[On the way to career change] It's been a long time | It's been a while

Today, I want to express my experiences and feelings during this period of time. This article focuses on two things: narrowing the target and defeating the brain.

Rediscover yourself, set goals

In fact, I really want to be a "successful" career changer, and then accompany others to spend this period. But I found it impossible to create success in a short period of time. From quitting last year to working from home, and now half working and half resting. I don't even know how to answer others What am I going to do now? What better job have I found? I can only answer what I have done so far and how I feel. Or I'll define myself: I'm in hibernation and now I feel like I'm about to wake up.

I try to play a very planned, step-by-step, dream-building self. Want to prove a model of success in the world. But I'm not that kind of person. I learn project management in pieces and pieces. I can't write homework. I wanted to give up. In the end, I changed my mentality. As far as homework is concerned, I have to be a good member of the team, and now I feel that I can understand the logic and participate in the whole course.

It is better to keep lowering the preset value of your own goals than to abandon them. So comforting myself....

The OKRs learned from the project management should set attainable standards and split detailed tasks. Failing to achieve the goal is because you have set a standard that you cannot achieve, and you must dismantle more detailed items to be more in line with the standard you can achieve.

Overcome the limitations of the brain

Is it possible? It's the question my brain has been asking about a bunch of my thoughts lately.

I don’t want to clock in and go to get off work, I want a job that allows me to develop my experimental personality, I want to work alone and get in touch with the outside world, I can solve problems but let me explore the work of trial and error, and let me arrange my own work hours Just give me a Go for it, don't care what I do. Rather than stacking a pair of stats, developing charisma and taking the initiative to say what you want to happen suits me better.

is it possible? Is there such a job?

The human figure teacher I consulted said: Why is it impossible?

My brain is a lot of worry, worried about my own inadequacies, worried that no one will listen to my speech, worried that others will see that I am inexperienced, worried about my academic qualifications, worried that I am not as useful as a graduate, worried that everything I do now is meaningless, worried that A lifetime of nothing. Worry, worry, worry... endless worry.

I'm starting to feel so sick of my brain! Because the thoughts it brings up are not helping me, they make me more anxious. I want to be free, free from the limitations of my brain. So I started doing it with my heart, and when I really wanted to do something, I would find more reasons to reinforce what I wanted to do, to counter what the brain said: it doesn't meet the cost of time, you're just exhausting yourself , What does this mean, can't do it, don't make money.

The day before yesterday, my mother forgot to bring her mobile phone and ran to Taipei for a party. It was not her request, but I wanted to send my mobile phone to Taipei. My heart emerged: the weather is so good, why not drive to Taipei back and forth? The brain will reply: No one is asking you to do this, are you trying to exhaust yourself by driving back and forth?

When I found out that I wanted to do and my brain had a lot of reasons to limit me, I started to get anxious, a state where I couldn't do anything. I decided I must do it, I will never let the so-called rational thinking bother me again, I will practice breaking through all limitations, and I will tell my brain " Lin Zu scolded that what he wants to do has no reason to be managed ". I suddenly thought of my Taipei friend's birthday that day, and I called another friend who was a pseudo-single parent to ask if he was interested in going to Taipei to see the night view. He even took his 7-year-old child to drive directly to Taipei while waiting for his friend to get off work.

Then drive the night train back to Taichung in the middle of the night.

What did I get in the end? ! My mother was moved to death. A friend said that it was the first time in her life that someone specially came to celebrate her birthday, and then we really just watched the night scene of Taipei on the way back.

Follow your emotions, follow your excitement, and overcome your brain's limiting thoughts. I identified the source of anxiety that was bothering me, the behavior that I wanted to do but was persuaded not to do, that I couldn't move. As a child it may have been the protection of the home that made me want to try but not being able to try and not be supported, and growing up became a limiting circuit in my brain. I just want to be myself. Even doing things that seem pointless now. I told the brain that I had trained enough rational thinking, and that there were a lot of assessment scales inside, and now I had to train myself to do what I wanted to do, to create my own world, not to conform to the outer frame.

I flipped through my diary a few days ago and wrote:

 Those thoughts of "I can't", "I can't do it", and "I won't" are all obstacles that prevent me from starting and progressing to the next stage. It can't be like this anymore, it has to stop.
Just work hard to create, slowly improve, and seek advice.
More and more people are willing to help, and more and more resources have been found and put to good use.
Work hard to pay attention to what you know, work hard to express, and stop attacking yourself.
You will achieve your wish, the job you want will appear, the partner you want will be found, and the life you want will be completed in a lifetime.
You will, as you wish, create. Don't need to think about other things, just live a little more selfish and arrogant.
I love you and I will always be with you by your side.

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