Book Reading｜"The Habits of Creating an Ideal Life"

Author Furukawa Samurai

What is this book saying?

This is a reference book that can easily help readers analyze the causes of their own habit formation obstacles. The author points out that the habits formed in each person's life can actually be studied from four aspects: action, thinking, feeling and environment .

The book contains 65 methods of habit formation, and readers only need to implement them according to the method that suits them.

To understand why we want to develop a good habit but it doesn't work, we should focus on the level of bottlenecks that hinder habit formation.

Taking the iceberg model structure as an example, if it is just a habit at the action level, we can solve it with only small changes in action; if it is a further level of thinking, then trying to let go of perfectionism would be a good way; as for feelings, beliefs and The three levels of essence belong to different depths of perception and habit; the last is the environmental level of external factors.

How did this book inspire me?

Each chapter has something I benefit from, and let me share what I think resonates the most.

"The Habit of Action"

As long as we understand that when we come into contact with new things for the first time, it always takes a lot of effort to learn, then we must leave time for it , and then try to touch and try as much as possible; if it is still difficult to do, Try to break it down into small pieces and do it step by step.

It's kind of like we bought a new appliance, put the manual aside and didn't use it, and presupposed that we knew how to use it, but with how often we use the appliance, and keep operating it, one day You can also get to know its performance.

By actually writing down the progress of what you are doing, you can feel the sense of accomplishment that is "quantified" by what you are doing, and then increase your willingness to continue doing it. Take me as an example, what is the progress of the books I read, and which book will I write on the date of the month, the progress is 30%.

"The Habit of Thinking"

Encourage yourself and focus on " what you can do " and " what you currently have ", so you won't worry about factors you can't control, and you can take the opportunity to take stock of your current wealth, connections, and technology , knowledge or experience, etc., starting from these existing resources, you will not feel that you cannot do it, because you only need to strengthen these resources little by little.

If something unexpected happens, change the way of thinking to " trying to find positive meaning " instead of keeping your thoughts on a bad level. Maybe you can use this opportunity to exercise your unexpected abilities. Maybe one day in the future can come in handy.

"The Habit of Feeling"

Recognizing that there are more times when we need to talk to ourselves about what we are looking forward to doing, what is the source of motivation? For example, want to be recognized by others, or self-realization and growth?

According to my own experience, in the past, I always suppressed my desire to create and play, just because others "can do what they can do", but in fact, more often, I should give meaning to this matter, and ask myself a few more questions. "Why" can help you find the source of enthusiasm and motivation in your heart; in addition, understanding your own intrinsic desires and personality is very important, and it is an important key to becoming a habit.

"Environmental Habits"

For introverts, this is definitely a factor that is hard to ignore, so if you use it well, you can do more with less. So we have to try to change the environment, or change the people and things we come into contact with . The first condition for consciously choosing and going where you want is, you must try to surround yourself with the things you want, take the initiative to contact things that you strongly pray for, and take the initiative to get feedback from others , so as to make yourself better and better.

I don't know if someone has been asked "Who is the person you admire" or "Who is the great person you respect" in a workplace interview? Finding a person who you are looking forward to and making him your real growth goal is the core question of this exam. Using a successful external image as a benchmark can bring us unexpected changes, and become a source of continuous growth and breakthroughs. source of power.

 I have always believed that the more you know yourself, the more powerful you can be.