An extreme enthusiast talks about the death of a girl in a wingsuit flight.

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man playing extreme sports

Is it really "Irresponsible for life"?

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Today, I saw the number one topic on the Zhihu Hot List:

➢ How do you view the death of a female college student flying in a wingsuit?

To be honest, I read some high praise comments, and some answers really left me speechless, such as:

Others commented: Motivation to play, to have fun, to seek excitement, to show off... no more.

To sum up, the most criticized and controversial are the following two points:

1. Only rich people can afford extreme sports.

2. There is a problem with the values of girls.

As an extreme enthusiast, I would like to share with you my views on the above two points. (Welcome to bullies to bully me from different angles)

01

I wrote an article 3 years ago - What does motorcycle riding mean to you? " . I was 23 when I wrote this article, just over a year after graduating, and I was 22 when I got into and started motorcycles.

In this article, I have clearly expressed why I am obsessed with motorcycles, not as a simple means of transportation, but as my precious comrades-in-arms.

I enjoy the feeling of the wind blowing away all the irritability and huge pressure after riding the motorcycle. I enjoy the feeling that my mood becomes suddenly open, and the freedom and sensory experience is infinitely enlarged.

We've all dreamed of flying, and when you ride a motorcycle, you're flying. You're heading for the vast expanse, the moment you twist the throttle.

In that article, I shared a friend of mine, kyte: he is a mixed American and Japanese, and an extreme sports enthusiast - rock climbing, motorcycles, skateboarding, and free diving are all things he loves and is good at.

The video can be seen here 👉h ttps://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/TG7uhM9wVhnV_qkqoc9u2w

At the time, I mentioned in this motorcycle riding article that my next goal was to learn freediving , which I achieved 2 years ago. I learned and practiced a lot about freediving and passed the SSI International Freediving License.

If according to the answer, "only rich people can afford extreme sports" , I am obviously not rich. Because that would be a newcomer in the workplace who just graduated, but my consumption outlook is completely linked to my values.

When other girls save money to buy tens of thousands of babies and spend the money on skin care products, cosmetics, clothes and shoes, I choose to spend all my savings on my hobbies, whether it is traveling or motorcycles. Or free diving.

Because compared with the pleasure and value of an expensive luxury bag, it is far inferior to me exploring the "unknown".

So for the first point, I hope to correct everyone's misunderstanding. Even if you are just an ordinary person, you can still afford to play, but the point of playing is not to satisfy you or show off, but to focus on what your interests and love are.

If it's just to show off, isn't it fragrant to buy a LV or Chanel that costs tens of thousands of dollars? But people who have really played motorcycles will know clearly that if you don’t buy a particularly expensive motorcycle, such as the Ninja Kawasaki Xiaonin, which is already considered a relatively good car, the price may not be worth a limited edition small sachet. Even with a lower budget, Aprilia GPR125 or Honda's motorcycles cost more than 10,000 yuan, which can be enough for you to use for a long time.

If you have to make a horizontal comparison like this, then in my eyes, a girl who spends tens of thousands of yuan to buy a bag is stupid, but everyone knows that there are always people who are crowding the subway with LV on their backs. ? Happy to fly! Maybe the girls who collect bags still think that there is something wrong with me, but I also don't despise the girls who carry tens of thousands of bags and squeeze the subway.

Why? It's a person's choice and way of life. Maybe the other party really likes the bag, and can even talk to you about the material, style, and design of the bag. What is there to criticize the other party's love?

There are always people who want to show off their wealth, and there are always people who really love it from the heart. So don't maliciously speculate on the actions and motives behind someone you don't understand.

Then, I will continue to talk with you about the second question: Are there any problems with the values of girls?

02

The girl once said: do not regret, live for yourself.

Many people commented: This girl is not free and easy, but a mentally retarded value, and is not responsible for her own life at all.

I shared this news with my boyfriend, and he directly sent a few voices and said to me:

"From the outside, it's scary that she died of extreme sports, but from the inside, you're dying because of what you love the most. It's actually a good way to die. They'd rather do what their heart desires, Instead of watching TV on the couch. They would rather die of what they love than die of cancer, disease.

So some people will say they are stupid because they do too many things that risk death, but from an extreme sportsman's point of view, they will think these people are stupid because these people have never really lived and just waited He was killed by natural death when he was seventy or eighty years old.

So I don't feel sad even though she died, for her, she died for what she loved, That's good for her.

