How do marginalized people find happiness?

First of all, because you are on the fringe, you have a lot less opportunities to talk and gossip freely and discuss people's right and wrong.

If you always spend too much time talking about things like gossip and right and wrong, although the moment you chat will be very refreshing, but after the chat, it really won't make your life much progress.

And because I was careless about gossip, I had a lot of fun chatting with people. After a long time, those words could easily become semi-hypnotic words. If you are not careful, you are likely to fall into a state where you are lying to yourself.

Why?

Because you have said bad or unfortunate things about others, and when you look back and look at yourself, you are likely to comfort yourself and say: Ah, then, in fact, my life doesn’t seem to be that bad.

Once restricted by such thoughts, it is easy to start to make one's own vision become more and more narrow, and it is easy to rationalize the difficulties encountered in life and gradually compromise. And forget that you actually have the ability to make yourself happier.

So talking about gossip will end up hurting yourself in the end.

And the person you are talking to may not care about these rumors at all, and only think about how to make yourself better and happier.

When other people spend their time correcting and changing themselves, you can only focus on other people's bad things, and magnify it and render it. After the tempering of time, the gap between one's own happiness and others' happiness will of course become larger and larger.

Once you feel that the difference between happiness and happiness is getting bigger and bigger in your heart, it will definitely affect your external temperament.

When you were still studying in school, you might have found that the differences between your classmates were not too big. When you look back ten or twenty years after graduation, you will find that some classmates you haven't seen for a long time are living more and more happier lives, while some can only surrender to the boring life.

This may have something to do with whether there is money, but it is not absolutely related.

Haven't you seen some people who seem to have a safe life, the poverty of their inner mental state may be unimaginable for you and me. There are also people whose living conditions may not be so good, but their family and interpersonal relationships are complete, and the people around them can give them upward or good strength, and their hearts are full of wealth and hope, which makes them look radiant.

So, what kind of thoughts you feed your soul, what kind of temperament you will live out.

Gossip and gossip are all noises around you, which not only make you unable to hear your inner voice, but also make you farther and farther away from the happiness you want.

To find the happiness you want is to give up gossip first. The more you practice saying good things, the more you can naturally focus on the beautiful things around you. You don't need to interfere too much in the inner world of others, you just need to settle your own body and mind first.