Reading Notes "The Illusion of Friends: 8 Lessons Sociologists Teach You Not to Be Haunted by Relationships"

●I hand over the control of my life to the empty number of "fans" and "friends". I bear such a burden just to get more friends and create more burdens, and I have nothing to say in the whole process.

●After all, others have different personality traits from their own. Being aware of this and truly empathizing with each other can lead to a more intimate relationship.

● Reluctantly to establish friendship, but will hurt each other. If you can't get along, just keep a little distance from the other party and don't have a conflict.

●Recognize the fact that "no one can understand you 100%". It is enough to find "others who are willing to put in the effort to understand themselves".

●Key to happiness: "self-enrichment" and "communication with others".

●8 lessons for a sociologist:

1. One cannot live alone?

It is precisely because there is no problem in living alone that it becomes more and more difficult to establish a relationship. The method of pursuing a relationship must also keep pace with the times.

2. Happiness and pain come from others

Except yourself, everyone else. strangers, and close ones.

3. Why are the entanglements of friends unclear?

From homogeneity to coexistence. Get out of the fantasy of "making a hundred friends".

4. Rule relationship and empathy relationship

Rules exist for freedom. Learning to get along with people who don't get along is very important.

5. Educational fantasy brought about by enthusiasm

"As long as we communicate well, we will surely reach consensus" is also an illusion.

6. Family relationships and growing up

Although the possibilities are infinite, they are still limited.

7. Glass-hearted me and my friends fantasy

Only you will accept you 100%. Step out of small circles and learn how to get along with "others".

8. Change yourself with words

Reading exercises conversational skills. Pure pleasure cannot build the depth of a relationship.

~ Kanno Jin

~ "The Illusion of Friends: 8 Lessons Sociologists Teach You Not to Be Haunted by Relationships"

~ "Friend だ ち Fantasy People and People の つ な が り を え る"

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