每周3-2-1：別吃碗內看碗外，停止抱怨，過好生活，逐步改善!

原文出處：https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1/april-14-2022?rh_ref=ebaff8bc

3 Ideas From Me

I.
"For those who expect everything, there are many curses.
For those who appreciate everything, there are many blessings."

對於那些期望一切的人來說，有很多詛咒。 凡事珍惜的人，祝福多多。

路邊的野花特別香，這說的就是這種吃碗內看碗外的心態。對於有的不珍惜，反而想像自己沒有的，這樣的人總是會有厄運。惜福，從身邊的人事物開始。🙏

​II.
"Money is not the only way to improve life. Instead of widening your margin of profit, widen your margin of leisure. Instead of optimizing for money, optimize for time. Instead of seeking efficiency, seek recovery."

金錢不是改善生活的唯一途徑。
與其擴大你的利潤空間，不如擴大你的休閒空間。
與其優化金錢，不如優化時間。不求效率，尋求恢復。

專注於金錢，雖然驅動力高，但不小心就會被金錢給奴役。

認清楚，金錢只是工具，自己才是主人。

為了金錢而汲汲營營，到最終搞壞身體、搞壞家庭關係，這是得不償失的作法。

III.
"Many good opportunities are ruined for the dream of slightly better ones.

Would you have a more successful career if you had taken that other job or moved cities? Possibly. But your actual career will definitely suffer if you don't commit to doing it to the best of your ability.

Would you be 10% happier in a different relationship? Maybe. Maybe not. But you'll definitely be unhappy in the one you have if you spend all day thinking about what else is out there.

The surefire way to end up worse off is to agonize over unchosen options and fail to make the most of the one you selected. Every minute spent yearning for your unlived lives is a moment you can't invest in the one you actually have.

Choices matter, but so does your level of commitment."

許多好的機會都毀於夢想有更好的機會。

如果您從事其他工作或搬到城市，您會擁有更成功的職業嗎？
可能會，但如果您不儘自己最大的努力去做，那麼您的現在的職業肯定會受到影響。

在不同的關係中你會更快樂 10% 嗎？
也許，也許不。如果你整天想著外面還有什麼，你肯定會對你擁有的那個不滿意。

"苦惱於未選擇的選項，而沒有充分利用您已選擇的選項"，肯定會讓生活變更糟。
花每一分鐘在嚮往你未有機會過的生活，就少一分鐘讓你投資於你實際擁有的生活。

選擇很重要，但你投入的程度更重要。

這周的三個idea，其實都在講同一件事，就是過好你現在的生活，別總是幻想能有更好的生活。 但注意，叫你不要幻想，並不代表不能想。 畢竟，如果現在的生活不夠好，就應該要有計畫地朝向更好的生活行動。

這邊的關鍵字：有計畫、朝向更好的、行動

2 Quotes From Others

I.
Author Cheryl Strayed on the trap of self-pity:

"Nobody's going to do your life for you. You have to do it yourself, whether you're rich or poor, out of money or raking it in, the beneficiary of ridiculous fortune or terrible injustice. And you have to do it no matter what is true. No matter what is hard. No matter what unjust, sad, sucky things befall you. Self-pity is a dead-end road. You make the choice to drive down it. It's up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out."

作者Cheryl Strayed在"自憐的陷阱"中說到：

沒有人會幫你過生活。
你必須自己做，無論你是富人還是窮人，是沒錢還是靠賺錢，是繼承可觀的財富或可怕不公正的受益者。
無論什麼是真的，不管什麼難，無論有什麼不公正、悲傷、糟糕的事情降臨到你身上，你都必須自己過自己的生活。

自憐是一條死路。你選擇開進這條自憐的路，最終由你自己決定，是停在那裡還是掉頭開車出去。

Source: Tiny Beautiful Things

生活不是公平的，同樣努力的人，不見得可以得到同樣的回報，處於悲慘環境的人，也不見德都一直悲慘。

"人比人氣死人" vs "比上不足比下有餘"，端看你從甚麼角度去看這個世界。

自憐就是怨天尤人的人常開的路，但那些人或許都沒意識到這是條死路。

怨天尤人無濟於事，只是讓你更有"藉口"放棄努力。

停止抱怨，過好生活，逐步改善!​

​II.
Biologist and Nobel Prize winner Sydney Brenner on innovative thinking:

"I strongly believe that the only way to encourage innovation is to give it to the young. The young have a great advantage in that they are ignorant. Because I think ignorance in science is very important. If you’re like me and you know too much you can’t try new things. I always work in fields of which I’m totally ignorant."

生物學家和諾貝爾獎獲得者悉尼·布倫納（Sydney Brenner）談創新思維：

“我堅信，鼓勵創新的唯一方法就是把創新交給年輕人。年輕人有很大的優勢，因為他們是無知的。因為我認為對科學的無知非常重要。如果你和我一樣，你知道太多了，你不能嘗試新事物。我總是在我完全不了解的領域工作。

Source: A Conversation with Sydney Brenner​

​老狗不是學不了新把戲，而是老狗常把新把戲從一開始就否定掉。

初生之櫝不畏虎，年經人就應該有敢闖、敢衝、敢嘗試的心態。

1 Question For You

When was the last time you felt a sense of wonder and awe? What can that experience teach you about how to spend your time?

你最後一次感到驚奇和敬畏是什麼時候？這段經歷對你如何度過你的時間有什麼啟示？

讓我想想......驚奇、敬畏？!

還真想不起來，看來~~~~ 我對生活的觀察還需要在更入微一點!!