When you reach 30 years old, will your life get better?

Whether it was the various chicken soup articles on social platforms or the TV series that made me too addicted, in short, when I was young, I always thought that 30 years old was a "hurdle". It is a time that is full of magic and will definitely change the direction of your life. She is far away from me, but once I get over it, she will become a mature and stable heroine with a successful career and a good understanding of the world.

When I was 26-28 years old, my 30-year-old "alarm clock" started to trouble me, and I felt more and more urgent that the time was approaching. So, I asked my friends who are a little older than me and have passed the 30-year-old mark. Some friends say that turning 30 is a disaster, and there will be many difficulties, but after getting through this difficulty, you will be able to achieve enlightenment (which is quite sensational). Another friend said that actually it doesn’t matter if you are past 30, it’s just that you are getting older year after year.

Late last year, I celebrated my 30th birthday. The day went by in a perfunctory manner, with no big events and no birthday cake. In short, there is really no sense of ceremony. I really don’t like too much ritual. After this day, I have a 30-year-old head on my head, and it seems that I am still a child who has not grown up. I will be angry for a long time because of other people's rudeness, and will continue to be troubled by the smallest things. Yes, I am still easily moody, sad, and irritable. He really doesn't look like a 30-year-old at all. Compared with the 18-year-old me, I have not made any progress. At least when you are 18 years old, you have unrealistic ideals about the future and a face full of vitality.

Looking at the posts shared on the Internet, the titles are often "Saving 1 million at the age of 30, I learned to enjoy life", "A must-see for counterattacks, understand these 6 life principles after you turn 30", "Drop everything and restart your life at the age of 30" ", and "No one told me that I would be so happy at 30 years old." I can’t help but sigh, everyone is so awesome. They have achieved financial and personal independence at the age of 30, and have achieved good results in marriage and career. Has my "30-year-old magic" expired?

So last year I decided to move to Sydney from Shanghai, where I had lived for six years. I thought it would be better to make a big breakthrough when I turn 30. Moving from city to city sounds like a movement of physical space accompanied by a longing for a new life. In fact, it is full of the discomfort of non-English speaking immigrants, the difficulty of finding a job again, and the loneliness of having no friends. This feeling reminds me of seven years ago, when I was 23 years old and came to Shanghai alone with a suitcase. From the beginning, I was defrauded of money by my classmates when I was unfamiliar with the place, and then I gradually found a job, rented an apartment, and finally settled down. I think, now it will be a new upgrade to fight monsters.

Maybe there has never been a 30-year-old legend. There wasn’t a moment of epiphany about growing up.

After I turned thirty, my illusion that everything would get better was shattered. I didn’t realize what I imagined I would be like when I was 30.

What age should you do? Such shackles are like adding a limited date to the fruit, but who knows that the ripening season will not be delayed?