Have you ever met a PUA-style couple relationship? Understanding Emotional Blackmail and Manipulating Female Consciousness

What are "PUAs"? This is the abbreviation of Pickup artist, which originated in the United States in the 1970s. It originally talked about how boys should approach girls in bars, and then quickly enter an intimate relationship. The more straightforward word is "pickup artist". The later development of the three words PUA is very different from the original one. It was changed by magic in China about 10 years ago. From the beginning, how to strike up a conversation in a bar is more successful, and later changed to how to blackmail and steal through a series of emotions. The way of changing concepts destroys women's self-awareness, and then achieves the purpose of manipulating women. Of course, this also involves how to have sex in the shortest time.

PUA is a way to secretly change concepts, such as when the relationship between each other is not so sure, by saying some intimate words, such as baby, I miss you so much, and I value you very much. These intimate words will make girls feel that they are Like to be affirmed, it will be easy to have more expectations, but the other party may just talk, but the behavior is sex, looking for you to accompany you when you are bored, and mostly ignoring you when you need it. It is easy for people to invest more.

When PUA is used in a partnership, it will often use various manipulations when getting along with each other. For example, it starts with my own preferences, such as I like the other party to help me with food. Through such small things, girls are affirmed and girls feel Be happy, and later you will start to blame the other party for not helping to serve the meal, not being careful, not taking the initiative to take care of things. Through the combination of blame and love, you will make the other party feel that you are careless and have not thought about it because you have done something wrong. If you make the other party angry, the standard of right and wrong will become based on the other party's happiness and anger in the long run, you will become very unconfident, and it is easy to belittle yourself to please the other party.

When quarreling, there are often PUA tactics, such as blaming the other party for not being serious enough and not being positive enough. By negating and belittling, you can gain a moral high ground. When you accept that you are not serious enough and not positive enough, you will often think that you are wrong. So you will deny yourself, you will want to ease the conflict, and you will want to quickly accept the other party's request. At this time, the other party often hides a lot of your own desires during communication, hoping that you can satisfy him, even if you didn't like it at first.

Worse PUAs will combine emotions, use gentle tones, rational logical thinking, and reasonable and caring ways, but what they do is to deny, belittle, blame, and demand behaviors. Many people will be deceived by the superficial gentleness , so you will believe what the other party says, and then blame yourself, thinking that you have done something wrong, that you are not working hard enough, but in fact it is the other party who is manipulating you and dominating you. A person who loves you and cares about you will not sit back and watch you Sorrow and tears, words and deeds are inconsistent, this is still a concept of stealth... Click to read the full text .

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