Chat Personality | The Formation of Enneagram

The development and formation of the Enneagram has a lot to do with childhood (before the age of 6); so observing your childhood can help you judge your personality. Or if you're going to be a parent, maybe take this part into consideration as well. The next step is to simply tell you about the formation of the nine personalities.

Of course, most people may not remember things before the age of 6, but they can still try hard to recall, or think about how their past life was and how they were educated; I think it's fine if the above is "childhood", after all, the education method should not be too different, and it is speculated (it is not ruled out that the situation has changed a lot).

The following will simply divide the parents and educators into A and B, I think it is easier to understand; and C is the name of the child.

Type I

The formation of a reformer is one of A and B, who may commit domestic violence, beating, alcoholism, etc., and is very strict and harsh on C; causing C to think: " Is it my fault that caused A to beat people? ", " I must work hard to achieve my goal! ".

C becomes a perfectionist, setting high standards for himself and others. It is right to think that it must be achieved. . . .

Type II

The formation of helpers is because since childhood, A may not have lived with the child for a long time and communicated little with the child, but C is eager to receive love, praise, and appreciation; therefore, through B's praise: "Wow! You are great! , you do this, A will like it very much!" In this way, to get love. I think that as long as the desire for love cannot be satisfied, or if you think that you can get love in a certain way (helping others), you will develop such a personality.

As long as C keeps helping others, he can be praised (loved), so he loves to help others to satisfy his desire for love; however, outside the family, the same situation may not necessarily be encountered; then, it will cause C to think : " I help you, why don't you love me? " Such a situation.

Type III

Achievers are formed because when A or B was a child, they often compared C with others. They may be praised by neighbors and relatives for their good looks, or they are better than other people of the same age; at the same time, C may also be dressed up. Beautiful and bright to compare with others, which led C to be very confident in himself when he grew up, and love to compare with others (in addition, the appearance is not too ugly, it may be born from the heart!?).

It may be fine as a child, but when C grows up, others will not necessarily praise him like this; if he loves to compare with others, he will not necessarily win, so it may cause setbacks...

Type IV

Romantics are formed when A and B were young. They may be busy with work and do not have much time to spend with C. They do not communicate with C, cultivate feelings, and often deny C. In such a situation, C may be isolated, do not know who he is, and feel that both A and B have abandoned him; therefore, he also develops a repressed personality and does not communicate much with the public.

When C grows up, he does not have enough self-identity, and is likely to establish self-identity through the evaluation of others; he will think: " other people don't like me, am I not good enough? ".

Type 5

The formation of the observer is due to the poor relationship between A and B, which may be divorce, separation, or frequent quarrels and beatings; as a result, C cannot give C enough attention (love) and becomes a bystander and observer. They might be on the sidelines to see if A and B are going to fight again? Or is there something else going on?

When he grows up, C may be an observer, observing many things around him and thinking about a lot of things; but he often does not take actual actions often, and he may be limited and trapped by his own thoughts.

Type VI

Loyalty is formed because A or B gives C an authoritative image and makes C feel: " As long as you are respectful and obedient, you can be praised ." Causes them to obey A or B, thinking that as long as they do, they will be praised, loved and cared for. In Asia, this situation is quite common.

When he grows up, C becomes someone who must be depended on. Only when there is an authoritative image around him who can give him help, love, and a sense of security can he feel at ease. At the same time, they are also afraid to make decisions because they are too dependent on others. In addition, C is often in the group.

Type VII

Hedonists are formed because one of A and B did not give C enough love when they were young (maybe because of being busy, or really incapable). Because they did not get the love of one of them, they may turn to " material " to satisfy themselves. Such as playing with toys, buying new dolls, watching TV, etc., to cover up psychological disappointment, or pretend to be loved.

When C grows up, if he encounters setbacks and does not go well, he may cover up his painful feelings by buying things, overeating, etc.

Type VIII

The challenger is formed because there was a successful war of resistance, a challenge to win A or B when I was a child. He fought against one of A or B, but he didn't expect to win, and he would think that he was also very powerful, or said: " Why do you control me? "; This led them to dislike being controlled by others, thinking that they were the ones who could control other people.

When I grow up, I will become very fond of challenging others, and it may be the student that the teacher finds the most troublesome XD

Type IX

When a peaceful person is formed, the family usually lives a happy life when he is a child; the family gets along well and harmoniously, and both A and B give the child recognition, praise, care and love. Such them usually have no worries, so they pursue peace and comfort.

Although he was happy when he was a child, not necessarily when he grew up. The standard for one thing may not be too high, and you will think " this is fine, don't work too hard. " You will be content with the status quo and not choose to change.

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