell is not completely removed, the whole room may no longer be able to live well. In addition, communicating with the relatives and friends of the deceased is not an easy job. Some relatives and friends will be emotionally broken when they see the relics of the deceased, while some family members don’t want to care at all. Although it is such a hard and meaningful work, Relic organizers are sometimes rejected, especially in the eastern society, some people still shy away from death, feel unlucky, and read the author's writing that "they have to endure the cynicism of others, and they are not allowed to eat in the restaurant. In addition to sprinkling salt in the face or all kinds of ostracism, the neighbors don't like to be next to them, so they have to move constantly, and they can't stay in one place for a long time." It's really sad.

Many of the stories in the book make people feel a little embarrassed after reading them. Some people choose to end their lives for various reasons. Some people are discovered long after their death and can't find anyone to deal with their aftermath. The children caused trouble, they lived alone, and there was a problem with their health, and they kept it from the children until after the death. After that, I didn’t care about all the relics and only focused on the money. What moved me the most was that a pet dog died in the same house as the deceased. The body was not found until long after the deceased died. It was by the owner's side but did not eat the owner's body at all. In the author's words, it has overcome its own instinct and nature. Who can say that it has no love for the owner.

The author shares these stories not only to let everyone know about the profession of relic organizer, but also to hope that everyone can face death and better understand the meaning of life. For those who have lost the idea of survival, the author wrote "Pain, to live To experience happiness, you must live to taste it. Pain is like a fixed monthly rent, but there is actually more happiness that comes to us than we take for granted. I didn’t realize it. Living is a miracle worthy of blessing.” Many times, do we magnify our pain infinitely, but ignore the happiness we have, and do not realize that our daily existence is very important For those who "die alone", the author writes "a funeral that no one handles, an unbelievably poor life, and a lonely death with no traces to clean up. The essence of life and death is Lonely, but the strength gained from close relationships can make us not give up easily, and strive to survive in the world until the last moment.” Our little care and greetings to those around us may become their struggle against difficulties The power of , and even our caring greetings sometimes become the driving force for others to survive. This society is discussing all kinds of major issues every day, political economy, technology development and climate change, but not many people care about an increasingly "atomic" Those who "die alone" in society.

Finally, I will list the "Seven Rules of Beautiful Ending" given by the author as a relic organizer. Death will always come, and everyone will experience the death of those around them and finally usher in their own death, so how should we prepare Woolen cloth?

1. Please develop the habit of tidying up and establish order in your life

Second, if there is something difficult to say, please write it down

3. Please keep important items in an easy-to-find place

Fourth, do not hide your illness from your family

Five, make full use of all items

Six, please live for yourself, not for others

Seven, the last thing left is the common memory with the loved one, please leave more good memories