[Recommendation of Good Books] "Redefining the Second Half of Life": Opening a Bright Second Life

[Reading Notes] "Redefining the Second Half of Life": Opening a Bright Second Life

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As we approach middle age, our physical fitness and memory gradually decline. Occasionally, we may feel powerless. This is the origin of the term "mid-life crisis". However, is middle age a crisis or a turning point, a gradual aging, a disconnection from society, or a brand new beginning of the second stage of life.

Today I want to share Life Reimagined: The Sicence, Art, and Opportunity of Midlife by Barbara Bradley Hagerty ), the author believes that the so-called mid-life crisis is just the result of self-definition, blaming all the unhappiness, whether it is family, work, illness, or facing life and death, to the mid-life crisis.

"Middle age" is not a crisis, but can be the most dazzling period. Even if the physical fitness declines, the experience accumulated over a long period of time can make up for it. "Middle age" is the end and the beginning of another period, saying goodbye to the ignorance of youth, restraining elbows everywhere in order to meet social expectations, and starting a second life.

[Reading Notes] "I decided to leave only the right people in my life": Let go of unnecessary interpersonal relationships

[Reading Notes] "The Magic of Happiness": Find the way of thinking of a happy life

[Reading Notes] "Retire at 45, are you ready?"

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Through sorting out my middle-aged experience, re-evaluating the difficulties faced and encountering new life opportunities, this book combines psychology, biology and sociology, and interviews experts in other middle-aged fields. Traditional research is too concentrated on young people. The growth period and the aging period at the end of life seem to have no change in middle age, but experience a lot of inner confusion and change quietly without knowing it, but it is not discovered by others.

In the face of an over-exaggerated mid-life crisis, joy can be replaced by meaning at this time. Happiness is fleeting, and there are no more memories after the situation has passed. In contrast, a meaningful life can make middle-aged more colorful, even if it is selfless. Giving can also make the heart more fulfilling. Giving "love", positive interpersonal network, happier and longer life, extensive use of the brain, and active social participation can all make middle-aged life more meaningful.

[Reading Notes] Find the direction of your life: "Be Your Own Life Designer"

[Reading Notes] Pursuing Inner Tranquility and Peace: "Monk Mindset"

The middle-aged brain can still improve memory after training, and it can listen to its own heart, and it is not necessary to follow social expectations that it does not like. A middle-aged marriage, even an old husband and wife, is still the strongest backing behind it. It depends on whether it is managed carefully, and don’t let love become a lonely desert. Friendship in middle age is very precious. You can really open your heart and talk about it. Let your emotions have an outlet, share the pressure and regain your youthful feeling.

Finding the meaning of work in middle age is no longer just about supporting the family, but also pursuing a sense of accomplishment in work, as well as self-realization, mentoring younger generations, and passing on experience. These are all aspects that can sublimate the meaning of work. In addition, you must find your own meaning in life. The most common one is selfless giving, doing your best, giving back to the society, and helping others in need.

[Reading Notes] Get back your self-confidence as a woman: "Girl, You Are Good Enough"

[Reading Notes] "Get Rich Mentality": Invest in yourself with the correct financial management concept

[Reading Notes] "For you who always feel that you are not good enough"

[Reading Notes] The Charitable Significance of Donations During His Life: "There Is No Money in Heaven"

The reason why I picked up this book and read it was because I suddenly realized that I seemed to be entering middle age, watching my parents grow old, being alone and helpless, and feeling lost and fearful about my work, as if I didn’t know where the future was going. . Perhaps middle age is actually a more free and easy period, a second life that escapes indifferent social expectations and starts anew.

Finally, the book also provides sixteen suggestions for middle-aged people, namely:

If you feel gloomy in middle age, remember that others are just like you, and that the happiest days are still ahead.

Aiming for meaning, not pleasure, can have both.

Always ask yourself: How to make the best use of these glorious years.

You should learn something new at any stage of your life.

Middle age can be like Kansas, the road is long and flat, set goals and live your life.

When you laugh, you feel less pain.

Facing difficulties with equanimity. A little bit of frustration, it actually helped us.

Pay attention to your own thoughts. Your thoughts affect your experiences.

• Do good

Do what you want most, and you can usually do it.

It's better to focus on your strengths than to start from scratch.

Redefine success in terms of your own values, not the values of the world around you.

• Choose life first

Paying and caring: The biggest threat to mature marriages is ignoring each other.

Do you value this relationship? Then let him go!

Dangerous on the fringes of society.

As the physician pointed out, happiness is love.

"Redefining the Second Half of Life: A Manifesto for the New Middle Ages" (from blog)