If you told me you had to choose between dying of cancer, disease, coronavirus...or rock climbing, racing accidents, I would obviously choose the latter. Plus, compared to getting the virus, your family doesn't have to bear the lengthy costs and psychological pain because it happens instantly. "

My boyfriend, like me, is also an extreme sports enthusiast. At that time, we did 36 love questions together (reply "36" in the background), and one of the questions asked:

Do you have a hunch about how you will die?

His answer to me directly read: Extreme sport accident/cancer (extreme sport accident/cancer) Then he added to me that he thought he might die while racing or rock climbing.

My answer to him was: I thought I might die on a motorcycle or freediving.

We both giggled, but does that mean we're not responsible for our lives, stupid death squads?

03

Why do not climb mountains in the city, but have to climb Mount Everest? Are those thousands of white bones buried on Mount Everest not enough?

Why not paddle in a gentle river instead of paddling in a turbulent waterfall?

Why don't you stay on the good land and go diving? Why not play scuba diving and go freediving?

Why would anyone want to engage in an activity that is completely determined by its high level of perceived risk? What motivates this behavior?

Each sport has its own characteristics behind it.

Someone once asked me, why did I choose freediving? This is the answer I gave at the time:

Because in my eyes, the world is made up of 70% water (the ocean), that is another world, diving can let me enter a hidden world, when I go back to the ocean, I can't hear the noise and noise of the real world, In the silent world, I can seriously hear my own voice and feel my heart, and the underwater world brings me more courage and strength to go beyond my limits.

I want to see another world and imagine that the first human form is formed in the water of the embryo, which sometimes brings me peace and security.

The response to me was: This is the best description of freediving I've ever heard, imagine the combination of zero gravity and color that you can't see anywhere.

When I was taking freediving lessons, my instructor emphasized one thing to us countless times:

No matter how experienced and perfect you are, you must not dive alone, you must have a companion to follow. At that time, she told us a lot of cases of accidental deaths in freediving, almost all accidents were caused by being too confident in her skills and experience and acting alone.

So what really kills you in extreme sports is your mindset, because extreme sports require extreme preparation and extreme precautions.

04

Some foreign psychology experts specialize in studying the motivation of extreme sports enthusiasts, and recommend a book: "Extreme - Why Some People Thrive in Extremes".

If you really want to understand the psychology and motivation behind these people, you might as well read it, it is much better than some of the messy answers in Zhihu.

Written from a psychological and behavioral perspective, this book covers the character traits and motivations of people who choose to spend time in extreme environments, the psychological and physical effects of the environment on them, and what it takes to succeed in those environments Individual and collective attributes. The book gives a lot of factual cases to help supplement and testify some of his points.

If you look at some related reports on extreme athletes, you will find that in the reports, many extreme athletes say:

They're looking for a sprint, they're looking for the feel of their life. This feeling cannot be replicated by any other activity, and for many, it is a real feeling.

The emotion that adrenaline produces is an enhanced sense of survival, with all your senses sharpened, a fight-or-flight response. They either live or die. That's what they're playing with, and it's a very primitive thing.

And for extreme athletes, hitting the same goal over and over again doesn't bring the same excitement as the first time, so they want to push the envelope and work toward the next big goal, which is the law of diminishing returns.

Take freediving as an example, people who are freediving without an oxygen tank are always pushing more and more into the ocean in one breath and they were never satisfied with their last dive.

Every time they succeed, they want to push themselves further. Any good athlete tends to do this, but it's especially true in extreme sports. Once they get something done, they will start to lose their rush, so they have to push themselves harder and raise the bar a bit.

I take myself as an example. When I started freediving, my breath-holding record could only reach 50s. Later, in a lot of practice, my diving time was refreshed again and again. Every time I broke the record, it would bring me a huge The sense of satisfaction and achievement made me clearly aware of my abilities and limits.

My current record is 2 minutes and 57 seconds . I will continue to challenge and try to refresh this record. However, before I started freediving, I never imagined that my potential was so great. Undoubtedly, this extreme sport has brought me great strength and courage to face the unknown and break through myself.

Everyone's definition and understanding of "risk" is different

If you define risk as anything with an uncertain outcome , then I would definitely take it, however, I don't think I have a desire to die, and I'm not going out to kill myself.

I usually define it as the exploration of the unknown, a sense of curiosity and happiness that arises from exploration. I guess I'm more looking for the satisfaction that comes with having something that I love and having accomplished something, it's not just adrenaline rush, it's a personal thing.

So, what does extreme sports bring to people?

At least it gives me the motivation to set new goals and overcome them, it helps me overcome my fears and explore my limits, it allows me to find my limits, to move forward and take risks.

With constant practice, I feel my body energized and energized, and it even allows me to understand myself better and find a deep sense of well-being.

That's how I play the sport.

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