024 | Three Exercises to Love Yourself

Love is a verb, not a feeling.

Before we love others, we practice from ourselves, how to "love someone".

Exercise 1: Practice respecting your own feelings and needs.

Although we often perceive changes in our emotions, we rarely have time to really calm down and "watch" our emotions.

We are overwhelmed by all kinds of sensational, extreme, black-and-white information every day, and our emotions are easily and infinitely mobilized, resulting in "emotional fatigue" . As a result, it is impossible to distinguish which "subtle emotions" one's emotions are made of.

The emotion map is a tool that is often called in Coaching. On the outermost emotional map, we can see a lot of subtle emotions.

Respecting one's own feelings means not just paying attention to one's own "joy, anger, sadness", but dismantling the more subtle feelings under "joy, anger, sadness and joy" . When you start practicing emotional "self-awareness" , you will gain a more peaceful mind.

At the same time, through "emotional deconstruction" , we can look at the "self-needs" behind emotions, and know how to "better meet" our own needs, so as to liberate the "expectations" that we project on others.

Exercise 2: Believe that you are worthy of being loved

You don't need to be better and more useful to be worthy of love. We do not achieve personal growth and progress for the purpose of "pleasing the world."

We grow, just simply like to grow and keep exploring ourselves. The world doesn't need your favor, and neither do those who truly love you. Originally, what was it like to live in this world? Please keep this curiosity alive in this world.

To be curious about yourself is to believe that you are worthy of love for who you are. Be curious but not critical, and the exploration after curiosity is to get closer to "the way you are" step by step.

The third exercise: accept "imperfection" to be more "complete".

The emergence of social media, while narrowing the distance between us and "celebrities" and "net celebrities", also seems to use a marker to highlight the "sense of gap" between people.

The two ends of this "gap" are "perfect others" and "defective self" . But just imagine how carefully edited, polished, and screened every time you post on social media, how much of the "perfect life" of the so-called "perfect others" is real?

In fact, most of us are ordinary "ordinary people" , and we can also have "ordinary happiness" and "ordinary beauty" . Throw away the shackles of "perfection" , please face your "limitations" and "weaknesses" easily and accept them objectively. You don't have to change them either. You can always ask others for help when you are not good at it. In this case, you should thank these "imperfections" for giving you the possibility to connect with other people.

With a more "complete" self, you can live a more peaceful and happy life.

May everyone become a better version of themselves and gain peace and love.

about me:

A roast chicken that lives in the southern hemisphere.

Export Studies Instructor, ICF Certified Qualification

Committed to promoting the "output" thinking system, and using "output" to promote the growth of more people.

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