026 ｜ Don't put yourself on the scales easily

Each of us, as a member of the human social group, assumes a variety of different social roles in the world. Employees, leaders, fathers, daughters, partners, while carrying these "role" symbols, do you often and unconsciously put yourself on one end of the scale ?

Throughout the ages, humans have been unable to escape this Libra called "comparison" . Here, we are not against "comparison". Rather, it encourages you to think about "how to compare" and "what to compare to."

First of all, the purpose of comparison is to "make yourself better" , not "make yourself look worse". At the same time, it also requires a lot of courage, because it will teach you to "face" your "limitations" . I don't think that people have something called a "disadvantage" . The so-called "disadvantages" are just "capabilities" that have not yet been fully developed. This is not some kind of bullshit brainwashing of chicken soup for the soul. I will take the "disadvantage" as the "limitation" that I have at the moment.

For example, I used to feel that I was very bad at "telling stories" , and I couldn't describe a thing vividly like many people around me, so I felt that my ability to express was "weak" . At the same time, what I have observed is that I am very good at "active listening" .

When it comes to expressing this matter, "expressing" in colloquial language is my "limitation" . So how to break through this limitation?

"Form" comes to my mind. "Expression" is not only in the form of "speaking", I can use words, "images", or "PPT" to express.

I thought of "content" again. "Expression" is not only a content form of "storytelling", but also "logical" expression, "statement of facts" and "speculative expression".

Perhaps, "storytelling" is indeed my "limitation" , but my ability to express will not become "useless" because I am not good at telling stories.

Breaking down the elements you are comparing to the minimum limit can help you see your "limitations" more objectively. More, it is the "possibilities" outside those "limitations" . Focus on the "maybe", which is why we compare.

Secondly, on the basis of dismantling the comparative elements, it is not encouraged to use "limitations" to compare "other people's advantages" .

Let’s go back to the “storytelling” example above. If I keep comparing myself with people around me who are good at telling stories, it will undoubtedly only deepen my understanding of my "limitations", and eventually turn my "not good at expressing" into a "fixed thinking" and "self-judgment" .

We encourage, in similar people, to find things the other person is doing that you haven't tried . In addition to those who can "tell stories", there must be those around, who don't seem to be good at words, but at some point, they express their views in their own way.

These are the people we need to compare.

"Storytelling" can be any skill you want to develop, such as "social skills" , "work ability" , "handling intimacy" , etc.

Next time, before you put yourself on the scale, please stop and think, is the other end of the scale really a good weight? Is it a weight that can make you better, or a weight that allows yourself to solidify your "limitations".

Don't put yourself on the scales easily, and stand on the scales without fear.

May everyone become a better version of themselves and gain peace and love.

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