"When moving towards the goal, the two most "brilliant-sounding" obstacles! 》

The "high-sounding hindrance" is the "right and fair reason" that prevents us from pursuing our goals.

Like the hideout, the "brilliant-sounding hindrance" also has two disguises, one is "you must do something before you can move towards the goal", that is: "you can do Y after you have done X"; the other is "If you achieve your goals, it will actually have bad consequences or make you a bad person."

The latter reminds me of what was mentioned in "The Rich People Think Differently from You", our views on wealth and rich people will greatly affect our possibility of becoming rich, thinking of rich people, and even becoming rich, What comes to your mind first? Is it happiness, satisfaction, a sense of accomplishment? Or is it actually someone else pointing and saying, "Alas, this person must be.... to be so rich!"? If it is the latter, presumably our inner fears are pushing us further and further from getting rich...

Going back to "sounding obstacles," the author cites Bill's example.

Every time Bill wanted to drive, he knew that it was not easy to clear the garage. He might as well die first, but he couldn't refuse his wife, saying that he would never clear the garage.

So when his wife pressured him again to clear the garage, he said, "Great idea! Let's do a garage sale first!" On the surface, it seemed like things were going in the right direction? Bill not only promised to clear the garage, but also added a plan to make money, which is a complete win-win!

But his wife saw Bill's "trick".

Instead of heading straight for the goal, Bill put a "sounding obstacle" for himself.

In simple terms, "Bright Sounding Obstruction" is an attempt to make our goal "more difficult than it really is" so that we don't have to complete it, but on the surface it still appears to be "Bright Crowned". grand".

If you don't write books well and do fantasy basketball e-newsletters, you are hiding in "hidden places"; deciding to write your own book only after you have read the top 100 corporate management books in ancient and modern China and abroad is to create a "brilliant-sounding obstacle" for yourself. ".

⇒ Do you decide that you need a very perfect website structure before you build a website, and you also set up a "sounding obstacle" for yourself?

Bill and his wife have been married for 20 years, and he has never held or even thought about holding a garage sale, nor has he visited anyone else's. In fact, he was forced to come up with this idea because he had no choice but to think, "Have a How many more problems does Garage Auction add to its original goal—to clear a garage that isn’t flooded with clutter? Below are just a few examples mentioned in the book:

• Check the bylaws of the Community Management Committee to make sure there are no weird rules for garage auctions
• Make promotional signs
• Sort things into 3 categories: "sell", "keep" and "discard"
• Determines the price of all items to be sold
• Put price tags on everything
• ...

But the truth is, Bill is not alone, we all have high-sounding obstacles standing in our way.

The author notes in the book that while some high-sounding obstacles are personal, others are common, such as the word "wait until".

The book cites the example of Karen, who did not start blogging until she had confirmed with a copyright attorney.

What? Why? What does a copyright attorney have to do with blogging?

That's because she was worried that when her blog became a big hit, others would steal her content, and she wrote an email to the author expressing her concern that someone would steal her T-shirt, Royalty for adapted graphic novels....

Karen's worries may seem silly, but when do our worries start to be linked to reason?

It doesn't seem like an easy task to find a good copyright lawyer? Great! Before Karen could start writing, she had to save money to pay for her lawyer's fees, which was "splendid-sounding."

The chilling thing is:

"Wait until" often wears the veil of "responsibility", we're not lazy, we just want to make sure everything is considered before we start.

I will not start writing my first article until I have confirmed the relevant legal provisions with a copyright lawyer.

When I figure out how to put everything in each room of my house, I'll tidy up this room.

After I have drawn up my fitness and diet plan for half a year, I will start walking every day.

I won't be able to write the first 100 words until I first determine the big steel for the entire book.

I can't act until I've decided on a perfect goal.

I can't act until I get rid of all distractions.

The author mentioned,

If we remove all distractions before doing things, things will never get done.

There's always the next unexpected thing that pops up in the process to distract us, and our brains involuntarily stay "alert" and avoid "focusing on" something.

Remember what I mentioned earlier?

"Bright-sounding obstacles" have two faces, one is: you have to do something before you can move towards the goal, which is what we talked about in the previous point: "Wait until... and then...". The other face is "if... then...": if you achieve your goals, you will have XX bad consequences, or make you XX (negatively described).

I really want to exercise, but I'm afraid I won't have the money to get dressed...

I also want to eat healthy, but healthy eating is not cheap! I don't want to spend so much money...

I also want to write a book, but if it turns red, it's a little troublesome...

If we only give ourselves a choice between "two extremes", we set ourselves up with a high-sounding "if... then..." obstacle.

Either you don't exercise, or you are so successful at fitness that you are so thin that you have to change all your pants.

Either you don't eat healthy, or you have to eat a healthy lunch box of 150 yuan for every meal.

Either don't write the book, or get all the charts after the book is published.

This sentence at the bottom of the book is very classic to me!

There are only two extremes, no middle ground, and that is the kingdom of high-sounding obstacles.

Remember, what has no grey area, it's black and white? perfectionism.

Perfectionism believes in either being perfect or not. Usually, people are more likely to choose the latter.

Remember these two familiar faces of "Bright-Sounding Obstruction":

#1 Wait until...

#2 If... would...

When you find these two words popping up in your heart, it may be that "perfectionism" has come out to make trouble again...

This time, ignore him!

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