My ex-lover went to college!!

Is this the empty nest feeling?

I heard people say that the daughter is my father's lover in a previous life. Yes, I remember when my daughter was little, she would put on a big pink bath towel and dress herself with a mesh on her head, dress herself like a bride-to-be, and ask me to accompany her when I get off work Walk the red carpet together and hold a wedding ceremony, saying: I want to marry my father! That kind of sweetness is still sweet in my heart.

In a blink of an eye, my daughter is going to college. Yesterday, the family of four drove her north to the dormitory to report to the dormitory, buy things, buy things, and buy what you need for living, sleeping, and transportation. In about three hours, the preparation for dormitory life is completed. A new chapter in her life has begun! The master "Life" will teach in person. The teaching assistants in the course are excited, frustrated, moved, angry, joyful, regretful.... This is a compulsory course in life, only Only those who study seriously can learn the essence of the course from it, so that in the future life lessons, they can do it with ease.

In the past, when I woke up, I would see my daughter's room door closed because she was still sleeping, but even so, I could always see her happily get up to wash and say hello later in the day.

Today, the door of the room is open, and when I enter the room, there is no one on the bed, only the cat at home is lying lazily on her chair. The neat and tidy room is less messy than usual, but a little more. emptiness

The little nest in this home that is exclusively for her feels empty! Is this the so-called empty nest feeling? Although now the nest can only be filled up again when she comes home from vacation. The nest is empty, which means that the child has grown up and can leave the nest and gradually learn how to be on his own, learn to spread his wings and explore the world.

My lover in my past life has embarked on a journey to find her lover (or career) in this life. As a parent & lover in my past life, all I can give is blessing, encouragement and support, and continue to be with my lover in this life. living life.

I am proud of her bravery

My daughter is studying at National Taiwan University. When most people hear about National Taiwan University, they will say, " Wow...that's amazing!" National Taiwan University!

In the past, only first-class high school graduates could pass through the "narrow door" of the joint entrance examination. This "narrow door" created a stereotype of Taiwan University as an elite who is very good at reading . In my era when the joint entrance examination was a life-long test, National Taiwan University occupied the commanding heights of the joint entrance examination scores for many years. Therefore, even when I heard about the graduation of National Taiwan University, I would not feel that the evaluation expectations of that person would improve, that is, the prediction Students at NTU should have good grades, good brains, and excellent grades (default value), and can expect higher performance. To put it bluntly, these are just "signals" voluntarily released by "famous schools ". However, whether this signal is good or bad still depends on the students themselves.

There is no good or bad school. If you can learn something and grow, it is a good school.

Now there is the so-called multiple admissions channel (a higher education channel that made me dizzy), and it is no longer the same as before that the joint entrance exam is a life-long test, and the result is a double- eyed turn ! Dao , what are the examination methods such as academic tests and finger- based tests (but it is the test to put it bluntly!) , as well as the so-called recommendation of the stars, personal application, entrance examination, etc. It's super complicated. 😒

In the past, when my daughter was in high school, I always passed the school's briefing session, because before the social pattern and consensus were not changed, the grades were still the key point, and it was useless to listen too much. If the grades are not maintained in the first stage, the choice will be limited , but this "grade" is extended to not only the previous big test scores, but also the school results. After my daughter's round, I found out that it's all about the grades, especially the so-called academic tests. If the academic tests are smashed, they are basically smashed! In the end, the " grades" still have to be in the first stage, and then there is a choice. Rights, otherwise only pick up the rest!

There is actually a story for my daughter to choose National Taiwan University. It is a story of breaking the boat! After the academic test, the high school will determine the number of places recommended by Fanxing according to the school ranking. Students can choose which university to be recommended for the ranking. The basis for the comparison is the academic test scores. The "recommended screening" in my time was actually a combination of Fanxing + individual application.

After the results of the academic test are announced, students can look at the number of places open at each university and the bottom line of their performance requirements, and pre-think (or inquire about others) which school to recommend. According to the ranking of the school's grades, it is decided who can go up and tear down the list first (that is, the high school makes a list of the places provided by each university, and allows students to tear down the school group that they want to be recommended in sequence).

If you have good grades, you will be torn first. If a certain group of a certain university is already torn out first than your grades, basically even if you are recommended, the chance of being admitted is not high. There is a concept that one mountain cannot tolerate two tigers. Compete first, don't lose face outside school😁.

At the moment, I think this is a casino at all! And a casino with unclear odds. Most students will choose a school that will definitely be accepted based on their academic test scores . My daughter also planned this way! At present, it is basically the kind of iron), so Zhongxing Veterinary Medicine was selected to Bei Medicine.

It's just that her academic test scores have the opportunity to challenge National Taiwan University, so I suggested that she not try it! The worst, she continued to study until July, and finally took the entrance examination (similar to the previous joint entrance examination based on scores) The way.

Finally the brave daughter agrees! Bet!

On the day of tearing down the list, she tore off the National Taiwan University with trembling on the stage~~ but thought that the school recommended it to the National Taiwan University for comparison. When she was tearing up the list, she also heard the teacher whispering: " 3% dare to tear up National Taiwan University?" !

After tearing it down, her eyes were full of tears, and it seemed that she was still not confident enough in herself! The wife comforted and said: All arrangements are the best arrangements! This is like what the three fools often say in the movie:

"All is well!" Everything will be fine! All it takes is a little courage to turn life around!

In the end, I was successfully (thrilling) admitted and became a National Taiwan University student, but I am not proud of being admitted to National Taiwan University!

I am proud of her courage to challenge .

Entering National Taiwan University is only the first step. Although National Taiwan University is a reputable school, it is uncertain whether the signal of National Taiwan University can be sent out and received!

NTU's halo will definitely shine?

The reason why a famous school is a famous school is because its past history and achievements have piled up what it is today. However, with the halo of a famous school, is it a good thing?

Even if it is a good signal, you have to call the right voice!!

Why do you say this way? It can be illustrated by the following figure that outsiders' expectations for Taiwan University (or other well-known universities) are like the yellow stick, and outsiders' expectations for students from a certain university are like green sticks. The higher the level in the figure, the higher the level, and the lower the level, the lower the level. Even if it is Taiwan University, it is not necessarily 100% high , so it must be an interval distribution that includes high and low levels.

The problem is that outsiders' stereotypes (or expectations) of NTU are like yellow sticks. When your performance level is C , which is the so-called actual name , NTU will become a strong and good signal . 🎶🎵🎶🎵

But when your performance level is B , even though your performance level is the same as that of a student before graduation from a certain university, the name of National Taiwan University will actually send you a bad signal , that is, National Taiwan University~ That's it! 😏😏😏😏Millions Don't blame National Taiwan University, blame yourself for not working hard to use the strength you have accumulated over the four years of university to make yourself "actually named".

If the performance level is A , then~~~ what school graduates, they are basically the same, it will only send a bad signal! That signal is, what's wrong with college students now?! 🤔

When my daughter grows up, she always has to leave the nest and move on to the next stage of her life to find her love in this life. My lover in my past life will continue to encourage and support her. I hope she can grasp the ideological agitation with other Taiwanese and make good use of it for four years. of university time and university resources, and become a Taiwanese who "actually lives up to the name"!