[Reading with you late at night] You deserve a life that is more in line with yourself

Be yourself, live with confidence and self-love, and live your true self to create miracles. This sounds unrealistic, but as long as you really work hard to do what you love, you will definitely get results. Also because it is something that I love, no matter how many difficulties I face, I can always face it head-on. Just such a hard-working figure can be beautiful.

know yourself

We first understand ourselves, a thing we think we can do. Now take an A4 piece of paper and start trying to list the following things. If you are afraid that you will be affected by reality, let’s assume that you are a child who can do whatever you want:

1/ like, hate
2/ want to do, do not want to do
3/ People who long for, people who don't like
4/ Passionate about things, uninteresting things
5/ Jobs that make you comfortable, jobs that make you absolutely uncomfortable
6/ What you are good at, your weakness

Did you find yourself writing something you didn't normally think about?

At the same time, we need to understand our suitable image modeling, brand marketing techniques and personal brand positioning. In addition to relying on your own hard thinking, you can also refer to the people you look forward to, or ask the opinions of those around you. These points of view will be more objective than distressing yourself, and they will give you new perspectives.

meet your needs

Then there is the need to meet your own needs. If the needs of work life are not met and have been suppressed, it is easy to make people feel dissatisfied with the current situation. But in fact, as long as you boldly try to ask for negotiation, many can be satisfied. This is how you can maximize your effectiveness. Knowing yourself step by step and clarifying your needs can solve many problems.

The author gave an example that she had a friend who wanted to take three days off a week, so she mustered up the courage to discuss the possibility with the company. Unexpectedly, she actually succeeded in fighting for it, getting more personal time with a small salary reduction, making life better and giving herself more time to seek possibilities. So if you don't try to speak, you won't know the result. As long as you know your own needs and bottom line, go to the other party to discuss.

I can also be welcomed if I live my life

When you get to know yourself successfully, the problems affecting work efficiency are solved, and we start to inject our own essence into our work/side hustle. Only by showing our true selves with confidence can we live freely and live out our own style of life.

But what if I don't have such self-confidence? Let's take a look at the children. They like to look in the mirror and say that they are princesses, and they like the way they are. Since when did we stop doing this? As we become more and more critical of ourselves, our self-confidence naturally plummets. So it's time to wake up the little princess in your heart, praise and encourage yourself in the mirror every day, and be capricious when you can. If you don't do well, you should accept it with a smile, and then think of ways to improve it. Confidence can be built step by step.

After that, we come to find a place that suits us. Trying hard in the wrong place will only make us tired physically and mentally. Now let's take out the second A4 piece of paper and start listing the groups we belong to. Companies, different circles of friends, families, various interest groups, etc. Then, circle the groups that make you feel like you can shine, and think about what qualities those groups have in common? The places with those qualities are the best places for you to work hard. Understand that there are companies and even countries that have that trait, and make a plan to get there step by step.

Then improve your social skills and femininity. Just do these three things:

1/ smile

It is often said that "a smile is the most beautiful makeup", so girls should show more smiles. Those who laugh more can bring good luck to themselves.

2/ Show it fully when you are happy

Although we have been taught to be frugal since we were young, at work, in relationships, and in getting along with friends, whenever we feel happy, let us show it frankly. Everyone likes people who are full of positive energy at the right time, and it is okay to exaggerate a little.

3/ Please express your gratitude

Do you feel pretentious? Then imagine, if you help someone accomplish something, you will think about how the other person responds. Thank you with a cold face or even thank you; or thank you happily with a smile? It should be the latter, so why not do it yourself. You said that there will always be people who don't like it, please, people can't be born to satisfy everyone. If we want to satisfy everyone, we will become different in appearance, which has already deviated from the principle that we should live out ourselves.

Then we set our own comfortable position. When you read, you may position yourself as the pistachio in your class, or as an art specialist or something. Come to now, if this position is no longer suitable for you, replace it. As long as the new position is a sign of your nature, no painful pretense is needed.

Finally, please don't be afraid of failure. Cast a net to try all the right opportunities, absorb experience when you fail, and develop well when you can. Only in this way can you open up a wider network of people and find more development directions for yourself.

Tips for becoming popular

1/ Ability to compliment the other person naturally and show your interest

Everyone wants to make a good impression when they meet someone for the first time. After both parties introduce themselves, they can naturally compliment each other's clothes, and show interest in each other by asking each other's work questions. In this way, you can make an impression on the other person's mind, and over time, you can accumulate contacts and become a popular person.

2/ Good at listening

Being good at listening is definitely something that all books that teach communication are mentioned, but "conversation is like a game of pitching" is also the point. Just one person talking nonstop can create a bad impression by stalling the conversation and making you wonder if you're listening. In addition to the usual regular nods, short-sentence questions or approval, we keep smiling. No one wants to gossip with someone with a straight face like an examiner.

3/ Look at your smile objectively

Take a selfie of the front and side of your smile. If you have makeup, you should take a group photo together with your usual makeup. Then carefully check if there is any room for improvement, and create your own perfect smile for yourself

4/ Expand your network for others, benefit others and yourself

Creating opportunities for different people to meet and collaborate can bring you a solid network of relationships. This is also mentioned many times in He Zewen's "Personal Brand". When the cycle of mutual introduction occurs, it can expand the circle geometrically and create opportunities for itself.

5/ Build your visual keywords

Humans are creatures who recognize things with their eyes, and a large part of their communication is dominated by vision. In this case we want to establish good and appropriate visual keywords for ourselves. Your clothing style, body language, posture, etc. are related to it. Find the visual keywords of the person you're looking for, and then start imitating it. Someday it will internalize and form your unique keywords.

I hope it can help you live your true self and gain a better life.

The above is compiled from "「売れるPrivate" になる Method", the translation may be slightly different from the original text