Personal Growth-Dark Horse Reading Notes

I read this e-book last month, so I bought the physical book and read it again and shared key records. More and more friends around me are practicing this dark horse thinking, and the most obvious change is: they start to make their own choices.

STEP1. Seriously feel that your characteristics are important

In a society where Changxing is the best in standardization , we value our own characteristics, give full play to them, and then achieve excellence. The dark horse pursues self-realization, but not by investing in what he is good at, but by investing in what belongs to him . So first, get to know your interests and desires. Knowing what you love is the most crucial step.

Small Ways to Find Micropower: Criticize the Game

ᴀ. Realize that you are criticizing othersʙ. Identify your own feelings of criticizing others ex positive or negative ᴄ. Ask yourself why you feel this way

STEP2. Start self-actualization

Decide to put self-actualization on the first step, not thinking about what results will be achieved, how much money will be made, but find an opportunity that is yours, and decide to reach out and seize it.

The book mentions that when you are a bird, it becomes difficult to choose where to fly, but when you are a certain bird, it becomes easy to choose where to fly.

Don't let others tell you what's right for you, or what you should choose, but choose for yourself, because no one knows you better than you.

Risk measurement for dark horses: how well microdynamics and opportunities fit

The way most people measure chance risk is that if you choose 1 out of 10 candidates for an interview, the chance of being selected is 1 in 10, so it is considered quite difficult. The dark horse's way of measuring risk is that the job fits with one's own micro-motivation. The more enthusiastic you are after the choice, the lower the risk after the choice.

STEP3. Know your strategy

After understanding your own micro-power, you can seize the opportunity, but this is still different from your own strengths . Micro-power is innate and most of your strengths are acquired. The general standardized way to succeed is to follow a set of patterns. If you fail, keep trying and keep working hard until you reach it. The strategy of dark horse thinking is bold trial and error .

STEP4. Don't set a destination for yourself

The book mentions that if you choose a straight avenue, you may miss those winding paths that might inspire you.

Destination Bias: Measured in Time

Instead of asking, "How long will it take to get this done?" we should focus on, "Is this the right strategy for me?" We should focus on the goal, not the destination.

The above is the dark horse thinking guide, let's encourage each other~!