Create a relationship that is "too inseparable"

practice open relationship for more than three years,

Employees (boyfriends) who are currently in a stable relationship,

The seniority is more than three years to more than half a year,

The common point is that all these employees (boyfriends) have voluntarily stated that they have the feeling of "too inseparable"

(everyone says it differently, but the main meaning is similar)

It also makes me feel that "the other party can catch me at any time" and "I am willing to catch the other party at any time",

is what I want, a relationship with a high sense of security and stability,

It is also the result of my active development with my employees (boyfriends).

It may also be the realm that many people hope to achieve in business relationships.

Therefore, I sorted out three major points "What things have I done"👇👇👇

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1⃣ Falling in love with the "right person"; we all know that loving the wrong person is the beginning of a series of negativity, but we must also know that "loving the right person" is actually not that difficult~

🔹Find out the rules of the game in the mate selection market:

People are very realistic when picking objects,

Because our expectation of love is to "get better",

Naturally, we will choose "good".

Although "good" varies from person to person,

But it will not really deviate from the mainstream framework too much,

In other words, the more "good" you have in mainstream frameworks, the higher the right to choose.

🔹The bigger the pool, the more opportunities:

As mentioned earlier, the more "good" you have, the more choices you have.

It's useless if you don't have the opportunity to meet new people.

Therefore, through various physical activities and online communities to develop different social circles,

Increase the opportunity to meet new people, and then have the opportunity to make choices.

Furthermore, by getting to know different people,

understand your needs,

Then quickly screen to find the right person.

🔹Relationship breaking up:

If you meet someone who is unwilling to discuss relationship consensus together,

It is recommended not to delay or wait for him to change his mind.

It's not his problem and it's not your problem.

It's just that the timing of the encounter didn't go so well that you both wanted the same thing.

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2⃣Love is very strong: From the day the relationship started, no matter the positive or the negative, it is a major life event worth facing seriously, rather than having "determined to be together", "be together for a long time" or "all married and have children" and so on The agreement, I feel that the relationship is a matter of course.

🔹Consensus negotiation with each other:

Active communication in the early stages of a relationship is hard work.

But it is also a quick way to build mutual trust.

It can greatly reduce the insecurity in the relationship.

The content of communication is all-encompassing,

As small as how to squeeze toothpaste,

How to sign the consent form that is too big to give up first aid?

The discussion of their respective boundaries is particularly important,

In addition to not easily stepping on the opponent's minefield,

get to know each other better.

🔹Facing negative emotions:

It's normal to have negative emotions.

Cats and dogs are unhappy sometimes,

Asking someone to always be positive in a relationship is an unreasonable requirement!

Negative emotions do not need to be "processed" or "avoided",

Instead, slowly find a way to accompany yourself or the other person through negative emotions,

My employees (boyfriends) and I even have SOPs for quarreling,

This is to accompany each other through negative emotions many times,

Summarize and conclude "We all think it's a good way to accompany us."

🔹Express positive feedback:

The giving that makes people feel is giving,

It is difficult for us to determine whether what we think is good is what the other party thinks is good,

Therefore, if you feel "good", you should actively express it to let the other party know,

This will not only help the other party treat you more often in the way you like in the future,

It will also make the relationship have a higher degree of trust and security because of "saying everything"!

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3⃣The speed of change is about the same: everyone has the desire to "progress", so the best way to keep the relationship hot is "progress". This progress does not necessarily mean becoming rich and beautiful, but the speed at which everyone in the relationship changes Almost like this, there will be a feeling of "getting better together". People are very realistic, and naturally they don't want to leave an environment that can "keep getting better".

🔹Careful moments that do not require a high proportion:

It is naturally sweet and romantic to have delicate moments in a relationship,

But if every time we get along is a delicate moment,

Besides being impractical,

It is also easy to fall into the dilemma of "can't find the stem".

Although the life-like relationship is relatively simple,

But also because it is close to the actual situation,

Can make each other feel more at ease~

🔹Exclusively for your own interests and majors

Keep your own independent interests and majors,

In addition to increasing the space for self-improvement,

You can also gain insight for each other through communication,

Let each other have different aspects of enriching knowledge,

To achieve "better together".

🔹More and more clear personal style:

I think the so-called "mature adults"

Not just "I want it all",

More about "knowing how I am", "knowing what I want" and "what I want to be like",

And these emerging is a clear personal style,

Having a personal style is a charm,

That will naturally make your lover love you even harder~

(Maybe also add new competitors for each other!?)

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No one is born a master at love,

It takes constant practice, any strange awareness,

We all need to face up to "this may not be what you want",

If you have a partner, discuss it with the other party to reach a consensus.

Those who have not yet confirmed the relationship or found a partner,

Maybe it's time to break up, maybe it's time to expand the pool,

Anyway, on the road of love,

I believe that hard work can find a relationship that makes me warm and down-to-earth.

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A few thoughts at the end of the article:

🔸The third mother likes to use the workplace relationship to compare the relationship between the sexes, so in the article, "employee" is used instead of "boyfriend".

🔸The open relationship in this article is to develop a sexual relationship with more than one person (love or desire to choose one or both), and to reach different degrees of informed consent according to the depth of the relationship and the mutual consensus (the kind that makes the other party sad The ones that are ignored are bad scum, which is not in the scope of discussion in this article and what Sanma herself advocates!)

🔸An open relationship is not a "better" relationship model. The so-called "best" varies from person to person. What is more important is to make the relationship a more comfortable and comfortable way for you, rather than follow a certain formula and formulaic trap Own. #Customize your love

🠀🔸For more relationship customization, please contact Sanma IG: https://www.instagram.com/samatsai/