The life of eating alone will be more tense

I often feel that my father is a leader in the "living alone" world. I have never seen half of his friends in my life. He is in his seventies, and he always enjoys his favorite things. When he was a child, he often told me about it. One sentence: "It's better to be alone than to be happy. People have to learn to be alone and live alone in this life." In that era when social software and mobile phones were not developed, it was normal to spend time with three or five friends. My father What kind of thought that "the crowd is not as good as the music alone" was not only not popular at that time, but might also be given the title of "reclusive".

Once upon a time, when we had a mobile phone, communication software kept ringing, and there were countless websites and apps to experience fun, we could buy popcorn at home to watch movies, watch TV shows, and put on headphones to enter our own world at any time. Enjoy a variety of music. In recent years, roadside karaoke machines have become more popular on both sides of the strait. If you want to sing KTV, you no longer need to be in groups of three or five. One person prepares 30 yuan change on the roadside and can sing freely at any time. In the past, when traveling abroad, if you go alone, you can only go with a group Or looking for a place to accompany friends, you will feel at ease. Now you can get all kinds of experience travel and booking information everywhere, it is easy to travel alone, not only safe but also more flexible; the advancement of technology has not only opened up more convenience for human life, but also seems to be more convenient. Lead us into a new era of "enjoying one's life".

"British Journal of Psychology" (British Journal of Psychology) once published an interesting survey, found that people with higher IQs are actually less fond of social activities, high IQ people think that the more time they spend with friends, the more they feel unhappy, At that time, I also passed it on to my father and humored him: "It seems that your IQ is not low." Let's not discuss the standard of IQ for the time being, and it does not mean that many people in social activities today are not smart. But I always believe that learning to be alone is the beginning of all freedom, and it is also the source of strength for one's rapid growth. Many professional exercises and the absorption of knowledge reading need to be more powerful when alone. In this era, most people must be able to find a few things and enjoy themselves in a person's life.

Kenichi Ohmae published the book "One Person's Economy" in 2011, pointing out that the 21st century will be a century of "one's life", and a person no longer feels pressure to eat meat. In recent years, "small house products" and "single suites" have also become the main force in the housing market. Taking Da'an District, Taipei as an example, suite products account for more than 58.1%, which means that the proportion of people living alone is no longer a minority.

I think one's life is not limited to a narrow "form", but an "attitude". Although there are many single people these days, there are also many people who have families. In addition to enjoying the happiness of the family at the same time, if we can fully allocate our time, we can also enjoy the fun of being alone with ourselves at the same time. My own method is to divide my life into various calendars. People who are familiar with me know that I have been a calendar control since I was a child. In addition to work, I have my own personal calendar, my children's calendar, my husband and I's calendar. and our family's calendar...etc. My calendar is usually planned until a year later, which also helps me in multiple roles to enjoy different moments of life.

You can try to practice at all times. When you can live your own life without being false to others, you will feel satisfied and happy at the same time; if you learn to live alone, your life will be more tense. You don’t have to be alone, but you can also enjoy the taste of eating alone.