Seven Days Book S5E2｜"My faults are all adults' faults"

Is there a certain aspect of yourself the next day that you didn't want others to know before, but now you feel it doesn't matter? How did the transformation happen? Write about the moment or process when the transformation occurred.

When I was a student, I was very vain.

For example, you might want to have something that your classmates also have. In the first semester of junior high school, I transferred back to a small middle school in Sichuan from the north. Most of the classmates in my class at that time were from well-off families. It was at the time when Jay Chou was creating the prestige of Metersbon, SHE, Jeanswest or some other brand endorsed by someone else, and almost all the girls in the class were Everyone has it. But at that time, these were all "famous brands" to me, and they were luxury goods. My parents are not around, so I have to plan and save every month’s living expenses. I feel envious when I see my classmates who are well-dressed and look ordinary.

For example, he would conceal his true year of birth. Because the primary education system in rural areas was six years, while the primary education system in the city was five years, so when I went to middle school in the city, I was one year older than several of my classmates who were good at school. So I hid my age, and if it came up, I would say I was one year younger and born in the same year as them.

For example, during my last two years of high school in the north, I never invited my classmates to my home. Because it is difficult to call the place where you live "home", it is so sloppy that it is difficult to describe. At that time, my parents were in the mushroom business and contracted vegetable greenhouses similar to greenhouses. We lived in two cement houses at one end of the plastic greenhouse that were small enough to accommodate only one bed.

Of course these all stem from low self-esteem. Although I think of it now, it was just a trivial vanity, but at that time I was burdened with a lot of psychological burden, feeling both vain and guilty at the same time. The person who introduced me to the word "vanity" was my mother. Her original words were that I was "vanity-minded."

It took me many years to overcome these problems until I became financially independent. Spending the money you earn turns out to be such a free and unburdened feeling. The strange thing is that I did not go to extremes after gaining the ability because of the material poverty I once had. On the contrary, I am no longer interested in topics such as brands that I once paid attention to.

I realized that when I was a student, I didn’t want much. I just wanted to be on par with my classmates and blend in with them.

So adults, if you confuse "inferiority" with "vanity", impose serious negative words on children, and don't help them understand what they experience and feel, it will only become a heavy burden on the child's growth. .

As a result, as an adult and independent, I need to raise the child in my heart who has suffered a lot of wrongs.

This is a lucky situation.