Differences between "girls" and other women

Thoughts on two books, modified from this article

The camaraderie and veiled infighting between the two girls in Tales of Naples is interesting, and I'm always amazed at how the two middle-school-aged "kids" in the second installment can use subtlety in their language to let each other know they mind. What? Who has the upper hand?

Lila, who was the first in elementary school but had no chance to go to school, lived a noble life in the upper city after getting married at the age of sixteen, while the heroine Lennon, who continued to read high school, was still a poor girl in the old city - she did not graduate from elementary school to middle school. It's only been five years, and their lives have changed a lot - one of them, Lila took the initiative to make a bet with Lennon, if she loses, she must enroll in a private school and make up all the books she didn't read before. , she vowed to get the same grades as Lenon; and if she wins, Lenon must score no less than eight points in every subject.

During that period, Lennon went to her house to study almost every day, and Lennon's studies also regressed, but he did not speak to Lila. When I saw this bet in the album, I just thought , "Why is it that the loser has to learn? But no matter who wins or loses, Lennon's grades can't be bad?" After reading the novel, I realized that Lila said this paragraph In Lennon's eyes, the words were a disgrace. She expressed that she was the first place and reminded the other party that she was not as talented as herself. She just didn't have the opportunity to read - the event they bet on was related to Lila's marriage life - so she was telling at the same time Lennon: "You should play your role well, be a student, and I am the lady of the new city, I don't need you to interfere in my life!"

Afterwards, Lila wanted to express her integration into urban life, perhaps to dilute Lennon's importance to her, by referring to the pain faced by other women in the city. It was only then that Lennon realized that she had been focusing on the problems teenage girls faced, ignoring the mothers in the city who were only ten or twenty years older than her, but who had long lost their femininity and were "urbanized" become more like his own brother or father.

Although this is another topic, when I was a child, I always felt that my mother was still a girl, because she would be reserved, embarrassed, and not speak loudly. Although she was 20 or 30 years later than others, she is now starting to Talking loudly (it's an ear problem), I haven't gotten used to it yet. And I found that I was afraid to be a mother because I was afraid of losing those qualities, perhaps because I realized at a very young age that gender fades with age.

After reading "Very Important People (When Girls Become Money)", I realized that there is a group of people in the luxury nightlife who are "girls" who have nothing to do with the sex trade. They have a supermodel-like appearance (often supermodels) is a high-end existence, and their appearance makes each Club more valuable - equal to high-end furniture for the owner of the place.

Therefore, the title of the Chinese book "When a Girl Becomes Currency" makes many people have a more inappropriate "feeling", because they do have different values according to different external conditions. Those girls may be the contacts of important people exchanged for their own appearances, for career development and to pay for living expenses; of course, there are also girls who like running party culture, or simply enjoy food and wine.

In other words, if a person has enough beauty to be a "girl", wouldn't he want to use this to do something?

But whether such behavior is a "soft prostitute" is probably a matter of opinion. According to the author, most girls will emphasize their moral values, and they will also explain that they will not look for a partner in nightclubs. On the one hand, it is to distinguish themselves from girls who want to catch a golden turtle husband, and it also shows that they are not stupid. Want to find something here?

The word "girl" mentioned in the book turned out to be a proper noun, which can be said to represent youth, beauty, tall and slender body, and a key point - innocent. My personal explanation is that they do not sell their bodies and do not want to be misunderstood as people who can sell their bodies for fame and fortune. On the one hand, the night life is also full of plump young ladies (the book emphasizes that as long as they are a little plump and one centimeter shorter, they cannot become "girls"), and it is another kind of prejudice against women, they may Selling meat or don't mind being touched?

It is undeniable that I also have a certain prejudice against women who hang out in nightclubs. Most Europeans I know think it's inappropriate for women over 25 to show up in nightclubs, while men can probably tolerate it until they are 28.

One of the three articles I wrote about this book before mentioned that I have a Russian female friend who graduated from the Institute of International Relations of the Sorbonne University. The social media photos are all top nightclub photos in big international cities. That friend Slightly short and fat, so I automatically classified her as a "rich man" in a nightclub instead of a "girl" - the way to distinguish is: if the women who appear in the nightclub don't have the appearance of a supermodel, the average beautiful woman is very good. It may be a prostitute, and a more ordinary person should be very wealthy!

I know how out of place this passage would seem, but after reading that book, I didn't realize it was so defined. In fact, it may be an established idea with limited knowledge and life experience before we read it...even Eastern European wives who see wealthy people in Western society - who may have been refugees or walked on the Victoria's Secret Show —It’s not hard to think of some dark dealings.

It is also mentioned in the book that Eastern European girls are sensitive to concerns that others (especially their fellow citizens) will compare them to women who make quick money. They all know that the life situation of ordinary people can't help but imagine that "girls" are not prostitutes, and naturally think that the people who appear in luxury nightclubs and wear famous brands are those who receive money to engage in sex transactions.

Here, I think of the real case in the United States a while ago that a former lady from a certain state with a high degree of education, even if she married a famous Asian doctor, she was still working as a high-level prostitute in the back; Among the rich, the other is an escort girl. It seems that it is difficult to imagine with a "normal" understanding whether they decide to live like this. After all, their ability is not incapable of achieving the wealth and lifestyle obtained in exchange for the body, it is just a matter of time.

However, the above examples may also explain that the capital of beauty is only temporary. In some social situations, beautiful women can be on an equal footing with wealthy men, but in fact, beauty alone is almost impossible to break the class. The book also mentioned that according to the data show that in the upper class, the marriage of the right household is still the majority.

I mentioned earlier that the word "girl" has a special meaning until I read "Very impimportant peopeople". It only became popular in the 1880s to describe a woman between childhood and adulthood, and at the time was an unmarried woman who worked in factories after the Industrial Revolution. By this definition, it does illustrate the innocence and age boundaries I mentioned earlier, and they are not born into the upper class.

After reading that book, I wanted to refer to the two protagonists of "The Naples Tale" as "girls" and suddenly felt a little weird.